So upset, need to vent somewhere... >:(

[Caribear]

I am so angry I could just scream.

My boyfriend's dad bought a local business a few months ago. He "hired" my boyfriend to be the manager. I say "hired" because he never paid my boyfriend. The previous owners committed fraud when they sold the place, by selling it while knowing that the license was due to be revoked about a week after the closing date. That caused all kinds of problems at first, and made a huge dent in their earnings. So DBF's dad just kept saying that once things turned around, he would start paying DBF.

DBF would work all hours, field phone calls literally 24/7, and take over when employees failed to show up to work. He stayed over and cleaned, would be working until 5am, then have to go back in at noon. We hardly ever saw him for the first few months. Our son started asking "when is daddy coming over?" and I would have to explain that daddy still lived here with us, he was just very busy with work. "Dad" was getting frantic about the business' income and started trying to make irrational decisions, and DBF had to reign him in and keep him calm. Then "dad" started trying to mess around and do part of DBF's job. Things were insanely stressful. Then, yesterday morning, DBF got a text from "dad" saying that he was fired. "Dad" had hired a new manager. Who will get paid. But, I would wager, will not work the crazy hours, field all the phone calls, or put up with "dad's" attitude the way DBF did. Not a chance.

What makes me sooooo angry is that we held in there with him for so long, believing that he would repay kindness with kindness and give DBF what he was owed. But instead, DBF gets a kick in the teeth.

I want to say something to "dad" but I don't know if I should, or even what to say. I want him to realize that he put me and my son through h*ll over the last few months, and that what he did was beyond unfair. But I don't know what to say, or even if I should say anything. I just don't know what to do.

 

[CGinJCMO]

Sorry to hear this.

Personally, I'm non-confrontational so I'd avoid "dad" whenever possible.

I worked for a friend where I rarely got paid and not in a timely fashion either...and it's hard to ask for what's due to you, esp. when you know finances are tight for the boss too.

Good Luck and I hope your DBF gets a good job soon to make up for the months he put into the other place that shall not be named.

CG

 

[oldrooster]

Go with BF to the local office for the state and make him file for unemployment look up on the net your state's labor board and file for unpaid wages. Also check with them over hours/working conditions and see if more charges are due. if his dad wants to play with fire make sure he gets burned.

 

[Caribear]

Thanks for the replies. I'm not normally confrontational either, but I feel like this is too important for me to just ignore it. I feel like "dad" doesn't understand that his actions impacted our whole family. He lives in a universe where he's at the center, and he's not used to thinking about others. The unemployment thing is a good idea, I will have to discuss that with DBF.

Interestingly enough, some of the regular customers have already called DBF asking what was going on and complaining about the new manager. I have the feeling "dad" will seriously regret doing this. I asked DBF what he would do if/when "dad" asks him to come back and he said he would tell him where to go (well, it wasn't that nice, lol). It's just sad and infuriating at the same time.

Thanks for listening. I really appreciate it.

 

[cassie]

In a way your boyfriend is lucky. He got out. Whether that was voluntary or not doesn't matter. If he is smart, boyfriend will STAY out. His father's business problems are his father's, not his, and if he is smart, he will leave it that way. Getting involved in this business will just cause heartache and grief all around.

 

[Caribear]

Very true Cassie. I see that now. It's still very upsetting, but we're working through it and trying to figure out what to do next.

Thank you.