Starting a new day without Smoking!

[vfem]

Ok.... just going to bed then.... I'm clueless.

 

[MSHEN]

The urge to smoke will go away without smoking that cig. If you smoke, you will want another and another. Don't do it. Smoking is NOT an option! You have permission to scream. cry, throw things and behave as badly as you need to, just do not smoke. Do whatever helps you through the cravings. I had to use the lozenges. That was one of the things. Staying busy, enlisting my family and friends to keep telling me i was going to be ok and offer support. You have it here too. Every day smoke free gets better. The first week is tough. You may have intense cravings at the end of the first and second months, but gradually they will ease. Take heart, this kind of intensity wont last forever. If they did, no one could quit. Write down all your reasons you are quitting. Post it where you can see them. Next to your bed. On your mirrors, the fridge, in your vehicle. Breathe deep, cleansing breaths. You will cough worse for a while, clearing your lungs. You will feel loopy because of the unaccustomed extra oxygen to the brain and tissues. Don't hesitate to call your doctor,if you are having problems with your emotions that don't resolve in time. Above all ,be proud of yourself!

 

[vfem]

I just get a craving, and then my husband gets a craving... so he has to announce it... so of course I'm like SURE I'd love a smoke. I don't though... he doesn't either.

We grumble at each other, or cuss or whatever we need in the moment to move on to the next craving free moment.

Right before bed last night he kept talking about it.... asking me why I didn't want to gradually cut us off before I just said "I'm quitting smoking and that's that!". I honestly don't know why I didn't, but I did... and I can't go back now.

He's driving all day today for work, so I'm worried about him 2+ hours each way drive for his job today.... I'm worried he'll break. Of course, right now I have to concentrate on me, though I can't really concentrate right now at all. Thankfully, I don't have a job to do other then this house and my daughter. If I had a boss.... he'd be really annoyed with me right now.

 

[toletiquesbysam]

What is it Day 3?!?!?!!!!! Great Job!!!
It will get easier and you can't control what your DH does, just concentrate on YOU!!!

We're Proud of YOU!!!!

 

[DawnSuiter]

VFEM... why didn't you join the rest of us BYC'ers in the Smokers Quit Campaign??? https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=114877&p=60

 

[CityClucks]

Hang in there vfem - your strong attitude in the face of these withdrawal symptoms is encouraging - you can do it!

I so wish my boyfriend would quit...I hate it and I hate what I know it's doing to him. My grandfather died of emphysema 10 years after he quit smoking - I took care of him in his last months. I am so afraid I'll have to go through that again with my DBF. But I know all my nagging won't help, so I am at a loss.

 

[vfem]

Well it looks like that started way before I was ready.... Who knows.... I may not have been ready until next year this time. I couldn't have been ready 2 weeks ago. It just came over me....

I think the final kick in the butt was a couple of days ago.... my daughter and I were out playing and she said "Mommy come swing" and I said "just wait a minute honey, let mommy finish smoking..." Then she says "Ok mama.... Zoe smoke?" and put her hands out for it! Yeah, I was disgusted in myself and completely ashamed I'd let her see that.

Didn't matter that I didn't smoke in the house, and I don't smoke in the car... I try to only smoke outside while she's away doing something... but she always comes back over while I'm having a cigerette to see what MAMA is doing?!

Yeah, this is day 3.... and today is a guilt day.

At least I have to run some errands later.... the bank and Lowe's called with our siding that finally came back in. Daughter and I have a few more kernels of corn to plant in the garden if the rain holds off today. I got my fingers crossed.... another busy day (I'm running out of baked goods. LOL )

 

[DawnSuiter]

Quote:
Its NEVER TOO LATE to join us in the Smokers Quit Campaign!!! Lots of folks have recently wandered in and are giving it a go! What it is though is a thread full of people like you! A support group within the BYC structure.

That's the one I keep up with

so I hope to see you there, checking in and helping us all to help you. I've tried lots.. but with a thread FULL of people in the same boat, some have given up, some have tried to stop several times, a few of us are successful for the time being... but we're all in it together.

If it weren't for the BYC'ers thread.. I may NEVER have quit. Honestly.. I've tried lots of support groups... this one was different because I'm here often anyway.. didn't have to go to a new site...or program.

 

[vfem]

Well l should wonder over that way then!

 

[MSHEN]

Didn't know it existed either! Course, I'm a newbie too. Guess I'll see ya'll over there.