So mad,..coop and run gone wrong

hearthnsoul

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Ok this is a rant. My husband and I usually are good with projects. There is this one thing though...my husband sees what's in front of him, sort of like blinders,...and I see how things affect everything else. If you say I am going to do this. I am going to think it all out and plan and trouble shoot.
So we started the coop. I show him where I want the nesting boxes,..how I want high ones for chicks, lower for ducks,..draw out how I want the exterior of the nesting boxes,...where I want the windows,..and the door. He of course puts the door on the side as opposed to the back like I wanted. But I figure hey if that's all he changed whooopeee! Coop just needs siding and shingles and we are good to go. Will insulate nearer september and add interior walls. I had him throw tar paper on the roof and stop the exterior to get the run up because well heck we already have chicks and ducks. So I say I want it like this, and he says no it has to be like this. So I say that won't work and he goes about doing it his way any way. So I come home and almost just die. It was just totally nonsensical,..no particular shape,..just random, not level, even by eye,..board here there, different woods, pressure treated, green board and so on. I just stood there, and I hate to admit this, i just said you gotta stop this. This is huge and it just looks terrible. I then pointed out he had no way to cover the run around where the coop is (he decided to enclose the coop in the run) the coop is really high maybe 14 feet tall, so a 7 or 8 foot run,..well it would end up cutting off where the door frame is,...just totally nonsensical. So I stopped him,..and now we are at a standstill....he already cemented in 4x4 in thee random spots,..I feel terrible,...but I just can't imagine going out and looking at it every day. He spent time making a decent coop,..looks nice,..so a run gone haywire just, well i just couldn't take it.
Am I terrible???
 
I think you are going to have to build along side him this way you are there to stop things before they get done the wrong way.
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As you said, you are going to have to look at it every day. It should look nice ( if you want it to) and keep your chickens safe. Maybe you should be there when he does it so you can supervise. I've drawn out how I want my pens and houses built on our new place for my husband. He has the building know how but it has to be safe and functional for me. Maybe he needs some inspiration, bring him on here and show him pics of everyones coops and runs.
 
no honey you arent terrible.. but you do need to take a breath.

my husband has worked in construction sales for 20 years.. but he cant build anything to my satisfaction to save his life - or mine. so basically i'm the carpenter and he does the mechanical stuff. we're a good team that way. it sounds like you know what you are taking about - why not give it a go??

grab a hammer and get to work :-) but make it as a fun team sport.... remember:

Together
Everyone
Accomplishes
More

not sure how far you'd get standing there telling him everything he's doing wrong. how about if you head in, get a pizza, and take a break?

good luck!
 
I COULD WRITE A BOOK, BUT I WON'T.

DH and I have been building a house for 9 years. I'm not kidding. I wish I had a dime for every argument we've had. Part of it is just the way women and men think differently. Building is very much about layers; in other words, things have to be done in order. He'd often get real enthusiastic about doing a project and I'd say, "We have to do so and so first." Then it was as if I had burst his bubble, even though I was right. If I had known what this experience was going to be like, I would never, ever have started it.

If it looks that bad, I don't blame you one bit for stopping it before it's too late. Perhaps you can hire someone to finish it or try to tackle it yourself if he is going to make a mess out of it. You being there doesn't seem to make a difference -- he seems to have something else in mind.
 
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Oh this sounds so familier.
welcome to the club LoL
Dh and I are still working on ours.. I made a few Bo-Bos
and so did he but its all working out. Be patient.
 

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