he just makes me rethink it all!
He has severe adhd and moderate clinical depression, super low self esteem --
its not like we tore him down etc ya know..just him internalizing normal discipline to him..seemed like we hated him...
he was physically bullied in public schools...could NOT handle the extreme rigidity of certain teachers -- he needed to fidget w/hands and they
would not allow him to do so...they'd give detentions after detentions and after a while..he started just not doing their work et...which of course..landed
him (rightly so) in in-school detention...
so then the kids would pick/bully him MORE-so...and the first time he was PHYSICALLY bullied he was on the ground, face down, in a headlock and the kid was
rib punching him..my son is in TKDo and he can defend himself; but in our school our master instructor does not allow the kids to use TKDo to defend themselves
unless its life/death..so he took his hand/fist and popped the kid in the mouth while he was on ground face down..
--there were no teachers around and no other students...
so they both got suspended...
which of course made J a target even more...(now I dont profess my son is an angel!! I know better!)
then his self confidence went to the toilet; remember we're dealing with a kid with moderate clinical depression (runs in my family..my eldest dd was severely depressed/suicidal for a while) ugh..
so then he acted up more..didnt do homework; started flunking...
we had meeting after meeting after meeting, detention after detention after detention..
504 plans, IEP's etc..the school followed them for a SHORT time..then fell back onto "he should just act right-- the other kids dont get rewards for acting right..why should he" so
they'd stop with the reward system..which when it was used..his grades went back to A/B's and he loved school...when the school slacked on what they were legally supposed to do,
it went right to pot again...
very long story short; one of the really rigid teachers, who I just know in my heart; hated Jeron, called me one day when he misunderstood what I said to do...he said to her that he wasnt supposed to do
her work in class; that he had to bring it home..
well what I had really said was; "Jeron, whatever work you do in class; bring home and we'll do it at home (meaning finish it!!)..
she got angry and called me in front of him, said a lot of angry statements but the one that stuck with me and HIM..is: "Jeron is nothing but a waste of air/space in my classroom!"
yep I called the principal..he said he'd ck into it..she admitted to saying things she shouldnt have said..no discipline was brought to her tho..
kept going on and on..the same ole stuff..later on...there was no witnesses; just Jeron against another kid..the kid said jeron was going to stab him in the neck w/a fork..
there was video..nothing happened; J didnt even go by this kid...but Jeron was suspended rest of school yr..then they called up 2 days b4 school ended and said c'mon bafck..
I said no thanks..and now we homeschool...
I honestly DISLIKE homeschooling; I am not the leave it to beaver mom who likes to cook, clean and school my children..
I'm not your stereotypical woman...I'd rather be running my business, out in the workforce etc..but my priority is to my family...
DH/I made a vow to never put another child of ours into any sort of daycare; after our eldest DD was sexually abused there...
we've kept that vow..
so here I sit...was despising another day of homeschooling..but my son surprised me...
he got up after I went back to bed (I have migraines..and can usually head one off if I lay down)....cleaned the living room ....did his math; he got a c+ on it (graded on computer automatically),
he read his Mystery of History book; chapter on Stonehenge and made the "younger" activity; where he built his own stonehenge out of large rocks and superglue...we'll do the middle grade students one tomorrow..
got his science crystal growing box out and read the instructions, got them all ready to do..and when I got up..he did his experiment while I supervised...
I'm forgoing english and spelling today as I dont feel good enough to teach it...
but just when I think I have him figured out..he blows my mind and steps up to do it on his own...this rarely happens...
he must be having a "good self esteem" day...and I'm happy for that...
Now; does anyone have any ideas/help/hints/tricks to help his self esteem?? its still low; but not to the point where he goes to bed and cries anymore...
to those who homeschool; how do you keep your cool? I go absolutely batty...remember; my husband works every other week 77 hrs and he isnt able
to help me at all...
ideas? tips? tricks? curriculum thats great for a 13 yr old 7th grader?? we need a science one and I despise my english one...I am going to ICHE national convention in Naperville IL in june
to get more curriculum for 8th grade tho...
