The Front Porch Swing

[Beekissed]

I agree. I only have a couple of good friends and that's it. And I'm ok with that. Less drama! My husband and I both just want the simple life, as stress free as possible. We do our jobs and then relax at home on our days off. We keep busy doing our "home stuff", he brews his own beer and wine and he tells me this summer that we are going to be doing a TON of canning, that should be an adventure in itself as neither one of us have ever done it. We just wish we had more land to have more animals. Someday.....

How cool that your hubby wants to can! I've known a few men that do it but not many. It's mondo easy after you do all the prep work..that's the hardest part.

 

[Beekissed]

Did meet one very wonderful friend right here on BYC and now she's my bestie! I've never spoken to her on the phone nor have I even met her but she has been more of a friend to me than any physical friend I've had since grade school. We talk via email and on here and through snail mail. Her screen name is Loveigee and I met her on the Road Less Traveled thread....she is a keeper!

 

[Gldnrose]

Exactly that. So many toxic relationships out there and soon you have to shed those things and people from your life because soon you realize they only call when they need you to listen to them complain and that goes on for years without them ever making positive moves to improve the situation, never taking any advice that they continually ask you for, and you are nothing more than a leach bed for their toxic life....they really care nothing about your life, only what you can do for them.

I have no problem being a shoulder to cry upon, but my shoulders were getting wrinkly from being water logged and I realized that only went one way...no one wanted to be my shoulder in return. I grew tired of one sided relationships and started to pare those down...until there were none. Took me 43 years to figure that one out and start cutting out the dead wood.

I know all about that. I'm actually feeling this way towards a friend I have had for over 20 yrs. It wasn't like that until probably the past 5 years (although sometimes I think I was blind to it and it's been longer than that) but yeah, its exactly how you describe it. I don't want to let that friendship go, but I do feel its pretty one sided. I keep trying but this is how I'm starting to feel

I lost my Mom in January 2013 and before even being to able to process that, I lost my Dad July 2013. I think I heard twice "are you ok, or how are you doing". Every conversation was about them. Now don't get me wrong, I didn't want anyone falling all over me because of my losses, but yeah, I guess I did expect a little more out of a friendship that was that old.

Anyway, like I said, I'm striving for less drama and they are not delivering, lol.

 

[Gldnrose]

Did meet one very wonderful friend right here on BYC and now she's my bestie! I've never spoken to her on the phone nor have I even met her but she has been more of a friend to me than any physical friend I've had since grade school. We talk via email and on here and through snail mail. Her screen name is Loveigee and I met her on the Road Less Traveled thread....she is a keeper!

It's always nice to meet a true friend, even if it's not in the physical sense!

How cool that your hubby wants to can! I've known a few men that do it but not many. It's mondo easy after you do all the prep work..that's the hardest part.

He loves to do all kinds of things that probably most men don't. But that's our enjoyment really. We had our time going out to bars and we are so done with that, not to mention wayyyy to expensive. My son works at a nursery and he is going to set up bee hives there. They have lots of fields behind the nursery, more land than we have otherwise he would do it right here. He has contacted other bee keepers and is going to his first meeting in March and is super excited as he has been wanting to do it for years.
The husband and I have already started planning the gardens for the summer. We are running out of patience with winter. It's been a long cold one for sure

 

[Searsmom]

or left the car unlocked with the keys in the ignition.... It all doesnt matter. I was distracted and made grievous errors. The police even asked if I had any friends that might try to Punk me.... scuse me?

I just about sobbed when i told them I had no friends. I am 59 My last job let me go.... The friends I knew were there. I rarely socialize outside of work. The only "peeple" I have are My Son, My Mom, and My Grandma.

deb

Yeah, MIL said, "you need friends." OK, go find me some. My "organize everything" job ended today, not sure if it will start back up in a month, not sure if I need to jump up and find a job. Not sure I can in this economy. Little scared. Got rear-ended last weekend, my neck hurts, have to get that checked out and most likely can't afford anything they suggest.
We need to go back to thatched villages where everyone knows everyone. With air conditioning. And running water. And chickens.

Hi from Vermont! I'd love to pull up a seat on the porch if there's still room

I've got some hot cider with/without rum to warm us up with yet another "polar vortex" creeping in.
I am dreaming of warm sunny days......
I've been reading the posts, figured I'd jump ahead and ask to join and go back and read some more.
Hope to make some new friends and continue to learn from all of you.
Thanks

Hi!

Rum! It sure made me warm when I stayed out too long helping to make a snowman! We had a teaser day that got up to almost 70 this past weekend. I couldn't help it, had to go dig in the dirt and plant snow peas. Tomorrow night it's supposed to be down to 16 again with more snow.

 

[Triple Willow]

or left the car unlocked with the keys in the ignition....  It all doesnt matter.  I was distracted and made grievous errors.  The police even asked if I had any friends that might try to Punk me....  scuse me?

I just about sobbed when i told them I had no friends.  I am 59 My last job let me go.... The friends I knew were there.  I rarely socialize outside of work.  The only "peeple" I have are My Son, My Mom, and My Grandma.

deb

Bull hockey you have no friends!!! Just who do you think we all are Missy! I for one think you are one incredible lady and a sweetheart -not to mention sooo smart. Any place that would let you go is no doubt ran by fools.

 

[lovingmyhens]

Did meet one very wonderful friend right here on BYC and now she's my bestie!  I've never spoken to her on the phone nor have I even met her but she has been more of a friend to me than any physical friend I've had since grade school.  We talk via email and on here and through snail mail.  Her screen name is Loveigee and I met her on the Road Less Traveled thread....she is a keeper! 

That is so cool!!

 

[lovingmyhens]

Yeah, MIL said, "you need friends." OK, go find me some. My "organize everything" job ended today, not sure if it will start back up in a month, not sure if I need to jump up and find a job. Not sure I can in this economy. Little scared. Got rear-ended last weekend, my neck hurts, have to get that checked out and most likely can't afford anything they suggest. 

So sorry about the accident. I'm really hoping you feel better without medical help!

We need to go back to thatched villages where everyone knows everyone. With air conditioning. And running water. And chickens.

Hi!   Rum! It sure made me warm when I stayed out too long helping to make a snowman! We had a teaser day that got up to almost 70 this past weekend. I couldn't help it, had to go dig in the dirt and plant snow peas. Tomorrow night it's supposed to be down to 16 again with more snow. :/

 

[perchie.girl]

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While I do drink I don't drink socially gets me in trouble.... that kind of Coyote Ugly trouble.... LOl... though these days Probably would be safe.... ahem. I dont fit in with church.... My creative activities are pretty solitary... Writing, reading, crafting, painting, sculpting, drawing.... thinking stuff UP. Puttering with my horse, goats, chickens, dog.... only Horse and goats left... sigh I miss em.

deb

 

[LeslieDJoyce]

I've got one great friend from college who insists I don't have to pretend to be fun around her. She also doesn't have any kids, and only has a Dad left, and loves cats and Thai food, movies & popcorn. She tolerates the chicken talk by pretending I'm talking about more cats, I think. Everyone else gets annoyed that I don't like to go out spending money or acting silly.

I do like to travel. If I'm not making my own fun at home, I find a country to go explore.

I can make a lot of fun at home, though. I'm not sure some people understand that.