The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

[speckledhen]

This is hell week here so I'm about to unload a minute. My son is arriving from S. Korea tomorrow and has to be picked up in Maryville, TN at the airport. My husband can barely walk because his back went out in the worst way yesterday, but he has to drive the 2 hours to pick him up. Chris can't rent a car because his license has expired, which is partly why he's coming back, to renew it. The physical therapy has the last session this Friday. In the six weeks he's been suffering through it, it has done ZERO good because Mr. Skeletal Vegan the PT guy thinks exercise is all that is needed, but it has not touched the root cause of the pain, as we knew it wouldn't. So, he's no better off then when he started, only now he can say he tried it their way.
They've been futzing around with this crap for so many years, trying not to really do anything that costs them money. I am at my wits end with this mess. He can't be sympathetic to my stress when he's in excruciating pain and I understand that, but it doesn't mean that my own back doesn't hurt, my ankle isn't throbbing, I don't get headaches in the high humidity we're having, that I don't have to take up the slack and do all the dirty jobs I hate and watch the garden being completely overgrown again, all the while trying to do things I want and like to do, as well as trying to take care of him and the cat and the chickens and stressing about how this place is a never-ending list of chores and maintenance that will never get done.
And now I have to deal with a week with my son, too. I won't even go into that relationship and his issues. No telling what bombshell he'll drop on us this trip--I have a feeling that may be one purpose of this trip as well. On top of that, we had two power outages this week which fried a computer and turned off my freezer downstairs-thankfully, I caught it before it was all completely defrosted-and my stupid little camera went wacko and I had to order a new one. Some days I just want someone to come say, "there, there, you just go get yourself a long nap and I'll take care of everything". And that's my self-pitying whine for the day.

 

[1muttsfan]

Wish I could help!

My BF seems to be going through manopause - so far he has told me basically I'm rude to waiters (?), bad tempered, I embarrass him in front of our friends, and needs to just do what he says and shut up. Well. That's not likely, but I have been avoiding him as much as possible this week, which also pisses him off. Retirement does not seem to agree with him. Makes me feel pretty bad, though. After 7 years this is all kind of hard to take.

 

[speckledhen]

Wish I could help!

My BF seems to be going through manopause - so far he has told me basically I'm rude to waiters (?), bad tempered, I embarrass him in front of our friends, and needs to just do what he says and shut up. Well. That's not likely, but I have been avoiding him as much as possible this week, which also pisses him off. Retirement does not seem to agree with him. Makes me feel pretty bad, though. After 7 years this is all kind of hard to take.

Geez, Mary, we need to start a club, I guess. If mine told me to do what he said and shutup, one of us would be sleeping elsewhere. I've had mine for going on 44 years now and there are still deal-breakers for me. Thankfully, he's never done those things....and he better not do them still, but it's not likely. He's too much in pain. .

 

[getaclue]

I'm so sorry about what Tom is having to go though. I knew it would be very rough. It won't be long, and he can move on to more promising solutions, but even with that, there's recovery time involved. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Unfortunately, it takes time, and some suffering to get there.

You should be near the end of the growing season for now, so let the dang garden overgrow, and quit stressing over it. There is an alternative. Dh uses 1 gallon white vinegar, 1 cup of salt, 1 TBsp blue dish soap, in 1 gallon of warm water, stirring to dissolve the salt. Let it set for 1 week, then pour it in a garden sprayer, and spray the weeds. It will kill the existing weeds, without ruining the soil. Yes, more weeds will eventually grow back, but it's a fairly easy, short term solution, which is what you're needing for now.

Even better, have your son do as much of the labor intense work, and repairs that you can get him to do, while he's there. If he drops a bombshell, you need time to think about it. He can weed the garden, pull down that old shed, or rebuild the old shed, mend fences, or whatever else while you're thinking about his bombshell.

