Scared to death!

[SillyChicken]

Hope you're off to a good start!

I am ok with my school experiences, it's made me a stronger person today...Sometimes it's just nice for people to know they're not alone in what they're going through. We all survived and so will you, how you do this and what you get out of it, is up to you!

 

[TriciaHowe]

I hope this school year goes a lot smoother for you!! You will be in my thoughts.... I will say though that if the cyber stuff starts again please print it and take it to the school. They will help you! Also wanted to add about the homeschooling. I am a co-leader of a girlscout troop. We have had most of our girls (including my own) since Kindergarten and they are now in 7th grade. Anyhow, some of our girls are home schooled and they aren't socially awkward at all. The parents have them in music lessons, girl scouts, and they are active in their local church (I'm sure for non-religious people like me there are many other activities as well...), but you get my drift....
I am hopeful that you will reach out to your parents and hopefully they will help you....

 

[3goodeggs]

I found this thread early this morning and have not been able to think of anything since.
I just want to reach through the monitor and do some cyber comforting.
I hate that people have to be that way. I hate that people advise to 'ignore' name calling. That just lets the bullies WIN! not fair. It isn't taking the 'high road' to 'Take It' It is allowing them to smush you down into their low road.

Your parents should be there to protect you. That is their job.
Now, the hardest part is figuring out when to let you learn how to 'fly' and when to 'tuck you under their wings'.
But, that said, momma birds are there hovering, and protecting, and drawing away threats while their young are fledgling.
School is a place to learn, if you are in fear, then you are not learning. As an adult, you don't 'Take it" you call the police and get restraining orders. School is not the 'real' world. it is an artificial environment.

What are the three things that identify a living organism?
Reproduction
growth,
and the Ability to move away from negative stimulus.
Plants grow away from the dark into the light
lizards move from the shadows into the warmth

people do not sit there and 'take it' unless something keeps them from removing themselves from that situation.
I 'took it' until it became an unhealthy part of my personality. I am 49 years old and just now starting to say,"Nuts to this!"
you are young. you are kind, you are a decent person. Do not allow ANYONE to change who you can and will become. They get sick kicks out of being mean. What does that say about them? What A waste of protoplasm. I hope they outgrow it.
I hope they learn to be nice to: each other, their parents, their neighbors, their coworkers, their spouses, their own children. But, I am afraid that without the intervention that they need NOW, they will grow up to be dysfunctional and spread their misery into infinity.
So, let them be pieces of poo if they want to be, but know that you are not. You are valuable and you will make people's live joyful. Do not allow yourself to wear the yoke of their issues.
I wish I could actually DO something besides send comfort. I wish I could fix this for you.

 

[ChikeeMomma]

Prayers to you! Hope you've had a better time at school so far!

I know you seem worried about your friends not being there, if they find out. If so, then they are not true friends. When I was in high school, the star basketball player sexually harassed (with words) me until I finally told my parents and the principal. He was rude and absolutely disgusting! He made me feel small and I dreaded going to the class that I had with him. I think he thought his comments should flatter me -- absolutely not! I did have a friend or two, who seemed more worried about how the basketball team would fare since he was suspended from playing in a few games for the harassment than what I'd been through. Fortunately, most of my friends were good and true friends and were there for me. And, thankfully, those one or two friends also came around. I would hope that your friends would be there for you, too.

 

[ChickyLove]

Isaiah 41 :10 has always been a comfort to me in times like that. Definitely report bullying to whomever you are able. I'll be praying that this ends quick and that the people responsible for this behavior will stop!!

 

[TinyChickenLady]

I'm still young enough to remember what High School is like these days. I was bullied, picked on and abused all through school. It started out because of how small I was (still am). Then it went to me being more developed than all the other girls. Then there was a guy who abused me. By that time, I learned to think differently about them and myself.
The rule about ignoring them or even reporting them does NOT work. My favorite motta has always been "Rise above." Two very simple words that had a lot of meaning to me. I came off as a snob sometimes, but it worked. I would speak to those people and tell them "I'm sorry you don't like your life, but I like mine so deal with it little girl."
My parents were those who didn't believe me and always assumed I brought it on myself (yes, even the sexual abuse) and told me I should get over it. Those are not things one can get over easily but I became a very tough girl, too soon. Some called me heartless. But what I ended up doing was finding something that I was good at and enjoyed doing (my niche was acting) and I did it. When people tried making fun of me, I put my talents to work and made them see that what they did, didn't bother me. Even if sometimes it did. I worked at it for so long that eventually, I believed what I was trying to make everyone else believe.... I just didn't care anymore. I loved every aspect of my life except for their presence in it and slowly, they vanished.

It doesn't work for everyone but it did for me. Just keep working on being you and being happy and soon enough, they won't matter anymore.
Good luck!

 

[nanawendy]

UPDATE NEEDED ~ I'm hoping your day went well....

 

[octapip7]

Everyone -

I prefer writing to you individually, but I'm really pressed for time.

Thank you so much for the warm thoughts, and I'm so sorry for all of your experiences.

Update:


Friday was my first day of school. As I waited for the bus, it started to pour. I got on, my hair soaked, and was forced to sit with a random kid because the seats were full. I get to school, go to my locker, and walk to class. In all of my classes before lunch, I only have a few scattered acquaintances...

Lunch was okay... I got to my locker, only to find that it wouldn't open. I found someone to help me (A former teacher with a key.

), and I finally got it open, although the lockers were deserted by then. I was in such a rush that I forgot my agenda. I rushed to class, and was there on time, somehow. When the teacher figured out that I forgot my stuff, he singled me out, snapped at me, and put me on the spot, and continued to glare at me the rest of class. I know I'm oversensitive, but I was squirming inside. That kind of put a damper on the day.

The rest of the day was okay... I'm thankful that girl didn't attempt to tear me apart, though.

We shall see. I'm going to wait a week or two before presenting homeschooling to my father again. I'd really prefer this, from the stress I have, but I'm happy to be educated either way, I suppose.

to all!

 

[gritsar]

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Glad you made it through that horrible first day okay. It'll get easier, I promise.

 

[lvchicken]

This my third year in homeschooling. I have a TON of friends, from my old school and new ones. I go to a place called Science Etc., a Christian school for home-schooled kids and teens. I take all of my classes there except Spelling and Language(they don't teach it

). I've done this for 3 years. I only go there twice a week, but I do sports too. There are other places around like this, but this particular one is in Fort Worth, TX(where I live lol). This is the website for an example for you- www.scienceetc.com