*Sisters boyfriend problem or am I wrong

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by chilling in muscadine, Nov 30, 2008.

  1. chilling in muscadine

    chilling in muscadine { I love being disfunctual }

    Jun 8, 2008
    muscadine, al.
    My sister and I don't have any other family. I have my old man and she her boyfriend. My sister suffers from depression and stays in the bed most of the time and my part I suffer from is isolate. {a symptom of depression} We live about 20 miles from each other. Thanksgiving day she was going to come by to spend the afternoon with me which made me very happy. I was looking forward to the visit. We didn't have a thanksgiving at our house because my old mans job burned to the ground and the money wasn't there. This didn't matter because we were just going to visit, not eat.

    My sister and her boyfriend were going to eat at his sisters house. They had a bad front tire {leaking down} and to get to his sisters house you have to drive past my house. They spent several hours at his sisters house before coming to my house. Once they had got to my house I was so happy to see her and spend some time with my only relative. After about 20 minutes her boy friend said they had to go because they had a bad tire. We have a air compresssor and could pump the tire up but he said no they had to go. My sister reluctantly left with him.

    My sister and her boyfriend aquired a trailor they are going to pull onto
    our land. We have grated off the spot and there was a trailor there back in the 70's so there is already a septic tank ready to be hooked up. It will be

    very little cost for them to get moved and I told them the only rent would be to help me keep the lawn cut, so no rent.

    I have been upset about the short visit for two days now.{in tears} Her boyfriend can spend the day with HIS sister but we get 20 minutes to talk. My sister pretty much does what he says to keep down the peace. Am i over reacting by being so upset??? I don't think I am. What do you think?


    Last edited: Nov 30, 2008
  2. Mahonri

    Mahonri Urban Desert Chicken Enthusiast Premium Member

    May 14, 2008
    North Phoenix
    My Coop
    Well, I suppose if they move their trailer to your land, she'll be close.

    Sorry that you couldn't spend the time that you had planned.

    Sometimes we get dealt with badly and hurt, especially by those we love the most.

    Hang in there.
  3. Opa

    Opa Opa-wan Chickenobi

    May 11, 2008
    Howell Michigan
    If he makes your sister happy why make waves?
  4. Goat_Walker

    Goat_Walker I Am THE Crazy Duck Lady

    Jul 9, 2008
    Your not over reacting at all.
    Being quite to keep the peace is fine and all , but when it comes to Blood family time someone could speak up. I dont know any one's personalities so i cant say for sure, but do you think he might be a little controlling and taking advantage of the depression for his own inner reasons?

    I mean it was totally selfish of him to pull that tire gig.
  5. chickens4jojo

    chickens4jojo Songster

    May 26, 2008
    Upstate South Carolina
    I am so sorry. Maybe when they move to your land you will be able to see your sister more often? I hope so. [​IMG]
  6. SarahBeth9394

    SarahBeth9394 Songster

    Aug 23, 2008
    I can see how your feelings would be hurt. At this point tho just let it go because what's done is done. If they are going to live on your land you'll see plenty of her soon enough. And if your worried that her boyfriend is a jerk just tell them what Snakeman did to the fox and that should keep him in check.
  7. chilling in muscadine

    chilling in muscadine { I love being disfunctual }

    Jun 8, 2008
    muscadine, al.
    Quote:He is controlling and if she says the word he is OUT
  8. Chirpy

    Chirpy Balderdash

    May 24, 2007
    I would be very grateful for the 20 minutes you had with your sister and look forward to more time together in the future.

    Your sister was the one who needed to speak to her boyfriend about staying longer; maybe they truly had a good reason for leaving so quickly. If not, I'm sorry that it happened that way. But, it's water under the bridge and it won't help you or your sister to dwell on it and let your frustrations fester.

    Are you really prepared for your sister and her boyfriend to move to your property when it sounds like you aren't real happy with her boyfriend? Just think about the future.. you certainly don't want to put tension on your great relationship with your sister. Just something to think about.

    I wish you the best.
  9. chiknwhisperer

    chiknwhisperer Songster

    May 9, 2008
    Lowell, IN
    You get hiim snakeman! She him how its done when you screw up [​IMG] My DH says I get to carried away with these types of things though but its becasue I was in a relationship that was controlling and it sucked and now I get heated about things like that. Sorry
    Last edited: Nov 30, 2008
  10. Goat_Walker

    Goat_Walker I Am THE Crazy Duck Lady

    Jul 9, 2008
    Quote:He is controlling and if she says the word he is OUT

    Im not sure what is her inner reason for keeping him around then. I have a sister ( best friend) who has bad depression spells and she has a BF around to make her feel wanted, but she totally doesnt need him.

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