He has severe adhd and moderate clinical depression, super low self esteem --
its not like we tore him down etc ya know..just him internalizing normal discipline to him..seemed like we hated him...
he was physically bullied in public schools...could NOT handle the extreme rigidity of certain teachers -- he needed to fidget w/hands and they
would not allow him to do so...they'd give detentions after detentions and after a while..he started just not doing their work et...which of course..landed
him (rightly so) in in-school detention...
so then the kids would pick/bully him MORE-so...and the first time he was PHYSICALLY bullied he was on the ground, face down, in a headlock and the kid was
rib punching him..my son is in TKDo and he can defend himself; but in our school our master instructor does not allow the kids to use TKDo to defend themselves
unless its life/death..so he took his hand/fist and popped the kid in the mouth while he was on ground face down..
--there were no teachers around and no other students...
so they both got suspended...
which of course made J a target even more...(now I dont profess my son is an angel!! I know better!)
then his self confidence went to the toilet; remember we're dealing with a kid with moderate clinical depression (runs in my family..my eldest dd was severely depressed/suicidal for a while) ugh..
so then he acted up more..didnt do homework; started flunking...
we had meeting after meeting after meeting, detention after detention after detention..
504 plans, IEP's etc..the school followed them for a SHORT time..then fell back onto "he should just act right-- the other kids dont get rewards for acting right..why should he" so
they'd stop with the reward system..which when it was used..his grades went back to A/B's and he loved school...when the school slacked on what they were legally supposed to do,
it went right to pot again...
very long story short; one of the really rigid teachers, who I just know in my heart; hated Jeron, called me one day when he misunderstood what I said to do...he said to her that he wasnt supposed to do
her work in class; that he had to bring it home..
well what I had really said was; "Jeron, whatever work you do in class; bring home and we'll do it at home (meaning finish it!!)..
she got angry and called me in front of him, said a lot of angry statements but the one that stuck with me and HIM..is: "Jeron is nothing but a waste of air/space in my classroom!"
yep I called the principal..he said he'd ck into it..she admitted to saying things she shouldnt have said..no discipline was brought to her tho..
kept going on and on..the same ole stuff..later on...there was no witnesses; just Jeron against another kid..the kid said jeron was going to stab him in the neck w/a fork..
there was video..nothing happened; J didnt even go by this kid...but Jeron was suspended rest of school yr..then they called up 2 days b4 school ended and said c'mon bafck..
I said no thanks..and now we homeschool...
I honestly DISLIKE homeschooling; I am not the leave it to beaver mom who likes to cook, clean and school my children..
I'm not your stereotypical woman...I'd rather be running my business, out in the workforce etc..but my priority is to my family...
DH/I made a vow to never put another child of ours into any sort of daycare; after our eldest DD was sexually abused there...
we've kept that vow..
so here I sit...was despising another day of homeschooling..but my son surprised me...
he got up after I went back to bed (I have migraines..and can usually head one off if I lay down)....cleaned the living room ....did his math; he got a c+ on it (graded on computer automatically),
he read his Mystery of History book; chapter on Stonehenge and made the "younger" activity; where he built his own stonehenge out of large rocks and superglue...we'll do the middle grade students one tomorrow..
got his science crystal growing box out and read the instructions, got them all ready to do..and when I got up..he did his experiment while I supervised...
I'm forgoing english and spelling today as I dont feel good enough to teach it...
but just when I think I have him figured out..he blows my mind and steps up to do it on his own...this rarely happens...
he must be having a "good self esteem" day...and I'm happy for that...
Now; does anyone have any ideas/help/hints/tricks to help his self esteem?? its still low; but not to the point where he goes to bed and cries anymore...
to those who homeschool; how do you keep your cool? I go absolutely batty...remember; my husband works every other week 77 hrs and he isnt able
to help me at all...
ideas? tips? tricks? curriculum thats great for a 13 yr old 7th grader?? we need a science one and I despise my english one...I am going to ICHE national convention in Naperville IL in june
to get more curriculum for 8th grade tho...