*Sisters boyfriend problem or am I wrong

[chilling in muscadine]

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My sister didn't want to leave, she just wanted to keep the peace with he dbf.

 

[chilling in muscadine]

I'm having a problem that they can spend the morning and part of the afternoon with HIS sister. Her dbf and Snakeman and I get along and have never had words or a dissagrement or anything with him. I guess its a controlling thing with my sister but it still hurts my heart.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

If it hurts you, you should talk to her about it. Just tell her how she made you feel.

BTW, there are places where people without a lot of money can go get depression medications and therapy for little to no money. Call your county health department. The best gift you could give your sister is some freedom from her depression and the assurance that she can stand on her own two feet. No one should have to depend on someone else to make them happy.

 

[chilling in muscadine]

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Snakeman served three terms in nam but we wouldn't need that. Her dbf is afraid of my chickens.l lol My chickens are all in pen's so this isn't the reason they left.

what a woss

 

[chiknwhisperer]

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Snakeman served three terms in nam but we wouldn't need that. Her dbf is afraid of my chickens.l lol My chickens are all in pen's so this isn't the reason they left.

what a woss

Thats to funny, my neighbors dgf is afraid of them to. She said if one got out she would run. DH said I shoulda thrown lol.

 

[chilling in muscadine]

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She is already in threapy with the health dept. She has had two heart surgerys when she was 32 years old and we both had a bad childhood.

 

[Momma_Cluck]

Let her know 1st and foremost that you are concerned about how he is controlling her... someone like that is NOT what a person with chronic/clinical depression needs!

Sounds as if he is taking advantage-- and even IF they move onto your land, if he is THAT much of a control freak, you may see less of her than you expect!

Once she understands that:
#1-- you worry about her
#2-- You miss her
and #3-- his rushing them off with no good reason was not only
hurtful, but rude and uncalled for....
MAYBE she'll be able to stand up to him the next time around.

If not, You and your husband need to decide whether you want him living on your property!!!

 

[debilorrah]

I think I would talk to her about in a non-confrontational way. tell her how it made you feel, and I bet she was little miffed about it herself. I know I am when I don't get enough time with my family, but plenty with his...

 

[SarahBeth9394]

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Snakeman served three terms in nam but we wouldn't need that. Her dbf is afraid of my chickens.l lol My chickens are all in pen's so this isn't the reason they left.

what a woss

Please tell Snakeman "Thank you for his service" for me.

 

[mainchick]

when your sister comes to live, you must be very clear and set boundaries with them. I agree with others that your sister needs to stand up to the boyfriend and tell him that she wants to stay and visit. It is her life and she needs to make her choices.
maybe with the two moving to your place you ALL can develop a good relationship. Just be clear with what you expect from them.