Seriously need to vent and need mom support

I would not be to concerned about one doctors opinion. Wait for all your blood results to come in to see if there really is any need for concern. You as your childs mom knows whether she is doing well or not. My son is 14 and very tall and thin people often comment he is too thin. Well thats just the way he is ..

 

At 18 months my daughter weighed in at a whopping 25 pounds and now at 10 she is a health 58. She was just fine despite what the doctor said when she was 18 months. After being scared out of my mind because "she is to small" we got got lucky and went back to her original doctor and have never been scared again. Some pediatricians like to scare people into doing what they say instead of encouraging you and telling you that you are doing good and that all kids are different and will grow and develop different. Her doctor now is the one she had when she was born (he moved out of state for about a year, hence the other crappy doctor) and since he has been back he tells me she is his best patient. She is still really thin for her age group but he says she is always going to be that way and that she will be just fine. Get that second opinion and I bet they will tell you that you are right about her being just fine.

 

My younger kid has always been between the 15-25 percentile for weight and 95th for height. One check-up we went in and it was 5th percentile. The doctor asked a few questions, and I explained that he had recently both had a fever and gone through a growth spurt, both of which always thin him down. The doctor looked at him, says he's otherwise healthy, and that was it.

With the skinny kids, it often takes very little for them to lose weight. A fever, a tummy bug, teething, etc. What you need is a doctor that will listen and figure out what is going on. I don't think the rush should have been for blood tests, but a simple appointment in a month or six weeks to determine if it is the factors you as a parent see, or what the doctor fears.

At his a physical two years ago, when he was turning 8 and weighted less than 40 pounds, we asked about car seats. The doctor said 80 pounds or 4'8", I looked at Sam and said, "dude, you're going to be the only person in your driving class in a booster seat". We all laughed. He is still well under 80 pounds, and is pushing 5 feet and is almost 10.

 

We are in the same boat here. My little stringbean Has hovered between 10 and15 percentile her whole life. She is 13 now and healthy as a horse. We were lucky to have a great group of pediatricians i even remember one visit where one of them told me to please not let anyone tell me she was too skinny because she was perfect just the way she was. They have always been very supportive and they take my opinions in to account every time. Find someone else for your baby... It is such an important relationship, it isnt worth it to hang around with someone you are not completely comfortable with.

 

Quote:My son turned 3 in April and weighs 27 pounds and around 4% on height.... He wears 2T clothes and they are a little big. They never said much about it. What DR do you see in town?

 

wow...I think your doc is overreacting! I'd hate to see what they did with my 5 1/2 yr old!!

She JUST got out of 3T clothing, she is in 18 month/24 month shorts!!! She is a size 8 toddler shoes...
she'll be SIX in october...she weighs WITH clothes on; for the last yr between 30-33 lbs...

I think you are correct in getting another doc...I for one, would NEVEr stay with a doctors practice that wont
answer my questions...and only throw in scare tactics...Remember something many people forget;

DOCTORS WORK FOR US..WE dont work for them...

 

Doctors can be very frustrating! Especially ones that do not listen to a word you say and yet know it all



My youngest was a "failure to thrive" baby

I had gestational diabetes and the diabetes doc refused to talk to the ob/gyn. She even claimed to have no idea who he was (at the time the acting head of one of the hospitals....) she of course was a world renowned (sp) expert on diabetes. I gained 6 pounds in the pregnancy, left the hospital under 130 lbs the day after he was born, he was full term but had stopped developing due to being starved the last last couple of months of the pregnancy. He was just under 6lbs and had a minor birth defect as well.

He was nothing but skin and bones and due the birth defect and being weak, he did not nurse well. It would take an hour to feed him 2oz of formula after trying to breast feed him.

He would cry until he was just too tired to cry anymore. He caught every germ in the area and was constantly sick. He rarely wet a diaper in his first few months.

He only gained 1.5 oz in his first month

He WAS a "failure to thrive" baby!!!

That is very different from a baby who has picked up bugs from other siblings but is still growing. I hope you find a doctor than can recognize the difference.


My son is 18, still does not eat hard foods and dislikes nonground meats (has a hardtime swallowing it even all chewed up)

I should ad, when after a month I KNEW he needed more help than the doc did. I called and really gave the front end nurses a bad time demanding he actually call me back. He asked if "I felt like I needed more attention at home" and that was why I was making all of this up. As the smoke was fuming out my ears, I said I was off to the hospital to have them weight him and then we would know if he was gaining....suddenly he wanted to see him asap. He ran lots of tests after seeing I was right and at one point thought he might have CF