So DD 5, in SK got picked on

[MamaRoo]

When my niece was in grade school, one of the bigger boys picked on her a lot. One day she had had enough and beat the crap out of him. Never had another problem all through school..... (Never saw my brother prouder of his little girl, but not allowed to show it, because none of us condone violence)

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

mom'sfolly :

Man...I think everyone needs to take a deep breath....

First, find out what happened. Yes, you believe your child, but most stories have more than one side, and the truth is somewhere in the middle. Kids seldom tell the stories that put themselves in the worst light. Often a "he kicked me" comes down to something more like "we were fooling around on the couch, and he put his legs across mine, and I pushed them off then he put them back on me". He bent my fingers back might mean something far different that what most of us think when we hear this.

I suspect the older child thought she was hurting the frog, or knew that touching frogs on the playground was against the rules. When she didn't let go, he may have tried to make her. Should he have touched her...no. Should she have been messing with the frog...maybe not. Or did she grab him, and he take her hand off him? Find out.

Then look at your options. Personally, I don't think teaching a kid to kick another in the nuts over something like this is warranted. I also don't like the idea that because it is a boy/girl thing, it is somehow worse than if it had been boy/boy or girl/girl. I think with elementary school children, especially that young, the whole boy/girl thing is kind of silly.

Just a different perspective, to let you see how the story might play out....Second grade boy comes home from school, after a call from the nurse's office. The boy tells his mom how some little girls were hurting the frog, and when they didn't stop, he tried to make her drop the frog. She kicked him in the groin so hard that he fell down and had to go to the nurse's office. Little boy says "I didn't hurt her, I just wanted to help the frog, why did she hurt me so bad?"

Exactly. Get the full story, ALL points of view (notice I did not say "both") and THEN decide how to handle it.​

 

[MeatKing]

Thank-you everyone for your replies.. DH told me not to call the school

He said let the kids work it out.. So this time i won't but id it happens again with same child I will..

In the mean time, gonna try to find a kickboxing club around here, she can join.. Loved as a teen, and really gives you cofidence. So at least she will know how to throw a punch if she ever needs too. I don't really like the idea of kicking a boy where it counts.. Could do some life long damage.. I will teach her the knees, shines, solar plex.. When she gets a bit older I may teach her private parts, but really she;s too young to know what's approite for each incounter.. She's gonna have to learn proper punching and kicking tecnics before I tell her to defend herself.. We do have a heavy bag, it may be time to set this up again