Try an over-the-counter allergy medication for your headaches from the humidity. https://grocery.walmart.com/ip/Equa...-Antihistamine-Capsules-25-mg-100-Ct/14053325
Usually it will dry the sinuses enough to compensate for the high humidity, even if you don't have allergies.

Do you drive? Maybe it would be best if you drove to pick up your son.

 

[getaclue]

1mutt, mine has been a bear lately too. I swear the heat is to blame for a lot of it.

 

[getaclue]

Other than that, all I can offer is to remind you of rooster training 101, and adapt it for your son. Set a plate of food on the table. When he goes to eat, pop his tail feathers with your rooster stick. Get him moving out of yor way. If he gives you stink eye, pop his tail feathers. Get him moving out of your way. If he asks for a loan, pop his tail feathers. If he doesn't want to help with chores, pop his tail feathers........

 

[1muttsfan]

(a much-needed laugh too)

 

[speckledhen]

@getaclue Cheryl! Bahahaha! I did go and he's here. TTYL!

 

[seminolewind]

Wish I could help!

My BF seems to be going through manopause - so far he has told me basically I'm rude to waiters (?), bad tempered, I embarrass him in front of our friends, and needs to just do what he says and shut up. Well. That's not likely, but I have been avoiding him as much as possible this week, which also pisses him off. Retirement does not seem to agree with him. Makes me feel pretty bad, though. After 7 years this is all kind of hard to take.

Boy, what a can of worms you opened- retired men. Oh G_d I feel like I'm glad I don't have a baseball bat. Mine sits in front of the computer and tv all day every day. And watches everything I do like I was entertainment, and makes "helpful" comments when I don't need help. I can't take it. I try to spend all day with the chickens or daughter or something away from the house. Everything I say pisses him off, so I say nothing most of the time. I have no one to vent to : (

 

[seminolewind]

This is hell week here so I'm about to unload a minute. My son is arriving from S. Korea tomorrow and has to be picked up in Maryville, TN at the airport. My husband can barely walk because his back went out in the worst way yesterday, but he has to drive the 2 hours to pick him up. Chris can't rent a car because his license has expired, which is partly why he's coming back, to renew it. The physical therapy has the last session this Friday. In the six weeks he's been suffering through it, it has done ZERO good because Mr. Skeletal Vegan the PT guy thinks exercise is all that is needed, but it has not touched the root cause of the pain, as we knew it wouldn't. So, he's no better off then when he started, only now he can say he tried it their way.
They've been futzing around with this crap for so many years, trying not to really do anything that costs them money. I am at my wits end with this mess. He can't be sympathetic to my stress when he's in excruciating pain and I understand that, but it doesn't mean that my own back doesn't hurt, my ankle isn't throbbing, I don't get headaches in the high humidity we're having, that I don't have to take up the slack and do all the dirty jobs I hate and watch the garden being completely overgrown again, all the while trying to do things I want and like to do, as well as trying to take care of him and the cat and the chickens and stressing about how this place is a never-ending list of chores and maintenance that will never get done.
And now I have to deal with a week with my son, too. I won't even go into that relationship and his issues. No telling what bombshell he'll drop on us this trip--I have a feeling that may be one purpose of this trip as well. On top of that, we had two power outages this week which fried a computer and turned off my freezer downstairs-thankfully, I caught it before it was all completely defrosted-and my stupid little camera went wacko and I had to order a new one. Some days I just want someone to come say, "there, there, you just go get yourself a long nap and I'll take care of everything". And that's my self-pitying whine for the day.

I hear ya. Mine got old and can't walk without a cane, I"ve inherited most of the work around here like you. So I end up hiring out a lot of stuff like with a handyman. I don't want to hear about his "stressful" day on the laptop and tv all day when I am spending hours outside doing heavy work for my animals .

When your son comes, put him to work! That's what sons are for, right? You have every right to self pity and whining. I've taken an afternoon nap almost every day for over 20 years. My way of closing off outside stressors for an hour.