Some people...*WARNING:RANT* UPDATE POST 14 Not a good one...

[twentynine]

How old is this young lady? 7? 10? 11?

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Better yet-- should not some one be protecting her ugh------

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Isn't she a little bit to young and imature to be discussing such things on the internet with out parental supervision?

I do not usually respond to threads that have minors envolved, but this one is way out their. This young lady is either very young and vunerable, or she is one heck of a drama queen in the making. In either case, this is probably not the place for her to be revealing such things about her mother, family or herself.

 

[VioletBlueIvy]

Everyone pays attention to him because he makes himself the center of attention. Currently he is getting excellent results from instigating you. The madder he makes you and the more you stand up to him, the bigger the scene, the happier you are making him. You don't want to join the crowd and give him whatever he wants do you?
So, you need to just ignore him. No matter what. After a week or so of you not giving him the attention he wants, by not responding the way he wants you to, he will move on and find something else, or unfortunately someone else, to use to get his way.
Take a deep breath, hold your head up high and tell him your so over it! And remove yourself from the situation.
It may sound bizarre to you now but his followers will remember that you had the courage to be yourself and ignore his taunts, and will respect you for it. Someday they will tell you so. HE will even respect you for it someday, you'll see. Underneath his bigmouth, showoff, attention getting act is a very insecure little boy who just wants a little love, and doesn't know how to get it. He doesn't have real friends, just other insecure bullies that are afraid of him turning on them if they don't cowtow to him.
If all else fails, tell him you feel sorry for him. Bullies really hate that.

It really scares them, and they may leave you alone because they dont want you exposing to the other wolves they hang out with that they aren't as tough as they pretend to be.
You are the tough one, I can tell.

 

[SillyChicken]

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She definatly needs to ignore him and he will go away, but he may also get worse and push her as hard as he can before he'll give up.
As long as she keeps that in mind and remains steadfast to ignore his behavior and that of the others....she'll come out of this the stronger person.

I had to deal with bullies in school too, and that's what he is, a bully.

 

[Katy]

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Now don't die of shock redhen, but I 100% agree with you.

I'm sorry the OP's mother is ill, but as for all her drama at school....I'm thinking he/she enjoy's it and likes the attention it gets her.

 

[ranchhand]

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Now don't die of shock redhen, but I 100% agree with you.

I'm sorry the OP's mother is ill, but as for all her drama at school....I'm thinking he/she enjoy's it and likes the attention it gets her.

Sit down Red..........

but I think you nailed it. What we have here is a young person who is suddenly in a situation where Mom is getting 100% of the attention. Someone who is not accustomed to being passed by. And rightfully does have a reason to feel neglected a bit, but is not mature enough to deal with it. I can sympathize a bit, when my mother went nuts due to brain cancer, it was a nightmare.

But I read each post and it sure seems like the OP is creating and/or encouraging the melodrama in order to gain attention from peers and teachers. Most likely a call for help? Frequently people who are needy/high maintenance are happy to get ANY attention, even negative is better than none.

So.... Fluffy: You need to get back on track. There are at least 2 sides to every story, usually more. I'd like to hear from your schoolmates. I imagine they would have a whole different view.

Your dog died some 9 months ago. I am sorry, because that is very painful. But after all that time, you need to move on, your schoolmates are probably sick of hearing about it. And every time you burst into tears you are just asking for more trouble.

Your mom is very sick, and she needs all your love, help and support. My mom got really difficult, and many times I had to just walk outside for a bit so I could regain my patience and composure. It's a nightmare, but somehow, someway, it will eventually be resolved. help you dad and brother. Become the STRONG one.

As far as the chicks? Sell them. Give them away. You have FAR more important things in your life right now.

Stop responding to schoolmates by screaming and complaining. Lift your chin and stay quiet. Don't rise to the bait. That's going to take a while to take effect, because you have already shown them exactly what buttons to push so you will entertain them with your tantrums. Time to be mature.

It sounds harsh, but I wish you the best. If you don't make some changes within yourself, you are going to be a whiny, miserable person all your life. Set your chin, learn patience and become a person you can be proud of being!

 

[ranchhand]

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Good point and an excellent time to remind people that not only can members of BYC read all posts, so can the WORLD.

 

[Tomhusker]

Sounds like a Jr. High school crush to me.

But yeah sweetie, save some of this drama by being the mature one. Show your mom the love and attention she needs and don't sweat things so much. Move on.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

to the last several posts

 

[A1 Steak Sauce]

Well, since you put this on here, I'll give you my honset opinion. May sound harsh, but here goes.

1. Very sorry about your mom, I know that's really got to suck. I don't know if a public forum is the place to write about her exactly, but I'm sorry y'all have to go through that.

2. Dealing with a bully is part of life. Think you'll hit a magic age when people all of a sudden stop annoying you and being jerks? Keep dreaming.

So from reading your little stories, you seem, to me anyway, like a drama queen who's mad that she's not getting attention at home like she used to and is trying her best to set herself up to get bullied by this kid, just to grab every little ounce of attention she can. You know what, you lost your dog about 9 months ago, sorry for your loss I know it's hard, but it's time to grow up a little now. It almost sounds like you're milking it just trying to get any sympathy. And I know your dealing with a lot at home with your mom, but you need to be there for her now instead of wallowing in self-pity. To me, it really sounds like you're trying to create even more things to feel pitiful about... I guess if you like being miserable, go for it, you seem to be doing a good job. Stay out of the kid's way, just ignore him, I assume you're still young enough that you can get away with not truly having to interact with him. It'll give you good practice for later when you're an adult with a job you don't like, stuck with a co-worker you wish would just fall off the planet. Except then, you have to find a way to communicate with them and be nice while they're acting like spoiled brats. Not easy, but then life's not fair, so get over that way of thinking. I tend to think it's time you started being more mature, stop trying to create drama, and realize that you're going to have to deal civilly with people you can't stand, to put it mildly (not easy, believe me, I have a few family members just like that boy you described.) And here's a tip: I know you're stressed, but crying over every little thing (bad grade, etc) is just setting yourself up for disaster. Especially at your age. You just need to rein it in a little bit, things won't always suck so bad. I'm not saying this stuff to pick on you, just trying to help from my experience.

 

[DuckLady]

Lots of good advice and I think the OP can find much to think about with everyone's helpful words.