"sister" in law rant!

[redhen]

My advice is to just do what your brother asks you to do...
If he says use the truck then return it..then do that...
If he says take the truck and dont return it..then dont return it.....

 

[lovesduckies]

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that is exactly what i'm going to do..

this have calmed down. he is on his way back to the stan. i had to change my phone number yesterday.. that's another story in another thread LOL.. and she doesn't have my new number. my mom and brother are NOT giving her my number because i am only going to be going through my brother.

 

[lovesduckies]

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I see. All the more reason to try and stay on good terms (OK, pretend like you can stand her...

) with her. The kids are going to need someone in their lives while he's gone that will let them talk about Daddy and help them make him things and give them some normal child time. Plus, she might keep them from everyone out of spite if she thinks it would hurt you more. He can proceed with a divorce while he's deployed (it's a law now that it's the service member's choice, he can't be forced to, but he can decide to) but, honestly, I think I'd wait if I were him just so he'll be there in the same courtroom with her and any witnesses needed. If they are legally separated, I hope he set up with his finance office to have the required payments going to her for the children but the rest going to an account she has NO access to. Preferably at a bank she's never banked at. Poor kiddos.

LOL i really can't stand her.. like i said in my other post.. she doesn't have my number now. i feel sorry for those kids. i will do what my mom says when she comes home on the 29th (she's in washington). i agree those kids will need someone to talk about daddy and not bash on daddy 24/7 like she does, even when they are getting along she never has anything nice to say about my brother. and this is one reason i can't stand being in the same room as her. i think he'd rather wait till he gets home. he wants custody of the kids. i don't blame him she's an unfit mother.. COMPLETELY. i didn't even mention the time she took off with the kids, didn't answer my brothers phone calls all weekend, the when he finally got ahold of her, she had been in a hotel room with her boyfriend, the kids looked REALLY lethargic and reeked of cig. smoke. poor kids. he sent her back to californina to freeload off of mommy and daddy. he kept the kids with him. he has set up an account for her. she has never had access to the main account. he has his and they have a joint, like i have mentioned she is HORRIBLE with money. like everytime they'd move, instead of packing dishes and furtinure, she'd buy new stuff.. so he gives her $1,000 a month. he said her parents can pay for the rest of her spending habits cuz she really is BAD.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

Most of these things you complained about her doing, I don't do... so all those things are terrible, and the ones I DO, you should forgive... I'm a wonderful, caring mother, and I don't buy new stuff hardly ever... and I'm not evil.. so I'm okay with you hating her.

 

[Katy]

I think everyone needs to remember that there are 3 sides to every story.....his, hers and the truth. The OP obviously doesn't like her sister in law and I would imagine the SIL feels the same way towards the OP. Personally I'd like to hear the SOL's side of it....I'm sure she could spin a tale about the husband and his family and have them sounding pretty awful too.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

No doubt.

 

[WingingIt]

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I think everyone has taken this into consideration. I haven't seen anyone jump on SIL and condemn her.

Unless maybe there was something posted that's gone now that I missed, which is entirely possible.

Everyone has said do your best to get along with her without causing further trouble between the families.......seems like sound advice considering things are surely being discussed in different veins in different households. Still feel bad for the kids, Dad deployed and divorce coming....I hope they can work together for the kids' sake.

 

[ranchhand]

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Yes, I would like to hear the straight out stories from all parties involved. There's no way to judge by one very hostile "rant".

The other thing that bothers me is that someone is hanging one side of the family's dirty laundry for the world to see. Good heavens, I was raised that you do not do that. Family matters are FAMILY matters, not something to be posted for a world of strangers to see on a chicken forum.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

You know she may be a nut. She may just be handling his deployment in the worst possible ways. But she's his nut and the mother of his children. You don't like her and she probably doesn't like you. I'm sure there's alot more to this than the one side we are hearing. I have no problem with getting bean cups and a soda (for me it's diet stuff) occasionally for the kids. It may be a nice treat just like it was for mine. She just may need some help dealing with his deployments and is craving comfort (which is in no way a reason for infidelity). He shouldn't have volunteered for another tour knowing what it's doing to his family. As far as the truck goes it is his family vehicle that is used for the family which includes his children when they need to go somewhere. So if she lets you borrow it don't take advantage of that. Do what needs to be done and return it. And don't put more gas than it needs in it. If you need it again to pick up the karts in a couple of days then borrow it again. It's not yours. It doesn't matter if her parents have a fleet of Hummers that is not your vehicle you have no right to it. It's ridiculous that he even has to think about go karts while he's away no matter who is bringing it up for whatever reason. Maybe if she had a little more support from your family she wouldn't be off with other men. Maybe not. But if you love your nephews you'll help her with them and be the auntie they just love to have visit.

 

[AngieChick]

Is where you live a community property state? If it is, then the truck is as much hers as it is his under the law. You will want to be careful, she could report it stolen.

Just a word of caution....