Question of the Day - Saturday, July 12th, 2025

[notabitail]

Also IDK if y'all just can't see pfps or something but I deliberately left mine blank because I didn't want to completely dupe everyone but apparently that's not enough

You missed the time everyone copied my PFP. I kept thinking things someone else said were things I said for a minute.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

You can love somebody and not marry them. You can also marry someone you don't love. In fact, the latter has been the case for most of the world's history, as arranged marriages were the norm for many cultures and may even still be.

Anyway, the Q of the day did not mention marriage nor the length or success of the marriage. Only love. We've gotten a bit far afield from that. Do you believe in LOVE at first sight?

 

[5Australorpasaures]

I don't agree that one "loves" a plant. Or a car, or dress, or house etc. You may really like it, want it, but I believe it demeans the meaning of the word Love.

When I was teaching catechism, the children and I talked about love, real meaning of love. I asked them: Do you really love your friend's new bike? Do you really love your friend's new dress? Do you really love candy? Things along those lines, many material things. They, in the second grade, came up with they didn't love them but really really liked them. I asked who they really love. They said their parents, Jesus, grandparents and I think there was a guardian angel in there.

A project for the year was for us to fraternally correct each other, including me the teacher, when we used the word love instead of like and when we used the word hate. It was a good project, they did well and we all learned. I wanted them to learn/understand how special love truly is for us. (I did not go into marketing and how it manipulates but kept it simple.) I added Sacred Scripture texts, including parables, again trying to keep it simple yet profound.

Love is just another word thrown around too loosely and over time is just another disguise for envy/greed/gluttony. Ponder on that

 

[nuthatched]

No. I do that offline.

Yall have the same name....unless it's Mooney or keeks

 

[NotabitaiI]

You missed the time everyone copied my PFP. I kept thinking things someone else said were things I said for a minute.

Sooooo there's also a type of person who doesn't even read the names?

 

[C Siena]

Love is just another word thrown around too loosely and over time is just another disguise for envy/greed/gluttony. Ponder on that

I agree is thrown/used way too loosely, as you can tell from my post, hence the project for the class and me for my life.

I don't need to ponder it anymore as I realize that it can mean your three examples but it is also misused for like. Envy is a strong word if one knows it's meaning. I'm not sure many know/understand that it means that one who is envious is resentful towards the one who has what they want. Discontent because they do not have "it", the object of the envy. There are a few more definitions but they are all negative. Another misused word.

 

[CatLoverLu]

You can feel this for someone who is not good for you, that is why I would not marry For Love Alone.
All I am saying is that I would only marry someone if we shared faith, values, and life goals, not just love, but love would of course be necessary. I'm also not saying anyone who married for love is wrong, I'm just saying that's not a choice I would (in my right mind) make.

Amen

 

[tripletfeb]

Are compatibility and mutual respect for each other along with being in love not good reasons to get married?

Of course. That is a given, it's called love

 

[tripletfeb]

Well sure because that includes "being in love".
Compatibility and mutual respect without love wouldn't be imo.

This

No, only love. Don't bother marrying someone (who you love) for good and proper reasons, marry a psychopathic wife beater, love alone is enough

It could be said that if you don't have those couple of things, as well as a few more, than it isn't love, but only infatuation. That is the part you two may not be getting with this love thing.

That doesn't mean that people that are truly in love don't end up growing apart for several different reasons, because it can, and does, happen.

And, so, by saying that, I will also say there is no such thing as love at first sight. Or, at least in the kind of love for people to form a marriage. That would be an attraction, an infatuation, or something along those lines that could very will grow into love. But, very well could not.

The only love at first sight would be with parents and their children. That love at first sight is real, I promise you that. It is similar to the love you could feel for your significate other, but not exactly the same.

Also, love at first sight could be with things. I mean you may love a plant for example upon seeing it, but you don't have to respect it. All it has to do is look pretty or smell good. But, not the same kind of love either.

There are different kinds of love that you will realize once you have experienced them.

Edit to add: When you feel in your heart that you will surely die for this person to protect them, to keep them safe, then you have truly experienced love for a person.

And this

You still don't get it. Without those things it really isn't love. So, if you are in love with them, then, you have those other things. Without them it is not love. Think about it. What is the love you have based on if you don't have those things? It would just be an attraction or infatuation or something along those lines and not love. There is a difference.

And this I like you. You seem smart

 

[tripletfeb]

This is all to say that while I love my husband, and am in love with him, we can still argue, get upset with each other. Being in love doesn't mean blindly following along and going against what you want or believe. It means compromise and patience, also. Love is vast and complex, different for every person