Pick your disagreements, not battles for a long long time, for me. Really since I began to pray, Lord, make me a better wife. Instead of, Lord, make him a better husband. That took God to change my heart.This is all to say that while I love my husband, and am in love with him, we can still argue, get upset with each other. Being in love doesn't mean blindly following along and going against what you want or believe. It means compromise and patience, also. Love is vast and complex, different for every person
It was about 4.75 years after our marriage when I became a Christian. Change of perspective and my attitude.