Rant!!!! Another Mother Yelling And Dissing My Kid!!!!

[mom'sfolly]

I think you should have called her on her behavior; however, it sounds like you didn't have all the facts either. I'm just wondering if these band kids were supposed to be chaperoned and who fell down on that job. I know my kid's band and choir directors (middle, not high school) would have stopped that pronto, even if it involved stopping the concert. And those kids would have earned a failing grade as well.

 

[GAGE]

That is fantastic, great job!

 

[sonew123]

wow you guys are sooooo awesome. Ok a little more background to answer some questions. The woman in question comes from $-her family own businesses throughout our area. Her children, I must admit, are very intelligent -very athletically inclined and very popular-so she is full of herself-great for her kids bad for her ego and attitude.. My DD is in athletics but not the star-my DD is very pretty, sweet and kind-oh and smart to boot

but its a hidden talent as she is shy ( stays under the radar too-and ony has a group of friends that are the same way-they all went to Catholic school together and none of them have ever been about boys-bragging or trouble making. I did contact a school official today-bumped into her after work at the grocery store and told her the story-she wasn't "surprised" as this mother is and always has been this way-her last DD is a senior and is out of the school system in June so thats a + I am not aiming any anger or jealousy towards her children-I feel sorry for them that their mother did it! There's nothing she can do really about it as she feels I handled it fine ( all though I should have celaned up my language a tad-anger fuels the F bomb in me and thats doesnt happen very often ( mykids have never heard me swear-thats how "often" it happens) I contacted the other mothers who children were involved and until I opened my mouth- their DD's did not tel their paretns what happened last night-thats how shy these girls are-then the mouths opened and the flood gates spoke the story over for the other parents. They werent thrilled and happy I spoke up on all their behalfs. No one plans on contacting this lady as the drama is over..for now...for my DD's sake Im letting it go for now too-but if I hear one word about this women backtalking or backstabbing me , my family or children SH$t will hit the fan quickly and I will go farther up the chain to shut her up! I dont care if your the queen of stinking England and have an army to back you up-Im a firecracker when it comes to my kids-it embarassing them from time to time but then they later thank me!

 

[sonew123]

mom'sfolly :

I think you should have called her on her behavior; however, it sounds like you didn't have all the facts either. I'm just wondering if these band kids were supposed to be chaperoned and who fell down on that job. I know my kid's band and choir directors (middle, not high school) would have stopped that pronto, even if it involved stopping the concert. And those kids would have earned a failing grade as well.

No supervision-there were parents everywhere-it just so happens that the 3 girls who really were the trouble makers weren't even in band-they just came to have fun! guess they did at others expense!​

 

[sonew123]

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You did NOTHING WRONG. The only fault would have been if you had allowed her to get away with what she did. NEVER allow her or anyone else to get away with actions/intimidations like she employs.

ETA Your daughter should have learned at a much earlier age that she does not have to obey any and all adults. Actually, she should have made it clear to the abusive "adult" that she would not tolerate being spoken to like that, and that she had no intentions of not having the last word.

Thanks Joe!

I did tell my DD, when I was done ruffling trolls feathers, to never take that kind of crap from anyone-ever. I told if and only if she was in the right and did nothing wrong to explain what really happened in a calm manor-if that doesnt work -have at her sweetie-if need be-I have always taught her to be respectful-but strong...she knows the difference but this lady caught her completely off guard-no warning as she was leaving -she just appeared and started in on her- she just kept walking out and I heard what the lady was saying not so much DD- sad part is is that ladies DD and Mine are on the volleyteam together and were friends-NOTHING WAS SAID AT SCHOOL TODAY not a word so apparently this lady shut her mouth and didnt spread poison to her own children-

 

[Sportsterjeep]

Nat, you did the right thing and have no reason to apologize to the ignorant snob. The only apology needed may be for a few choice words that were uttered in earshot of other peoples kids, but not to her. You just taught your daughter a very important lesson, to not let anybody who "thinks" they are better than you walk all over you, to stand up for yourself, even when everyone else is afraid to stand up to someone. She's not so important that she can't be knocked down a peg or two. You handled it perfectly, she has no right to look down at anyone, screw her.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

NOBODY better mess with my kids!! Other than the language I would have done the same thing too sonew. Unfortunately my flaw isn't so much language as it would have been going upside her head when she mouthed off to me

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[1mommahen]

 

[sourland]

I sit here shaking my head and smiling. As a father I would have done the same thing, and sadly enough when I lose my cool the quality of my language dives into the gutter. Some of us are genetically programmed to protect those that we love to the point of irrationality. At a wrestling match the father of a child (this goon had his daughters wrestling boys) my grandson had beaten walked along the mat where my grandson was sitting and stepped on his leg. Accident? H*LL NO! As I attempted to leap from the upper bleachers to the gym floor my daughter and wife restrained me while my son in law dealt with the situation. YOU DID GOOD!

 

[sonew123]

again thanks guys

J and cindiloohoo---There were no children around-my DD was outside double doors crying in the cold and all the "students" were inside-only parents were around thank goodness-hence the F-bomb:-( It took every ounce of strength not to hit this woman-I am small ( not petite)but I am a tom boy through and through and have the muscles to back it up ( from my job) I tensed up so bad my nails were digging into my palms from fighting it back-it ended with me saying

lady "get a grip and a clue on reality-you have the wrong girl" her DH mummbling cowerdly under his breath..her mumbling loudly as she walked into double doors-where the choir was singing. end of story-