This is beautifully put!
So true: we still hold each other accountable. Having a disorder doesn't excuse hurting others.
We all have our own thick catalog of struggles, but mental-health concerns are in a class of their own. Personality disorders are usually linked to developmental issues beyond a person's control. They take a lot of strength to manage. People are still responsible for their behavior, but the patience of those of us not fighting those demons can really help people who are.
I have a lifetime of thoughts and experiences beyond the co-worker situation, but they're not germane. And I'm definitely not saying you don't know how to handle this situation,
@Shadrach. All the best from across the pond.
Tax for the tangent: Andre's slow-motion happy slappy flaps.