privacy during labor

[pokey]

ok, our daughter is due in july. when i go into labor, i don't want to call ANYONE right off the bat. this includes my mom and my mil.i just want a little time before there are a bunch of people up at the hospital driving me crazy while i am in labor. dh is upset because he wants to start telling everybody . am i wrong? i am a private person,and especially when you are feeling pain , exhaustion and what was i thinking??????!!do you really want all those people up there? i just want a little peace and quiet before hand, then when its close call my mom and his. to me its just important for it to be me my dh and the baby. ps... i love my mom and ml is great.......

 

[FrenchHen]

Your strategy is good because some folks have several false starts. It's your first, follow your gut. When your husband has a kidney stone, you can call everyone to the hospital and let them help him breathe.

 

[Whispering Winds]

I was the same way, thought it was between my hubby and myself. Of course when I had my babies, youngest one is going to be 30 this year, it was different and they really discouraged a bunch of people being there . . .nowadays its grand central station and the more the merrier . . .but it should be your call . . .your hubby will get the chance to make the call soon enough!!! Good luck!!!!

 

[CoopCrazy]

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[Farmer Kitty]

With our first DD we didn't call anyone until after she was born.

With the second one I called my folks to babysit our first. No one else was called until after DD #2 was born.

I too, do not understand why anyone would want a whole bunch of people at such an intimate time. DH and the hospital staff were more than enough.

Tell DH that if he wants to give birth your daughter then he can call whoever he wants but, until he can figure out how to pull that one off, to respect your wishes. He can make the calls after the baby has arrived.

 

[Whispering Winds]

You guys crack me up!!!

 

[SophieLain127]

I say you are right. If he is upset that they are not "invited" then say they can be there but only in the waiting room. Let him know and them that it may be a long wait and they must stay in the waiting room and only when you are moved to recovery then would you want them to come in and visist. Let him know that these are the first moments that you two will have with your baby and you want them to be as special as possible. It will be hectic enough without everyone crying and making noise. If you think he will crack and let one or two of them in then tell your doctor your plan the hospital will tell them everytime to go back to the waiting room. Also let you mother and MIL know I'm sure they will understand they might be kind of upset but they will understand. Good luck and have fun you'll never get those moments back make them as special as possible.

 

[Shanay235]

You're the one thats going to be in labor, not the rest of the family or friends. Do what makes you comfortable and don't worry about what everyone else wants.
I'm the same way, wanted the privacy. Just hope the doctor doesn't show up with a bunch of student nurses or interns for the learning experience. I wasn't too pleased when they did this to me. Didn't last long though, I voiced my opinion rather sternly and they left.

 

[Shanay235]

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Yes, see how he would like it if the shoe were on the other foot.

 

[michelle1017]

I absolutely agree with Farmer Kitty and French Hen!