should we stay or should we move?

[All about the EGG]

I have been in that situation before, and honestly...they probably want him to leave. Bringing in new people at higher salaries is a dead give away. All you can do is look for work while you still have a job. How bad off can you be living in a trailer on the folks farm, as far as debt goes and working three jobs? Just curious. What line of work is your husband in, and how old is he? Good Luck.

 

[fullhouse]

Go see what's out there.

 

[coffeemama]

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Maybe she is being a stay at home mom. Some people feel this is more important that the little bit more money that you can earn, while paying an armload for daycare. Just an idea.

 

[seedcorn]

You've been blessed. Now is the time to decide what you want next 5, 10 years to do, live, etc. There is more than money altho if he is being paid less than new hires, it's time to talk to boss. That alone will wear on him and you. the more it wears on you, the more you will nag (you will see it as trying to discuss it; guaranteed he will see it as NAGGING) him about it and the worse both of your lives will be.

 

[eggzettera]

You probably already know what you really want to do, but have concerns. So fess up...search your heart then type with your fingers & we will help get your "head" on track.....

Edit to add - My $ is on moving but don't care for the city....

 

[Dixiedoodle]

Why not take a trip near where you dh's new job would be. Find out what's there and the cost of living (houses, taxes, prices, what schools are like). If you HAD to live in a smaller, city place for a yr or so --until you can save for something bigger--will you do it?

Your dh's boss probably thinks you dh will not go anywhere. He can pay him less and he will still proform for him! When we first got married dh's boss did the same thing to him...Well, he applied at another job and has been there for 30+yrs.. He has wonderful benifits, retirement, and insurance--which he would have never had at the old job.. Yes, we had to move but it was ok.. the kids were babies and we rented for a while and saved and then bought a tiny little house, fixed it up and sold it ---and started again with a large place/more land. I say look at the BIG picture.. Make a list of what's important too you.. Dixie

 

[hazelton farms]

My husband has a job where they tell him what to wear and that he's got to change that outfit to wearing a diff. one every six months, then back again, that he can't have any hickies where they show on his body because they own it, no beard, no long hair, MUST work out so many times a week, if they want him to go away for months or even years at a time, that's what he's got to do, they have moved us a total of 7 times in the last 9 years and we've lived in THIS house now for almost three years and the one before for three whole years..so that's a lot of moves in a short amount of time, but when they want us to move, we move. Period. If his work wants him to pick up a gun, even though he signed up to work on the ocean and send him to Iraq with it...then he's got to go.
My point is, sometimes you have to do what you have to do. If you have to live in an apt. for a little while so that your husband can quit working three jobs to support the family, then do it. You can keep in mind you don't ALWAYS have to live in THAT one place. He's probably worth more than what they are offering... a man that is willing to go to night school as well as working three jobs for five years? That's a man with ambition and good work ethics! He's got something to offer that's worth more than $1500 more a year and he should market it to the right people and you need to be ready to go with him and make the best of each place you go for yourself, him and your little one. You are obviously a strong person too, to be able to live the way you have been with him being gone from you guys so much. So persevere and market the time and skills he's got and get the best for everyone all the way around.
My two cents on that one.
Stacy

 

[jnjross]

dh is 30 and hvac tech, i did work a 40++ hour swing shift I saw dh once a week. now we have tater and dh is on call that means when the phone rings he's gotta go and there's no 24hr daycare centers around here. there only 2 near dh's work others are 30mins away, gas for me to drive 30miles to work + daycare = a big fat neg-, it costed for me to work. as for debts this farm requires some pricey equipment, plus 2 cars, we have 3 loans, lots of hospital bills, insur on any that has wheels. we have visited that area and we love it! but we loved florida too until we moved there! we've decided to stay put for while, i've learn from the rush to florida we gonna take our time on this move.
bh if you are talking about the others that live on the farm, sis is a single mom and my dad does help both me and sis out, he works 7/12's that's seven days a week 12+ hours a day with one day off every 14. the cost of living here is sooo high milk is $5 a gal here, bread is $2 for walmart brand.