ok here is my drama So last night 15 yr old DD had a band concert-we go-she takes off-I sit and wait. Well the place filled up very quickly-all the kids who were in the band had to wait in the back of auditorium with other parents-not me I was in front: So my DD was with 5-6 of her friends. Now mind you her friends can be VERY obnoxious-They were all sitting watching the chorus sing-a woman in front of her turned around and yelled at her to be quiet and to knock off their crap. So being raised the way she was- she did just that-and tried to tell her friends multiple times to do the same because the lady that yelled at them "is a powerful mom" in her words. Some of her friends listened and wised up some of Her friends payed no attention to her and played loud music on their ipods-laughed very loud and were just plain rude. My DD left and went to the back of the band room to wait instead. So this is all going down without my knowledge. An hour or two go by DD is done-but there is still an hour left to the concert which we decided not to stay for -as we are leaving this sawed off short woman is glaring and I do mean glaring at my daughter the whole time-I kept looking around thinking she must be looking at someone else. NOPE-it was meant for my daughter. ( now mind you DD is a straight A student scared of her own shadow and is very shy) DD walkes outside the doors to leave and this woman harrassed her the whole time out the door-making comments about her behavior etc...doesnt say a word to me just my 15 yr old CHILD. I asked DD what the heck was that about and she told me immediatly how this went down and who did what with huge croc tears in her eyes-well Momma bear got her fur up and charged back inside-the lady saw me coming and her Dh did too and he stood behind her-I said "Excuse me, do you have a problem with my DD?" her: YES I DO! shes disrespectful-rude-etc etc... me: You have got to be kidding me lady?-she's rude and disrespectful? When you yourself acted like a child harassing her just now walking out the door-I was right behind her and you knew it-you couldnt have approached me in a an adult fasion and ask to speak to me about my childs behavior? you had to act like a child yourself!--at this point my loud voice was getting noticed and I was asked to be quiet-umm noooooooo Im revved up now sister! I went on to say that the girls she was speaking about were the offenders not my Daughter as she wasn't even there for the most part-she left to avoid issues!!!!- Me : did you turn around and tell my DD and the rest to be quiet? Her: YES I DID and they didnt me: did you not notice my DD left to go on stage for over an hour while the other girls stayed behind you? Her: no-but thats not the point me: Im not done asking you questions yet-Did you see my DD with an Ipod? Her: NO-but thats not the point Me: it sure as he$$ is she didnt bring hers-so the loud music you heard was not from her..My DD was raised in a manor that when she is told something from an adult she better dang well listen to them the first time-and she did and tried to stop them from being idots-they are after all CHILDREN. She couldnt so she left before she got into trouble for fear of you and your nastiness. Now My dd is outside crying because of what you just did to her for no reason except you were wrong and childish in the manor you handled this situation ( now the crowd of parents are forming and slowing pushing me outside-in a nice way-telling me to calm down). Me: Im not going anywhere until she apologizes to my DD- Her: like he$$ Im apologizing ( people wispering to me -"do you know who that woman is and her influences?" Me outloud: "I dont give a flying SH$t who you are you will not bully my DD into being afraid of anything-that is my job if it needs to be done." the next time we have a function due to our children having to be together-you better make for darn sure you have proof of what the situation is before you open your mouth and bad mouth my DD.. Her: you just made a bad mistake talking to me like this me: you just made a big mistake threatening me u BBBBBBBBB. ' In the mean time her Dh just stood there taking orders and such from her-shes snapping her puggy fingers left and right in his face --he tried to talk to me and I put up my hand and said to him "You know what? you havent said a word this whole time to shut your wife up from harrassing a child-so stay out of it now-your spineless and I can see who wears the pants-stay where you belong and zip up. I did some investigating today about all the girls in the back and I found out it wasnt even the 3 girls she was accusing with my DD!!! Its was 3 more girls behind them!!! They had the ipods and the mouths running-but our pack of girls got the brunt of it all and got screamed at not the rightful rotten kids! Im embarrassed and ashamed at my behavior-I truly am I know my conscience will kick in and I will apologize because that's my Christian side urging me to do the right thing-eventually but OMG I was freaking out the whole way home!!! be honest what do you think? how would you have reacted?