Rant ! I'm Going Crazy !

[Emzyyy]

My boyfriend's parents! I love them, they act like kids half the time their great. It's just Caleb has been having problems with his Geometry grade lately and its been a F and he works hard to get it up. The teacher doesn't explain anything. He gets good grades in all his other classes. Anyway his parents grounded him from HIS truck the one HE bought HE PAYS INSURANCE ON! and he pays for gas. They have no claim to HIS truck. Everytime it has to sit he ends up having to spend money on it to get it fixed. So of course he has to walk 3 miles to school everyday and back after school. They also grounded him from running track, his bedroom door (they took it off the hinges), the fan in his room!, his cell phone, computer, tv, BMX, basicly me too. My mom agrees his parents went over board for one grade. Track would encourage him to get his grade up! Why would you take that away? OH!, and he also has to sit at the dinning room table from when he gets home from school til 8PM. He's a hardworking guy. My mom says she's never seen a kid his age work near as hard as he does. He works construction. Lays hardy backer and tile, roofs houses, does woodwork, sheet-rocks, lays carpet and hardwood floors. He works every weekend 6AM to 5PM. He gets home and he works on homework and studies. He even goes to tutoring after school. I really don't see why they don't cut him some slack. He tries I know he does, they seem to think he doesn't try HARD enough... It's mostly his step-dad. His mom is more lenient and let me borrow Caleb for Valentine's Day. What made me mad was his sister had a F and still got to go to cheerleading afterschool?

 

[19Dawn76]

there was so much I loved about being in High School.

and

so much I hated

I know it's hard when you think parents aren't being fair. Maybe he'll get his grade up and all will be OK.

 

[Tiramisu]

That seems way overboard to me, they know he is trying hard to get the grade up. If they are so dissapointed why not get a tutor or something instead of pushing him down? I don't think it is right that they took away His car. He bought it with his own money he earned and pays insurance, he owns it and they should have no say. And what about his job, if he has no car do they or someone else have to get him there?

 

[paddock36]

When you are grown and are raising kids of your own then you might understand why it is some parents do what they do. Until then you don't know everything that goes on inside their home and you only know what your BF tells you. So don't be so hard on the parents. Just wait until your son comes home with an F and his GF starts talking about how unfair you are.

 

[Emzyyy]

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His grandfather and uncle works with him and drives him.

 

[Emzyyy]

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I'm not trying to be unfair to the parents. I'm just upset and needed to let it out. I miss seeing him happy.

 

[chickaddict]

I know it really stinks to deal with - try looking at it this way.


He become a hardworking and wonderful person in part because of the way he was reprimanded as a child. Sometimes parents have a hard time seeing the good qualities in their own offspring.


We are so used to dealing with the results of the opposite. When parents only see the good what they end up raising are lazy spoiled brats.

To sum it all up..............


If his parents raised him any other way - you probably wouldn't have chosen him.

 

[Hennyhandler]

I see where they want him to bring his grade up but everyone had or has a subject they suck at and they are going to struggle in. They took his door away? What does that have to do with the grade. That's more like he was being sneaky or they don't think he is studying. He has to sit at the dining room table all afternoon. Does this mean sit there and study or just sit there? If he is just to sit there I don't see how this is to help him.

I personally believe if he is trying hard and REALLY trying and it is obvious that that subject just isn't his than what more can he do? Maybe they could encourage him and help him out with his work. In the end, whether we or anyone else disagrees that is his parents and they are allowed to make the rules or conditions they feel is fair and correct. If they feel this is the way to handle this, well that is their business. Like others have said we may not know the whole story. All you can do is get in there and help him learn it.

 

[Katy]

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So true! Teen agers very rarely think their, or their friends parents are being fair. Your viewpoint will definately change when you become a parent of teenagers.

In most school districts I know of in our state he wouldn't be allowed to participate in track with a failing grade whether his parents grounded him from it or not.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

Maybe he needs these things taken away in order to be able to focus more on this particular subject. Yeah it was a bit much, but it is what it is. I hope he brings his grade up and understands the work. It's easy to get behind in Math type subjects! If he is doing tutoring, and still not able to get the grade...maybe the parents should talk to his teacher and see what they can do to help. I hope his grounding doesn't last too long!!!! The thing with the sister not getting into trouble...I'd be irritated about that one if she made the same mistake and got off for it. Sorry Em!!!! Do whatever you can to try to help him. Oh, and the truck is there domain, because he is their domain...sad as that is for you kids, it's the truth. Keep your head up and help him get that grade up!!!!!!!