Pretty ticked off. Don't know if I should be?

[Judy]

Sounds to me like you and DH have your heads pretty well screwed on straight. You certainly have nothing to feel guilty about. As other posters have said, you do these people no favors by enabling them. It is refreshing that DH is wise enough to "just say no." If anything, I agree, even more "no's" might be in order in the future.

 

[saddina]

OK Saddina - I didn't say ALL 35 & under

. You're on the right track and you'll do fine. You'll also attract that type of person to your life because you value $ and obviously understand the importance of it!

Good luck and WAY TO GO!!!

Oh, no problem dear, it seems people understand how money works less each year. I've had the displeasure of burying a husband, and I did take time from work to deal with that, but the insurance paid the bills and gave me that needed time. I paid several months of rent and such and cocooned for a few weeks (did get a bad haircut in there).

 

[HennysMom]

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YEP!! I'm with you 110% - kids these days think they are entitled to everything.. no matter what age they are.

Time to show those kids the door...and that you and DH are not ATM machines. Sorry, that should have been done long ago. You need to think of yourselves now and your lives, not theirs.

 

[gritsar]

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YEP!! I'm with you 110% - kids these days think they are entitled to everything.. no matter what age they are.

Time to show those kids the door...and that you and DH are not ATM machines. Sorry, that should have been done long ago. You need to think of yourselves now and your lives, not theirs.

I'm with you 110% too. Unfortunately for my DH these girls trained him early and old habits are hard to break. He's working on it. He took his first vacation EVER after we were together. Drives the girls crazy when we do something for ourselves.

 

[MagsC]

Ack.

This reminds me of my signifigant others daughters. He is always doing for them and bailing them out of something.
The latest was bringing first one daughter home from their trip to Europe because she "wasnt getting along with her sister". Then a few days later paying for the second daughters airplane ride home because she blew all the money she had...its an ongoing scenario.
You are right, your DH needs to set boundaries on this or it will go on forever.

 

[HennysMom]

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YEP!! I'm with you 110% - kids these days think they are entitled to everything.. no matter what age they are.

Time to show those kids the door...and that you and DH are not ATM machines. Sorry, that should have been done long ago. You need to think of yourselves now and your lives, not theirs.

I'm with you 110% too. Unfortunately for my DH these girls trained him early and old habits are hard to break. He's working on it. He took his first vacation EVER after we were together. Drives the girls crazy when we do something for ourselves.

hey grit..

when things get really bad..just remember....

"just keep swimming just keep swimming..."

 

[thechickenchick]

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I'm with you 110% too. Unfortunately for my DH these girls trained him early and old habits are hard to break. He's working on it. He took his first vacation EVER after we were together. Drives the girls crazy when we do something for ourselves.

hey grit..

when things get really bad..just remember....

"just keep swimming just keep swimming..."

 

[thechickenchick]

gritsar I am so sorry you are having to deal with this baloney! It sounds like you both have these girls figured out and are making the right choices, but they have put you in a darn sticky spot!! No matter what is done or said when they don't get what they want they will blame you. So you just stick to your decisions and move forward. They will give up eventually.....

I think part of the problem is both them and their Mom can't stand seeing him so happy. You are newly weds with a new puppy and new kitty not to mention a whole new life

! Maybe they are thinking they can "cash in" on his great mood? Shame on them.

Maybe they got the impression, possibly from their Mom that you have extra $.


Remember, just say NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are in my thoughts.

 

[briana1975]

I so get what you are say. All I can tell you is this

. Good luck and doesn't it feel nice to be able to let it all out to us on BYC. Sometimes just typing it all out for someone elst to read is the best therapy.

 

[gritsar]

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You are absolutely right! I have to get it out or explode.
But wait! The story gets better. DH met up with DD#1 the other night while he was working. He tells me later that he insisted that she take $25. He said he felt bad cuz he had put out so much $$$ for her sister's move.
Okay, so twenty-five bucks. She did find a job working at a convenience store, so maybe she'll use it to buy herself some sodas or lunch, right? NOT!
They both come for a visit yesterday and DD #1 has a six pack of beer with her. I'm not sure how much a six pack costs; we rarely drink. What I do know is that we live in a dry county. She had to drive over the state line to get it!!!