The Front Porch Swing

[Triple Willow]

I know what you mean.  Do you guys remember Michael Vick, the pro football player that was involved in dog fighting, etc.?  He spent 4 years in prison.  Now what he did was very wrong, but another player Donte Stallworth was DUI and killed a pedestrian.  He received a month in jail, 2 years house arrest, and lifetime loss of his drivers' license.  Does that make any sense??  Not to me.

I agree! It makes no sense whatsoever!

 

[Triple Willow]

3 of the Speckled Sussex were purebred (if that is a word for chickens).  I had high hopes this Spring for them, not anymore.  When I think that my black beauties (Australorps) won't be around, that just kills me.  Those 3 were always together.  Got to get busy......

Lisa

Big hug to you...

 

[Triple Willow]

This is all so sad.

Not that this is what I'd do ...   ... but I'm curious IF you've tried to talk to the neighbor about it, what has the neighbor said? 

You would think that you could talk to people about it but where I come from that is asking for trouble. Some redneck would do something really stupid to pay you back if anything EVER happened to their dog. Last year when I was have trouble with a neighbor's dog coming around that had already killed another neighbor's chickens, I told the man that I had chickens and he needed to keep his dog away - then it was back shortly. Then I explained to him that if his dog got in my chickens I would shoot it. He said that if I shot his dog "IT WILL BE WAR!". And years ago this same man was on the receiving end of a neighbor's dog killing his own chickens and he collected money for it. I also know for a fact that his son killed a dog that tried to get their chickens back then. BUT NOW it is okay for his dog to run the neighborhood killing other people's chickens and him not put the dog up. And that is one of the more decent neighbors. LOL

 

[enola]

3 o'clock in the afternoon and I am carrying the house trash to Mike's truck. He is taking it to the dump. There is ICE in the bed of his truck. WTH? It is March in SC and there is ice! So much for global warming...........

 

[sarahsunshine]

3 o'clock in the afternoon and I am carrying the house trash to Mike's truck. He is taking it to the dump. There is ICE in the bed of his truck. WTH? It is March in SC and there is ice! So much for global warming...........

Even up here where we expect a snow storm in late April, and our favourite pastime is complaining about the weather, we have had enough of winter!!! It' s been a high of 0f over the past week, and lows at -40 (doesn't matter f/C!). Enough Already!!!


In other news, my DH's father passed away yesterday morning. I guess I suffer from what I consider too much practicality, but fortunately haven't shared it too much with DH. You see, his father had stomach cancer and has bee in the hospital for the past 2 months. His last week was full of hallucinations and lots of pain. This past weekend he was sedated to prevent him from pulling out IVs, falling out of bed, and generally hurting himself more (he had no idea what he was doing). We were told on Saturday morning that he probably wouldn't last (likely going into organ failure).

DH is one of 6 kids, and his dad's wife had another 4... DH insisted that we had to all go up and visit to support everyone. It seemed to me that having 10 children, their partners, their kids, and other friends camped out in a small town hospital, playing the game of supporting someone who has no idea that any of you are there is an exercise in absurdity. Yes, his wife needed support, but did she really need about 50 people there as support, or would it be better spent giving each person a day or two over the next couple months?

The problem with these things (and I know because my son died 5 years ago) is that people mean well, but they forget after a few weeks and that is when people need support the most. So, call me insensitive, but I would rather bring a few meals and just hang out quietly in a month or two's time than inundate my husband's step-mother now. And, I believe that DH's father had a great and full life, and was lucky that he was relatively healthy until shortly before he passed away (through Christmas). Everyone has a time to be born, a time to glow, and a time to go, and Yesterday was his. It was his time. He done good! XO.

Now, we don't have to sit around to wait for him to die any longer. It's like watching the grass grow but with less of a positive outcome!

(And now I will wait for the expected slaps telling me to grow up and be more supportive - I am supportive of my husband, it would be terrible if my father died. I just don't think sitting around for someone to die is very useful...)

 

[LindaB220]

3 of the Speckled Sussex were purebred (if that is a word for chickens). I had high hopes this Spring for them, not anymore. When I think that my black beauties (Australorps) won't be around, that just kills me. Those 3 were always together. Got to get busy......

Lisa

Yeah, get very busy. You've got time. And can have a great year. I wish you a lot of joy.

 

[LindaB220]

Even up here where we expect a snow storm in late April, and our favourite pastime is complaining about the weather, we have had enough of winter!!! It' s been a high of 0f over the past week, and lows at -40 (doesn't matter f/C!). Enough Already!!!


