Teenage daughters. Arrrghhh!!!

[chook pen jen]

My DD eventualy said sorry for being such a rotten teen.Its not easy being a teen but its worse being their mum sometimes.She still loves you even when she wont show it.

 

[HeartLunger]

My wife and I just had our first daughter 8 days ago. I hope that this is not what is in store for us. We have two young boys and they are all about being disgusting and dirty.

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

My dd is 6 and is already rolling her eyes, not wanting to walk with me in stores and the mall. Too bad for her

Luckily she loves the animals like I do. But I am sure that as she gets older, since we are definitely not the "norm" for families here. The chickens are just one thing that makes us different.

She will be more embarrassed by me and her dad.

Angiechick- my sister was/is that way. I am the older and my sister has always been the needy and pushy one.
She has also been the one to treat my mom poorly. Yet my mom still treats her the same

I have never understood that.
I am strict with my dd. She knows there are rules and she challenges them now and again. But I know she NEEDS that. That discipline. It kills me when I hear other parents talking about how they cant get their kid to go to bed early. Sleep in their own bed. Pick up after them selves, brush their teeth, get dressed on their own etc.
Sarah has been sleeping in her own room alone since she was a few weeks old(sometimes we have a "sleep over" and I sleep with her. Kid has a full size bed) She has always had a bedtime of 8pm, (daddy gets home late) I can even get her to bed at 7 without a complaint. She takes showers regularly, brushes her teeth without prompting and I havent had to dress her since she was a year and half old. She started walking and that was the end of me having to dress her. I have final say on clothes. But luckily she doesnt do "hoochie" They learn by what they "see" and there is no "Hooch" in this house.

I have been so blessed with this child. She was a surprise baby. I wasnt supposed to be able to get /stay pregnant without "help" And she has been NOTHING like what I expected a baby or kid to be. She has always been "studious", kind to animals by nature, Kind to others and sharp as a tack. If my sisters child is half as good and as much fun as my kid is, she will be very very lucky. I just hope that my sister can handle being a mom

 

[Ferngully]

I think some teen girls are the worst of the 2 sexes at times. Ours put us through pure, severe, h***. Things that would cause most marriages to end. Someday your daughter will "get" it and will possiblly turn around and be your best buddy.

Couple of things to remember:
(The serious one) Be thankful she is not in a gang, using drugs, running away, stealing, destroying property.... the list goes on....

(The humorous one) There is alot to be said for the old phrase "her kids will be twice as bad as her" take this with a satisfaction

because one day she will be coming to you exasperated and frustrated and at wits end and you can silently giggle inside until your sides burst. Just nod your head, listen, bring up things she did and how YOU tried to handle them. Funny thing is she will never remember having done those things. This fun doesn't get to start for quite a few years, but by the time her first child is 2, oh it gets so satisfying. It is called grandparents revenge.

It is sort of like an old wives tale, but like some tales it holds so true.

My sister was "blessed" with a red headed daughter. I so can't wait for the fun to begin. As my husband and I are the aunt and uncle, the "other" parents if need be, and the surrogate grandparents (due to death in the family). So I get to triple spoil, AND get triple satisfaction in the payback for the rotten teen she was to my parents.

 

[Ferngully]

One more thing.. make a sign for her door that reads

"quick, hire a teen while they still know everything"

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Around age 15 boys hit Stupid Boy Phase. It's the phase during which you hear things like "Hey, y'all. Bet I can skateboard down this railing, across a sting of dental floss over a pit of snarling alligators, through the flaming ring of fire." They do phenomenally dumb things with no real regard for personal welfare and safety. When questioned as to why on earth they would do such a thing they respond with silence or "I dunno". It's why insurance for young men is studendously high. The insurance companies understand that boys are dumb as a box of rocks about that time and clearly will be risking life and limb. The good news is that most men outgrow this by age 30. Most.

Around age 13 girls hit Mean Girl Phase. Sadly, their mothers bear the brunt of this hatefulness. They become the smartest things on the planet and clearly the rest of the peasants around them should be banished. They are ashamed that they have come from such commoners and secretly suspect that they were adopted at birth and actually come from royalty. Clearly this stupid, unfeeling, embarrassing witch could not be their mother! Heavens, no! Level one of Mean Girl Phase ends when the child moves out of the house. Level two ends when she gets married and level three and the last dregs of Mean Girl Phase completely vanish when she has her first child. Then her mother becomes the wisest, smartest, sweetest woman on earth and the fount of all knowledge.

I suspect that Stupid Boy Phase and Mean Girl Phase are why our ancestors married them off about that age and moved them out of the house. Nothing like a dose of reality to halt both phases in their tracks!

Good luck. She'll turn back into a human someday.

 

[Chicken Lil]

Thanks to all for your insights and thoughts. I truly appreciate the kind responses.

Would you believe that this morning when we were getting ready to leave for work/school she came up to me and gave me a hug.

Than she said she was sorry she was so mean to me yesterday.

Seems her friend is having probelms with her mom not accepting her being a "band geek". The mom is a really stuck up, former cheerleader, who is always on her daughter to dress better and lose weight. Not that this girl is overweight, just not stick thin.

Well I guess my DD realized that I love her the way she is, and that I encourage her to be herself. So she told me that she should be more accepting of me (and my chickens).

Sometimes teens can just knock you over with a feather (chicken)!!

 

[SunAngel]

They dole out those random acts of kindness just to keep us from murdering them.

Yesterday mine nagged her brother, yelled at the dog, argued back and forth with her father and I, picked on her youngest brother and complained about her sore throat....all in the half hour they took to get ready for school. I was about ready to drop kick her to the bus stop. They walk out the door, her without saying a word to us and down the street. 2 minutes later she makes me run for my phone. I'm thinking, now what did she forget?

The text message simply says.... Love you!

If I didnt laugh about it, I would need a straight jacket!

 

[wendy]

The last three post on here are funny! Kids are kids aren't they?

 

[Leah-yes I know I'm crazy]

My mom used to smile and say, "I hope you are really lucky and your children are only half as rotten as you are." Funny.
Now a totally different personality has evolved called grandma who seems to get a kick out of the evil things my own children do and spoils them when she can. When we went to visit her in Florida she pulled cookie dough out of the fridge and baked my kids cookies right before dinner. Like a half hour before dinner she gives them a plate full of cookies. Was it really some sort of revenge? That woman made me eat canned slime, I mean spinach.