No...I think the real problem is people. You shouldn't have to have the government step in and tell you what you can and can't do in order to be a good person. I think our government is so screwy right now the last thing they need is anohter thing on there plate. They can't take care of all there other priorities. I think that they should actualy have a mandatory class in highschool to teach kids about basic care of a baby and how to be a healthy family. Just like they teach kids about how there body is changing in elem. school. I know that highschoolers will just sit there and smirk but at least they will hear it. Expecialy with how things are now and we actualy had some 8th graders in our school pregnant.
These kids just need the info given to them so they know. You can't stop teens from "doing it" so there needs to be info and resourses available to them. If parents aren't going to talk to there kids before they are in the middle of that age then maybe the schools need to step in. Making it mandatory to get licenced to have kids will only effect the responsible people that are planning to have kids. You can't expect a 15/16 year old to go get licenced if they don't even think that they can get pregnant. Do you see where I am going with this.
I think a good example to get my point across is construction workers. Only a handful of construction/trades man actualy go out and get there licence. A lot of them just don't bother and hope they never get sued. They work under the radar I guess you could say, do there work, bid it just right so they don't need a licence to operate there bussiness. (not ragging on construction workers, my hubby has been a specialty trades man for 9 years now so we know how people work in that field
) It is hard being the responsible one when you see so many getting away with things. I think if you make it mandatory to get a licence to have children you are going to be in the same boat.
On the topic about CPS and foster parents, I have seen first hand what happens when kids get removed by CPS and what the parents have to do. We went threw the entire process with a very close friend of ours. It took almost 2 years for them to get there kids back. We were there steady clean home that they needed to live in to even be able to get visits. There kids were young new born and a year old when they got taken away. The things that our friends were wrapped up in were nothing that a child or an adult for that matter should ever be involved in. I think the best thing that ever happened to them was for CPS to step in a take away those kids. Our friends had to do there time in prison, take parenting classes, drug classes, drug tests, counceling, stay in a half way house a about 6 months since they didn't have a place to go right out of prison, get a job show that they were trying. After all of this then we let them move in with us. Only after they could prove they were in a safe enviroment then they could see there kids on surpervised visits. They gave our friends all of the resourses that they needed to succeed and get better. Now on the flip side the foster mom was a scammer. I know that being a foster parent can be very hard and you end up loving the kids that you are taking care of. It is only natural to want to love and take care of a child in need. But this foster mom made the kids call her mom and took full advantage of the kids being little. Our friends were trying there hardest to get there kids back. The foster mom knew that and instead of being supportive took it apon herself to say that she would adopt the baby so they didn't have all of the kids to take care of. They filed complaints about her and told CPS/ the case worker tons of times. The only thing they could tell them was that there isn't enough foster parents in our small towns that they needed to keep everyone that they had. So in there case the system helped them with all of the programs and opportunities they gave them but the system lacked in the foster department. When all was over and done they got there kids back and now are doing really great for themselves.
I think a good example to get my point across is construction workers. Only a handful of construction/trades man actualy go out and get there licence. A lot of them just don't bother and hope they never get sued. They work under the radar I guess you could say, do there work, bid it just right so they don't need a licence to operate there bussiness. (not ragging on construction workers, my hubby has been a specialty trades man for 9 years now so we know how people work in that field
On the topic about CPS and foster parents, I have seen first hand what happens when kids get removed by CPS and what the parents have to do. We went threw the entire process with a very close friend of ours. It took almost 2 years for them to get there kids back. We were there steady clean home that they needed to live in to even be able to get visits. There kids were young new born and a year old when they got taken away. The things that our friends were wrapped up in were nothing that a child or an adult for that matter should ever be involved in. I think the best thing that ever happened to them was for CPS to step in a take away those kids. Our friends had to do there time in prison, take parenting classes, drug classes, drug tests, counceling, stay in a half way house a about 6 months since they didn't have a place to go right out of prison, get a job show that they were trying. After all of this then we let them move in with us. Only after they could prove they were in a safe enviroment then they could see there kids on surpervised visits. They gave our friends all of the resourses that they needed to succeed and get better. Now on the flip side the foster mom was a scammer. I know that being a foster parent can be very hard and you end up loving the kids that you are taking care of. It is only natural to want to love and take care of a child in need. But this foster mom made the kids call her mom and took full advantage of the kids being little. Our friends were trying there hardest to get there kids back. The foster mom knew that and instead of being supportive took it apon herself to say that she would adopt the baby so they didn't have all of the kids to take care of. They filed complaints about her and told CPS/ the case worker tons of times. The only thing they could tell them was that there isn't enough foster parents in our small towns that they needed to keep everyone that they had. So in there case the system helped them with all of the programs and opportunities they gave them but the system lacked in the foster department. When all was over and done they got there kids back and now are doing really great for themselves.