In other news, my DH's father passed away yesterday morning. I guess I suffer from what I consider too much practicality, but fortunately haven't shared it too much with DH. You see, his father had stomach cancer and has bee in the hospital for the past 2 months. His last week was full of hallucinations and lots of pain. This past weekend he was sedated to prevent him from pulling out IVs, falling out of bed, and generally hurting himself more (he had no idea what he was doing). We were told on Saturday morning that he probably wouldn't last (likely going into organ failure).

DH is one of 6 kids, and his dad's wife had another 4... DH insisted that we had to all go up and visit to support everyone. It seemed to me that having 10 children, their partners, their kids, and other friends camped out in a small town hospital, playing the game of supporting someone who has no idea that any of you are there is an exercise in absurdity. Yes, his wife needed support, but did she really need about 50 people there as support, or would it be better spent giving each person a day or two over the next couple months?

The problem with these things (and I know because my son died 5 years ago) is that people mean well, but they forget after a few weeks and that is when people need support the most. So, call me insensitive, but I would rather bring a few meals and just hang out quietly in a month or two's time than inundate my husband's step-mother now. And, I believe that DH's father had a great and full life, and was lucky that he was relatively healthy until shortly before he passed away (through Christmas). Everyone has a time to be born, a time to glow, and a time to go, and Yesterday was his. It was his time. He done good! XO.

Now, we don't have to sit around to wait for him to die any longer. It's like watching the grass grow but with less of a positive outcome!

(And now I will wait for the expected slaps telling me to grow up and be more supportive - I am supportive of my husband, it would be terrible if my father died. I just don't think sitting around for someone to die is very useful...)

Sarah, you are being supportive of your husband. Start making a few meals and stick in the freezer to take to the family. Show your support in a practical way that will be much appreciated.

 

[LeslieDJoyce]

Even up here where we expect a snow storm in late April, and our favourite pastime is complaining about the weather, we have had enough of winter!!! It' s been a high of 0f over the past week, and lows at -40 (doesn't matter f/C!). Enough Already!!!


In other news, my DH's father passed away yesterday morning. I guess I suffer from what I consider too much practicality, but fortunately haven't shared it too much with DH. You see, his father had stomach cancer and has bee in the hospital for the past 2 months. His last week was full of hallucinations and lots of pain. This past weekend he was sedated to prevent him from pulling out IVs, falling out of bed, and generally hurting himself more (he had no idea what he was doing). We were told on Saturday morning that he probably wouldn't last (likely going into organ failure).

DH is one of 6 kids, and his dad's wife had another 4... DH insisted that we had to all go up and visit to support everyone. It seemed to me that having 10 children, their partners, their kids, and other friends camped out in a small town hospital, playing the game of supporting someone who has no idea that any of you are there is an exercise in absurdity. Yes, his wife needed support, but did she really need about 50 people there as support, or would it be better spent giving each person a day or two over the next couple months? 

The problem with these things (and I know because my son died 5 years ago) is that people mean well, but they forget after a few weeks and that is when people need support the most. So, call me insensitive, but I would rather bring a few meals and just hang out quietly in a month or two's time than inundate my husband's step-mother now. And, I believe that DH's father had a great and full life, and was lucky that he was relatively healthy until shortly before he passed away (through Christmas). Everyone has a time to be born, a time to glow, and a time to go, and Yesterday was his. It was his time. He done good! XO.

Now, we don't have to sit around to wait for him to die any longer. It's like watching the grass grow but with less of a positive outcome!

(And now I will wait for the expected slaps telling me to grow up and be more supportive - I am supportive of my husband, it would be terrible if my father died. I just don't think sitting around for someone to die is very useful...)

I'm sorry for your loss! Hugs to the whole family.

I still have nightmares about people crowding into my hospital rooms like it is some kind of check point on The Great Race -- not really wanting to be there, but having to be seen there. Me with all kinds of indignities on display and having to make everyone comfortable. Eeeeeeyyyyyuck. When I need help getting meals once I'm home it's just me and the dust bunnies working it out.

 

[perchie.girl]

Quote: Big hugs.... No slaps from here....

It took me a good two years before I could cry for my dad.... because I was soo ticked off at him for going soo soon without warning. Dont get me wrong I loved my dad immensely but he was only 69. I couldnt go to the funeral or the viewing.... But funerals are for the living really.... I would rather remember him as he was.... Picture me with a beard and long snow white hair..... LOL. He held court every morning at the local coffee shop. Every single one was at the service

I am sure some of the grieving process has already been done with your hubby and his family.... I think you are doing the right thing...

deb

 

[ocap]

Now, we don't have to sit around to wait for him to die any longer. It's like watching the grass grow but with less of a positive outcome!

My brother and I helped mom take care of dad, the cancer was in the bones, I would be there on my brother's work days and every one of his days off he would take over for me. We did not need anyone else. It is a long miserable process and guilt follows when I ended up wishing his body would fail. Not a pleasant memory.