Scared to death!

[octapip7]

I'm so sorry your daughter had to go through that... It sounds terrifying!

I've had a bit of a discussion with them about it, but they think I won't be social enough. I don't know if they understand what I mean... I'm a little too subtle sometimes.

We also have k12 here (I've looked into it.

), and it sounds like a great option!

 

[dewey]

Bless your heart

...thank you...it was terrifying to her and she was no shrinking violet...she was a key person on the dance team & baseball & basketball & volleyball & soccer. Always involved with school activities from kindergarten up, and she donated her time after school to the coaches at their request to help with the 1-8th grade sports. She was no easy mark.

My heart goes out to you. At that time I was in the midst of radiation & chemo, barely able to even lift my head with 2nd & 3rd degree burns to boot, barely able to even stand for more than a couple of moments from being so ill, but I drove myself to the places & made a grand (perhaps pathetic, no doubt) entrance at school and with the law agencies even though I basically had to crawl in to present my quiet riot to the powers that were for the protection of my DD and other kids.

In this day and age with random kids being gang attacked, or God forbid, curbed for sick sport, parents need to become aware of what's going on and stand up for their kids and all kids.

Please be blunt with your parents or enlist the help of adults in the know that can be blunt on things that are going on in this day and age.

 

[dewey]

Just adding a couple of verses for courage...

Psalms 23...

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil,

for you are with me;

your rod and your staff,

they comfort me.

You prepare a table before me

in the presence of my enemies.

You anoint my head with oil;

my cup overflows.

Surely goodness and love will follow me

all the days of my life,

and I will dwell in the house of the Lord

forever.

And Psalms 4:8...

I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep; for thou only, LORD, makest me dwell in safety.

 

[guinea fowl galore]

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compared to being scared $h!tless of people your whole life because you've been attacked and associate people with hurt and fear.

I just don't understand some people, your parents are some of those people.
Just tell them that, yes you will be sociable, just with normal people. Homeschooling doesn't make people unsociable it makes them be as sociable as they want to be. If you dont particulary enjoy being surrounded by people 24/7 then you have the choice not to be and if you do like to be around people then you can do that too. And just because you start homeschooling doesn't mean you loose all your friends, you'll still be able to spend time with them. And with homeschooling you also get to interact with people of all different ages, Which is absolutely fantastic. I've NEVER met a homeschooling child/teen that wasn't MILES ahead socially then the average person. And incredibly confident too.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

You have to determine what level of bullying we're talking about here before we get too radical.

Yes, there are cases of bullying where there is real threat involved. But, many teens need to learn about the other type of bullying - the one that involves ignoring you, talking about you behind your back or on-line. If there are no threats involved there are ways and means to deal with that type of bullying. My daughter learned that teen girls can be vicious and mean especially when "packing" but she also learned to step out and let them spin themselves up and out while she refused to engage. She got a rep for being a snob at first. Now she is considered cool and mature by students and faculty alike because she sees the drama for the tempest in the teapot that it usually is.

I wish we could avoid it, but as an adult I have seen bullying between adults in the work place at the playground (yep adults there watching their kids play bullying each other and you wonder where kids get it). Being able to recognize it when it is subtle, and being able to handle it is valuable knowledge.

Issues of making her friends not want to talk to you is this type of bullying.

I am not a christian but you can use yours. Are these people and their opinions of you more important to you than what your internal compass tells you is right? I know it is hard and painful. But, 5 years from now will you value their opinion about anything?

I am not minimizing how bad it can get. I am not minimizing how painful this process can be. But, getting some perspective on how big of an issue it really is can be helpful.




(On a side bar I had to laugh at your saying that being a person of faith can be so hard in a public school, because my daughter is in a public school and she was being bullied by christian girls who were acting in a very un-christian like manner and using their faith as the reason that it was OK to bully her....)

 

[Cpprpnny19]

Bullying is bullying, even if it is one snide word or e-mail. There are no levels in where it should be reported. It needs to be stopped..........

Send a letter to the principal, all counselors, and copy the police. It will be taken seriously by your parents THEN!.

 

[darkmatter]

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I may be an old coot, but I do understand.

I remember my parents telling me to say: " Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

They were wrong, words can hurt. The pen is mightier then the sword.

I got smart, I learned more and suceeded in life, I've outlived the people with small minds and attitudes------so can you.

You need help----ask for it, don't tolerate small minded people.

 

[Acre of Blessings]

Discouragement is the best tool that the devil uses to hurt children that love the Lord. Keep you head up and show everyone that words just bounce off of spiritually strong people. Also, be an example to the point as to where they may say something ugly, thenyou come back with something positive. Will be praying for you.

p.s.---just remember who you are dealing with. It's not the people talking, its the people allowing the devil to speak through them.

 

[SarahFair]

In elementary school I was silently tortured by a girl..
Slowly others started in on it.
My mother would pick me up from school and I would ball as soon as that door shut.

Finally in 3rd grade I guess my mother said something about it (or the teacher noticed) and they "tried" to fix it. Only made things worse.
This all was going on at a Private Christain School.

My sister went through the same school with no problems, actaully in the popular croud.


After 5th grade I begged my mom for public school. She agreed because she loathed that girl as much as I did.
...but I was still so beaten up by elementary school I was too shy and too scared to try and make friends.
The only time I left my house was when a few boys from my street would come knock on my door (they rode the same bus).

I went through awkward growth spirts in middle school that caused me to have "flood pants". I can remember sitting in class and trying to hide the fact my socks were showing by crossing my ankles, not even able to concentrait on what the teacher was saying because I was too worried about what people were going to say.

Slowly I gained my confidence back but Ive never totally gotten over the fear of what people can do.
By the time 8th grade came around I had a total of 2 friends that stayed the night at my house 1x each.

9th grade came around and I had to make a sudden move 2 weeks before school started. A new district, so I hoped a new start.
Lucky for me I moved to a neighborhood that had 4 girls right around my age. They approached me a the pool one day and asked if I wanted to hang out.
Thank goodness they were accepting to my unique outlook on life.


People bully thoughs who like to 'march to the beat of their own drummer'. Bullies want people to bend and form to whatever mold they want them in and I was just never one of those people.
You should never let that get you down!
We grow into the most unique individuals people grow to respect.
The bullies grow into those dumb college kids at frat parties who you cant tell Joe Blow from Bobby Sue and then usually into people who will never make a difference in the world.


We unique people have our own ideas and we are hated for it.

Good luck at school.. and dont let them get you down. Keep your eye on the prize

 

[SillyChicken]

I know what you're going through, I was physically bullied by a group of girls or by the same girls on individual levels.

You do need to understand, that she cannot "kill you" mentally, what goes on in your head is yours and yours only, that is your domain! She cannot hurt unless you let her. I didn't realize this until I grew up and matured, but you seem to have it together more than I did back then so I think you can do it... she's like a vampire feeding on your mind, just don't open the door and let her in!

This is nothing new btw folks, when I was bullied, there was NO outlet like there is for kids today. Kids just didn't talk about it or tell their parents for fear of making it worse More public awareness is making this seem like something new, it isn't.

So I understand your fear and I can tell you it will get better, and it will make you a stronger person for it. Most of my bullies ended up going no where in life. You have alot more control over this than you know. Trust your faith and gain strength from that and stand up to her, at the very least, ignore her. (I know that's hard) Talk to your parents, show them what she's done to you, and work with the school to make it stop - Does your school have a stop the bullies campaign? if not, why not! start one! Raise awareness! Fight back! There will be alot more people that will support you than you realize!