RANT-Frustrated with people! (long)

[magikchick]

I wish I could say something, but your kind of hurt can't be put in words.

 

[McGoo]

Jeni,
I too, am so sorry for your loss. How we feel, especially at such a difficult time, is how we feel. There's no way to know or for someone to dictate what you or your daughter should feel or how you should act and when time is up for grieving. My heart breaks for you both.

As a new member of this forum I now understand that it's not about chickens - it's about many caring and compassionate people and their chickens.

Colleen

 

[purplebaby]

i cant know exactly how you are feeling. but when my baby died, my marriage died, and my whole world fell apart. no one could understand, even my mother and sister. it affected so many areas of my life that i did not expect. i could not be consoled, when people said "i understand" i knew they didnt. they thought (and said) that it was for the better, at least you have other children, lots of well meant but hurtful things .... i can only say i am here to listen and share my experience if it helps. 11yrs later and i still have difficult moments, although it doesnt rule my life any more.

grief is personal and follows its own path. you do what you need to. i should have. please vent if you can and we will listen. i wish i had had a group to share with back then...

 

[dragonlili]

 

[mom'sfolly]

Pain is pain, and no one can tell you how you how to feel it, how to express it or when it will hit you, or when it will lessen. Your loss is unimaginable, and the grief must also be the same. I'm sorry, and I'm sorry that the reactions of your family members is making the pain worse.

Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your daughter.

 

[jenichick]

I luv you guys, got my brooder box ready, bought some chick starter feed, told all of my family that I luv em dearly, what else can I do. Thanks to everyone, my extended family.....it helps...

 

[schmoo]

Awww sweetie. You vent away. Some people just don't have enough FEELINGS or sense to know when somone else is hurting. When someone loses a precious innocent child it is not like an adult. There is no rationalizing it like sometimes with an older person. You can't say well, she was really sick or she was so old, it was her time to go etc. It just feels very unfair and sad to lose a little one. It is totally understandable to be sad and you just ignore anyone who acts like it isn't.

 

[seminolewind]

Jeni, I'm sorry for your loss. There will always be insensitive people in your life. You can't change that. But if you need to talk to people who will listen, like your family, if you have no one, a support group can help.
Mourning is a process that you must go thru. You can't skip it, and you can't hide it. Eventually mourning will fade, and be replaced with good memories with your granddaughter.
I'm glad you are getting back to your chicks. I'm sure they don't mind when you are sad , and I'm sure they are good listeners. Karen

 

[gmustang65]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. You need to feel it tho no matter how painful it is. There is a natural grieving process. For your sanity allow yourself this.