Rant!!!! Another Mother Yelling And Dissing My Kid!!!!

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  1. sonew123

    sonew123 Poultry Snuggie

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    ok here is my drama

    So last night 15 yr old DD had a band concert-we go-she takes off-I sit and wait. Well the place filled up very quickly-all the kids who were in the band had to wait in the back of auditorium with other parents-not me I was in front:

    So my DD was with 5-6 of her friends. Now mind you her friends can be VERY obnoxious-They were all sitting watching the chorus sing-a woman in front of her turned around and yelled at her to be quiet and to knock off their crap. So being raised the way she was- she did just that-and tried to tell her friends multiple times to do the same because the lady that yelled at them "is a powerful mom" in her words. Some of her friends listened and wised up some of Her friends payed no attention to her and played loud music on their ipods-laughed very loud and were just plain rude. My DD left and went to the back of the band room to wait instead. So this is all going down without my knowledge. An hour or two go by DD is done-but there is still an hour left to the concert which we decided not to stay for -as we are leaving this sawed off short woman is glaring and I do mean glaring at my daughter the whole time-I kept looking around thinking she must be looking at someone else. NOPE-it was meant for my daughter. ( now mind you DD is a straight A student scared of her own shadow and is very shy) DD walkes outside the doors to leave and this woman harrassed her the whole time out the door-making comments about her behavior etc...doesnt say a word to me just my 15 yr old CHILD. I asked DD what the heck was that about and she told me immediatly how this went down and who did what with huge croc tears in her eyes-well Momma bear got her fur up and charged back inside-the lady saw me coming and her Dh did too and he stood behind her-I said "Excuse me, do you have a problem with my DD?"
    her: YES I DO! shes disrespectful-rude-etc etc...
    me: You have got to be kidding me lady?-she's rude and disrespectful? When you yourself acted like a child harassing her just now walking out the door-I was right behind her and you knew it-you couldnt have approached me in a an adult fasion and ask to speak to me about my childs behavior? you had to act like a child yourself!--at this point my loud voice was getting noticed and I was asked to be quiet-umm noooooooo Im revved up now sister! I went on to say that the girls she was speaking about were the offenders not my Daughter as she wasn't even there for the most part-she left to avoid issues!!!!-
    Me : did you turn around and tell my DD and the rest to be quiet?
    Her: YES I DID and they didnt
    me: did you not notice my DD left to go on stage for over an hour while the other girls stayed behind you?
    Her: no-but thats not the point
    me: Im not done asking you questions yet-Did you see my DD with an Ipod?
    Her: NO-but thats not the point
    Me: it sure as he$$ is she didnt bring hers-so the loud music you heard was not from her..My DD was raised in a manor that when she is told something from an adult she better dang well listen to them the first time-and she did and tried to stop them from being idots-they are after all CHILDREN. She couldnt so she left before she got into trouble for fear of you and your nastiness. Now My dd is outside crying because of what you just did to her for no reason except you were wrong and childish in the manor you handled this situation ( now the crowd of parents are forming and slowing pushing me outside-in a nice way-telling me to calm down).
    Me: Im not going anywhere until she apologizes to my DD-
    Her: like he$$ Im apologizing ( people wispering to me -"do you know who that woman is and her influences?"
    Me outloud: "I dont give a flying SH$t who you are you will not bully my DD into being afraid of anything-that is my job if it needs to be done." the next time we have a function due to our children having to be together-you better make for darn sure you have proof of what the situation is before you open your mouth and bad mouth my DD..
    Her: you just made a bad mistake talking to me like this
    me: you just made a big mistake threatening me u BBBBBBBBB.
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    In the mean time her Dh just stood there taking orders and such from her-shes snapping her puggy fingers left and right in his face --he tried to talk to me and I put up my hand and said to him "You know what? you havent said a word this whole time to shut your wife up from harrassing a child-so stay out of it now-your spineless and I can see who wears the pants-stay where you belong and zip up.

    I did some investigating today about all the girls in the back and I found out it wasnt even the 3 girls she was accusing with my DD!!! Its was 3 more girls behind them!!! They had the ipods and the mouths running-but our pack of girls got the brunt of it all and got screamed at not the rightful rotten kids!

    Im embarrassed and ashamed at my behavior-I truly am I know my conscience will kick in and I will apologize because that's my Christian side urging me to do the right thing-eventually but OMG I was freaking out the whole way home!!!

    be honest what do you think? how would you have reacted?
     
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  2. Rozzie

    Rozzie Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 14, 2010
    You did the right thing. This was a so-called adult acting in an abusive manner toward a child. She needed to be called on it. Child abuse comes in many forms & her behavior was emotionally abusive. Good for you in reacting to it. Your daughter NEEDED her mother to stand up for her.
     
  3. Sjisty

    Sjisty Scribe of Brahmalot

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    I am a very protective mother hen to my children, too. If anyone has a problem with my child, they can come to me and discuss it rationally or not at all! I would have done the same thing.
     
  4. ChickieBooBoo

    ChickieBooBoo Cold Canadian Chick

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    Good job! [​IMG]
     
  5. mame1616

    mame1616 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:Well, who is she? The governor? What's she gonna do? Bar you from the country club? That's the problem these day:thumbsups - everyone too afraid to say anything to anyone else, except the nasty people. They say whatever they want and we just take it! Don't you dare apologize! You go girl!
     
  6. acid_chipmunk

    acid_chipmunk Polish Silkies d'Uccles O my!

    Mar 29, 2010
    Nat, you totally did the right thing. While I have no problem with other adults correcting my children if they do something wrong, Em wasn't doing anything wrong! There is no excuse for that, no matter who that woman THINKS she is. It is a public school system, she can't do anything to you, no matter who she is or who she knows. Heck, if that would have been one of my kids it happened to, J would have been pulling me off that woman!



    Please give Em a hug from me! And tell her we are standing behind her and know that she doesn't act like that! [​IMG]
     
  7. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Well, Nat you did exactly what I would have done and you feel now exactly the way I would after I made a boob of myself [​IMG] Honestly she looked like a bigger butt than you did. And I am sure your daughter is very grateful to you.
     
  8. Dar

    Dar Overrun With Chickens

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    [​IMG] so you never said who she was?... is she like the Governor's sister or something?

    and you did the the right thing no one should address another persons child in that manor. If someone spoke to my child that way they would have needed a dentist [​IMG]
     
  9. aceschix

    aceschix Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Nat,

    You are the parent. It is your job to "protect" your child from the crazy world. You may have gone a little overboard if you really did yell and used other than "G" rated language. She was wrong and you did your job. [​IMG]

    She sounds a bit self-important. [​IMG]

    My children were raised the same way and it is my job to teach them the proper way to act. If someone has a problem with them in public they need to be addressing me! [​IMG]
     
  10. chicken stalker

    chicken stalker TOS Rocks!

    Aug 31, 2008
    Binghamton, NY
    I am glad you righted her. People who think to highly of themselves are a danger to our society. The "do you know who your talking to" line makes my hair stand on end. My response, yes I do, you are a human being just like myself and my dd and we all deserve a little respect, no more, no less!
     
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