Stalkers Are Not Fun!

[agnes_day]

you guys are a lot nicer than i would be..i would show up at his workplace with the police and either embarrass him into leaving me alone or press charges..when he calls, i wouldnt be telling him that you will call him back, i would tell him that if he calls again or even thinks of showing up, he will be very sorry.

 

[calicokat]

I'm hoping that you get this resolved today - I have a 3rd shift DH too, and it's no fun being home and scared at night!!

 

[19hhbelgian]

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Honestly, confronting him like that is possibly exactly what he wants - attention from the OP. Whether she has the police with her or not, SHE is still there... Don't talk to him/face him. Don't do anything that he could consider attention from you.

GO WAKE HUBBY UP!!!!! I understand that he's tired, but you're his wife, and you are being harrassed/stalked by this guy!!!!

 

[Picky Chicky]

Another little update:

DH called the office and both owners were not available. One was out of the office for the day, and the other was in a meeting. Personally, if I were calling (I'm letting DH handle this though - per his request), I would've demanded they drag that one out of his little meeting, but DH said he'd try the owner back later.

Now remember, the stalker guy called the house earlier and DH got that call - he told the stalker that he would call him back later (he didn't bless him out that minute because the stalker guy woke him up out of a dead sleep - and he didn't want to try and bless this guy out without having a clear head to do so). So imagine my (not really) surprise when...

The Stalker guy called my work again (this is 2x today) - no message this time - he'd left one the first time, and then less than a minute later he called the cell again (which also rings to the house). So I really hoped DH would wake up and try the manager again - no such luck. Drat!

This time the stalker left a message on my cell and it made me start to feel like maybe I'm overreacting again, because this guy sounds absolutely clueless... he said something like "Sorry we keep missing each other.... big game of phone tag... spoke to your husband earlier.... would like to try and get you set up with that installation... etc" Don't both parties have to be calling one another and missing them in order to be playing phone tag??

Perhaps the reason I feel like maybe I'm overreacting is because I haven't picked up the phone and actually told this guy to back the

off and stop calling me... that I'll call you back when I'm ready to call you!

I think to consider this a legitimate stalker case, don't I have to tell the guy to stop calling and the guy ignore the request? But then again, DH did answer the phone and told the guy we'd call him back later. So I don't know.

Wish DH would hurry up and wakey wakey to try that manager again before he decides to leave for the day too.

Thanks guys for letting me subject you to my mindless ramblings... I'm not feeling as jittery as I was a couple hours ago, but I know the second the stalker calls back, my anxiety will go through the roof!

 

[kagedgoddess]

you said your dh is LEO? my dh is too and is on nights too, if this were happening to us, he would have flipped out already. does your dh have a car at home? mine does and that maybe why mine is more paraniod. if he does this guy MAY be doing this bc he IS a felon and is targeting you bc dh IS an LEO. he might not stop either just bc you report him. that all being said, at least you know if something Where to happen the law is on Your side, literally! good luck, i hope it ends quickly for you.

 

[Picky Chicky]

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Yep, DH is LEO. He's on nights for now, but thank goodness he's coming off again for a month and will be back on days after tonight's shift. Whew! And yep, car is at home - but only when he's home. The stalker guy was actually the sales guy (who hasn't been to our house), and not the tech that came out.

Good news though!

All total today the stalker guy has called 6 times. 10:30a, 10:35a, 11:50a, 11:58a, 3:36p and 3:37p. That was all a mix between my work and cell (which again, is connected to home). Poor DH only got a total of 3 hours of sleep between all the disturbances.

The last disturbance at 3:37p, my cell rang but I noticed it stopped real quick - which meant DH picked up the house phone. My stomach was in total knots until 15 minutes later when DH called me back to update me.

In a nutshell he told the guy that he thought he told him earlier that he was on night shifts and asleep... and that he'd call him back later. He then let's the guy know that his constant attempts to reach us - over 7 times Tuesday, just as many yesterday afternoon, and then 6 times today are completely out of line and the stalker says, I'd like to think I'm persistent. DH enlightens him that persistence isn't the word for it. He asks the guy if there are any other sales people in his department, and then stalker starts to get a little huffy and says that there are, but only he takes care of our area, and DH cut him short and said that he wasn't to ever call any of our numbers again, etc. That if we decide that we want to get service through them, we would contact the owners directly.

That's the abbreviated version of the call - I'm not giving DH all the glory he deserves for taking that one. As of this moment the guy hasn't called back. Of course it's only 4:11pm as I look at the clock.

In retrospect, after his talk to the stalker, DH called the office back to speak with one of the owners. They reiterated that one of them was out today, and the other left early due to a death in the family. While I wouldn't want to seem disrespectful or rude, I'm not so sure I believe them. Reason being, when stalker left me a voicemail (see previous post above), you could hear the owner in the background. That was only a couple hours ago. Then again, anything can happen but it sure does seem like a convenient excuse to crutch on.

On a lighter note... while talking to DH I could hear Sara in the background barking like Cujo. I asked DH what in the world was going on that she sounded so vicious.... UPS guy. I started laughing and told him it was really too bad that the UPS guy hadn't come 15 minutes sooner while he was on the phone with stalker - that way if DH wasn't making him nervous, Sara definitely would have!

 

[wombat]

Report the guy to his employers.

File a police report.

Get a restraining order.

Get a gun.

 

[Picky Chicky]

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We'll be covering the first one tomorrow morning.... and I think we're covered with the gun - got plenty of them!

The middle two we'll hold off on for now unless stalker starts calling again (post discussion with DH).

Where's a halo smiley when you need one?

 

[debilorrah]

I do not think you are over reacting at all. This guy's calls are FAR outside the range of normal business. It would creep me out too.

 

[wombat]

Yeah, the behavior is creepy enough, but far worse since the guy's a felon.