Really glad to hear things are going better for your brother!! AWESOME on the PET scan!!!!
Why don't you wait til you are all together before making any decisions. We have not had to bury either of our parents, but we have lost a brother and a brother-in-law. For both we laughed and jokes and celebrated their lives. Yes there were tears, but they were really for us. Our greif that he was gone. There were also lots of smiles. My brother was a fireman and was taken to the cemetary on the back of a firetruck. It was planned on to be just "a family thing," but "family" in my family is FAMILY all the aunts, uncles, cousins, and even, ex's were there. It was one of those surprising beautiful early spring days. Warm enough in NJ to sit out in the sun. Musicical loungechairs keeping up with the sun. Just the kind of day my brother loved and where he liked it best with family.
Enjoy your time together