Suing parent for child support?

[goobhen]

If your grandparents did not get legal custody/guardianship when you went to live with them, then I am not sure anything can be done now if you are 18 or older. I agree with whoever said you need to talk to an attorney. Indiana has come along way with child welfare issues. I know of a couple who divorced and child went to live with grandparents. The grandparents are getting the child support. Parent will have to pay for college, not grandparents. If your mother is covering you with insurance, you are very blessed. if your are eighteen and if you did not go to college within 12 months of graduating, I do not think you can get any money now. (you would be considered emancipated) You can always sue some one for something, if you can pay the attorney's fees, does not mean you will win. Also, if you are unable to cover copays/medicine, you need to check into Ithe Healthy Indiana Plan (HIP) program or Medicaid. You may not be eligible since your mother has you on her insurance, but check it out anyway. Good luck! Sometimes it is better to choose your own family, and let your "real family" go. I have found that I am better off without some of my family members whose sole purpose in life was to make me feel I was lucky to hear their harsh judgemental opinions on my life choices. Life is to short for that junk, IMHO!

 

[LittleChickenLady]

Thanks goobhen.
I am in college, about to start my Sophomore year, and according to the school I'm legally dependant upon my mom even though she gives me nothing besides an insurance card.
I live out on my own with my boyfriend though.

We found a site that said it can be enforced 10 years after 18th birthday or date on emancipation. Whichever came first.

 

[goobhen]

The Indiana Bar Association used to offer free telephone consultations every Tuesday evening. Check to see if they still do. I tried to Goggle it for you, but I could not find it. I would check this out now, not wait. I am not endorsing you to sue your parents, but I would see if they are obligated to help you out in some fashion..... Again, good luck to you....

 

[Momagain1]

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Not trying to start anything; but I would be seriously hurt if my 20 yr old who depended on me for insurance said that...

MY payments to insurance for her coverage costs me several hundred a month...I have to pay the premium and 20% of each doc visit...
(not to mention after that I keep her in medicine for her type 1 diabetes)...Mine lives w/her boyfriend too...

I have fought all my daughters life for Child support..but even if she wasnt the best person for you..please acknowledge the goodness
IN an insurance card...

 

[LittleChickenLady]

Quote:
Not trying to start anything; but I would be seriously hurt if my 20 yr old who depended on me for insurance said that...

MY payments to insurance for her coverage costs me several hundred a month...I have to pay the premium and 20% of each doc visit...
(not to mention after that I keep her in medicine for her type 1 diabetes)...Mine lives w/her boyfriend too...

I have fought all my daughters life for Child support..but even if she wasnt the best person for you..please acknowledge the goodness
IN an insurance card...

Well, I've tried to get her to drop me but she apparently can't. And my mom is a manipulating drug addict and alcoholic.
She's never EVER been a mother and then tries to play the "poor me" card.
I've tried numerous times to be friendly with her and it only leaves me hurt and screwed over.
She's no good. Period.
So no, I really don't care. Sorry.

And unlike you, my mom doesn't care whether or not I have medicine for my medical problems.
She only cares about herself and getting her drugs.

 

[Forrest_Flock]

so sorry about that

 

[txreddirtgirl]

((sigh)) I have no advice. I'm not the one walking in your shoes so I'm not going to tell you what you should/shouldn't do. Just wanted to say sorry that mom AND dad were/are so rotten to you...I can't stand stories of deadbeat parents.

Kudos to your grandparents tho!

 

[mommyofthreewithchicks]

I agree with those who are telling you to move passed this... I raised 3 in-laws and while we did get child support it did not cover all of our expenses with the kids, never mind having to move into a bigger house (we were in a two bedroom apt before, and lived on top of each other for two years before we could afford to move). Both mother-in-law and father-in-law are dead beat parents and both have thrown the $ in our faces, both have hurt our very souls with their lies and outright hatred. We, all of us are trying very hard to walk away from the parents of the family I married into. I am trying very hard to get past my anger toward them and trying to help the kids and my hubby get past it as well.

While your grandma should have the money shouldn't she sue for it? And you can declare yourself with your college. I would look into it, we had one of our "big kids" do this. But if anyone is still claiming you on tax returns you can't do this.

Hope you start the healing process and really hope you figure things out!


Michelle

 

[LittleChickenLady]

Thanks guys.

You know, I went way out of my way to make sure that my dad knew that I wanted nothing to do with him, but he still randomly calls/texts me.
He actually texted me the other night telling me to tell my sister (who I also try not to talk to because she's not much better) to get ahold of him. Then at the end of it, he added, "oh, and thanks for checking on me when I got out of the hospital. Love you too"

It really made me mad, and I thought about it for several days and after talking to my grandma I decided to send him a text back explaining why I don't care.
I still haven't had a reply, and I think he's gotten the point. Hopefully.

As for my school, I've tried everything I could. I had people write letters, I wrote letters, I showed proof of everything that they needed, etc. and they STILL denied me when I tried to apply as an independent.

I was told it was all because of the insurance.
But..
The lady then told me that if I got pregnant or married I could be an independent student.

It just doesn't seem right.

 

[paperdragonfarm]

I had similar problems when I went to school. So I put out an ad, posted it right on Financial Aids door. "Can't file as an independent? Parent's to poor? Looking for Marriage Lease. Expected length: 4 years. Consummation not required or desired. Please contact me at..." No takers, but if I had waited a few years my best friend would have been all about it. Waiting for the marriage laws to catch up with me probably would have cost me less in the long run. Hind sight and all that.