Surrogacy

[crzychickenlady]

I can offer a bit of help. I'm 32 and had my last baby 7 months ago. I have 2 older children, one 10 and the other 14. All 3 of my pregnancies were different, the last one of course was the hardest on me....not to scare you....

The last one was hard on me because, come to find out, I have cervical and uterine Cancer. I had constant nausea and vomiting throughout my entire pregnancy, back pain all the time, but that was due to carrying a very LARGE baby, lol.

Aside from the Cancer, I think that my last pregnancy would have been nothing more than uncomfortable because my son was HUGE, so much so, my doctor induced me 2 weeks early and I had a healthy 8 pound 2 ounce baby!
I was actually healthier before that pregnancy, i think due to my age and knowing that I needed to take better care of myself, so that was a plus....Also, the time span in between my other two....I forgot what it was like to carry a baby, LOL!

There are risks involved with any pregnancy, I don't think your age is anything you should worry about. I think it's a great thing that you are doing for your friends!! Good luck if and when you go through with it!!

I love showing this pic, lol, here's my HUGE belly at 2 weeks before delivery which was actually 1 month before my actual due date.....

 

[PotterWatch]

I know how you felt with the big baby. I went into labor with my youngest three weeks early due to having gotten too dehydrated from the flu. Boy was I glad for that flu as he was 8.10 at that point! He was born Feb. 12 but wasn't due until March 5th! I can't imagine how big he would have been if he had waited until his due date!

I hope you are cancer free now!

 

[redhen]

What a sweet thing for you to do. I am also infertile..i need donor eggs(but can carry the child..) and i'm struggling to find the finances to pay for the donor eggs.. (hopefully by spring i'll have the money!

) *heehee just thought of something..i'll be buying chicken and human eggs in the spring... *

So i thank you for helping this couple.

 

[Epona142]

I have considered both donating eggs and being a surrogate off and on.

I've done a bit of research here and there, more lately. I know I wouldn't have a problem with it, long personal story, but I think I would do well.

I think you're awesome for looking into this.

 

[robbdebbie]

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[Emzyyy]

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My brother and I almost weighed 10 pounds. I think I was 9.8? I can't imagine what my mom looked like with us if your son was only 8.2?!

I never plan on having children because I'm a carrier for muscular distrophy and I just don't want that on my shoulders.

Anyone who would do this for someone else is a hero in my books.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Just make sure you do your research on all the laws. Surrogacy can be a very tricky thing (we had to do a ton of research for a college class this semester on the subject). Even though your friends may be great people, there is always the chance that they may want to back out of the agreement if the baby ends up with some sort of defect, or even if it is not the sex they want. You will have to be prepared to handle a situation like this. Also, make sure you are mentally able to let go of a child after birth. I would definitely suggest a screening by a professional before going through with it.

Just make sure you do your research! Talk with a lawyer, read, talk to other surrogates. I think it is a great thing for a person to do, but unfortunately today's laws can make the whole process very difficult.

 

[MissPrissy]

I was a surrogate.

If you don't have your head on straight don't even think about it.

If at any time even for the the slightest second you think you will want to have a part in this child's life in any way other than a way being invited by the people who are going to be the parents don't do it.

Also remember this - once you do it, you can never go back. They may decide they don't want anything to do with you after you do this for them. There is a lot to gain and lot more to loose.

Do your homeowrk. Read your state laws. Get a family law attorney who has handled surrogates and adoptions. Most state require a formal adoption after the baby is born.

Also - pray. If you ever for one moment have a doubt about the process - don't do it.

For me it was the best experience of my life. I have done the process twice. The oldest child is now 14.

 

[Backyard Buddies]

Hey Potter! We met at Carri's house at the So. Cal Chickenstock, remember?

I know someone who has been a surrogate for the same couple (twice!) giving them a boy and a girl. If you want to PM me, I'll check with her and see if she's willing to share her story with you.