The Front Porch Swing

[perchie.girl]

Quote: All I hope is he will be happy discover something new and has adventures in life as well as finding his soul mate and have a family. Money is only a necessary evil. The rest can take a flying leap.

deb

 

[Searsmom]

Grandma didnt finish highschool got married and had my mom at 17 She stayed with Moms Dad twelve years. Then fired him for good reason.... He was a charmer but a drinker and not a good provider. She got tired of having to skip out on the rent. Mom went to live with her grandma.... Grandma married another fellow but when he drank he got scary..... That lasted three months. She had to have a pollice escort to get her stuff back because he threatened to kill her.

By the time she met her soul mate she was thirty five and mom was married to my dad and had me. I think iwas a toddler when Grandma married Grandpa Fred. He was funny and could walk on his hands and spent many an hour with me plopped on his shoulders galloping around the back yard.

Mom met my dad in high school. He was already out and had his own money because he worked hard at the junk yard. He looked like James Dean back then complete with Harly Davidson and the cigarettes rolled up in his T shirt Blond hair and blue eyes. Mom quit high school to marry him.... They were together 48 years till he died suddenly at 69 in 1999. Both drank.... Mom quit when i was in high school. Dad quit when i was about 25 Dad could drink two double bourbons at lunch time.

I never married Ihave never even been asked. I have been deeply in love but he was broken.... So now here I am.... Wonderful son who I hope will go on to have a family.... but I have only mom grandma and my son.

Soon i will be alone in the desert with my animals. and my friends on the internet.

deb

And there's nothing wrong with that. My daughter is envious. Sometimes I am too.

 

[lovingmyhens]

My son was not a snuggler.... didnt want anything to do with a cuddle.  Not for lack of trying on my part....  but he was a hot box... MY goodness just a few minutes of holding him as an infant and he would be red in the face.  Breast feeding was something we were very unsuccessful with...   come to find out after going to a Lactation nurse his jaw was kind of crooked so latching on was difficult for him.  He was a Franks breach  And we tried to turn him too with no success.    But the nurse said sometimes Franks breaches have issues....  So we worked on techniques and i was able to breast feed him about two months...  

But for the most part Every portion of his life I have loved.... Except those first few scary months.  He is Kind and logical and very scientific...  Even when he was a toddler I would watch him do experiments with his food or toys.    I allowed him to watch anything he wanted on TV because what he wanted to watch were shows like Cosmos, and Discovery channel and the history channel...  I am a voracious reader and of course he is too...  By the time he hit the second grade he was reading at College level.    

He would come home disgusted with grade school because He had wanted to learn something the teacher was going to teach only to have it all interrupted when the teacher had to discipline a few that were causing trouble.  On several occasions he would correct a teacher when they got a fact wrong....  Needless to say this made him kind of stand out to the bullys..... Sigh He didnt tell me any of this till after he started highschool and started having panic attacks.  I tried to get him into some classes where he would have a male teacher and small classroom...  Like small machine repair....  He liked the class but still panicked.

We found a solution because home schooling wasnt an option and i couldnt afford to get him into a private school.  Here in San Diego we have a program called Phoenix High.  It runs through the school system but is an off campus class room.  Primarily designed for students that have to work to help support their home.  Dean was the first freshman ever allowed to enroll.  Primarily due to his panic attacks and the bullying in his past.    Phoneix is run wayy different than Highschool.  Same classes but each class is taught one at a time.  It takes 40 hours of class time to cover a subject.  So he would go in Take a test get a lecture then reicive his class work for the next week.  So essentially he went to school one day a week.  

He would get his homework done in about three days.... then he was off reading or researching stuff that really interested him.  He passed his California High School Proficiency Exam with flying colors.    Yet he will claim he did horribly because he didnt get straight As.  You Know I never required that of him.  I always told him to do his best.  Even when he had trouble in math.  I know that math skills can come later..... they did for me.  I explained that it will take a teacher you connect with or something you have to deal with and you will have an "Aha" moment and all the math will fall in place.

His Aha moment came after he got his Associate of Science degree.  And he decided to switch from Marine Biology to Astronomy.  Astronomy is all about math and physics.    So he took a Pre Calculus class.  Yep he was at that level and still thought he was bad in math.  He had gaps....  and he felt since he was a good test taker he was "faking it".  I felt he really knew the subject deep down but didn't recognize it.  He made the connection in Pre Calculus because there are alot of word problems in there.... (same thing happened to me... go figure)  We are both deeply into words and meanings....  He more so.  Plus he had a good teacher.

Now hes finally transfered over to San Diego State into the Astronomy program.  His next semester he will be taking Astrophysics.  He is working on analyzing the data from the Kepler satellite.  Looking for XO planets....  for Doctor Aros.  He just got trained on how to operate the ancient planetarium at SDSU and now hes going to be operating it tomorrow for a group of visitors to the College.  Hes never done this before....  and for a kid that was afraid of groups of people he has come a very long way.

When people in our family and even freinds admonisah me for allowing him to waste money on a degree program he could never use....  I simply say... "its his life and his choices he needs to do what will make him happy, because if you do what makes you happy the money will come.... "  Then I point out  the things he will learn,   computers, Databases, Engineering, Physics, Optics, Programming.  He will be able to choose any field he would ever want....   Though he hopes to get involved with the commercial space effort starting up in New Mexico.

Besides hes gotten every grant he ever applied for.... and so far his classes have been paid by them.  Hes only had to pay for books.

He turns 25 in October.  


deb

That's an incredible story deb!

 

[perchie.girl]

Pssssst. I think it's only Friday. It's worse than you think!

 

[lovingmyhens]

Pssssst. I think it's only Friday. It's worse than you think!

She scared me for a minute!!

 

[Blooie]

Grandma didnt finish highschool got married and had my mom at 17 She stayed with Moms Dad twelve years. Then fired him for good reason.... He was a charmer but a drinker and not a good provider. She got tired of having to skip out on the rent. Mom went to live with her grandma.... Grandma married another fellow but when he drank he got scary..... That lasted three months. She had to have a pollice escort to get her stuff back because he threatened to kill her.

By the time she met her soul mate she was thirty five and mom was married to my dad and had me. I think iwas a toddler when Grandma married Grandpa Fred. He was funny and could walk on his hands and spent many an hour with me plopped on his shoulders galloping around the back yard.

Mom met my dad in high school. He was already out and had his own money because he worked hard at the junk yard. He looked like James Dean back then complete with Harly Davidson and the cigarettes rolled up in his T shirt Blond hair and blue eyes. Mom quit high school to marry him.... They were together 48 years till he died suddenly at 69 in 1999. Both drank.... Mom quit when i was in high school. Dad quit when i was about 25 Dad could drink two double bourbons at lunch time.

I never married Ihave never even been asked. I have been deeply in love but he was broken.... So now here I am.... Wonderful son who I hope will go on to have a family.... but I have only mom grandma and my son.

Soon i will be alone in the desert with my animals. and my friends on the internet.

deb

Ma met my dad when she was 15. They fell in love, and wanted to get married. But my dad had been pretty sick and both sets of parents were dead set against it. So they did the only thing they could think of - ME! Back then when you got "in the family way", you got married, period. Dad's leukemia finally took him when I was 3 and my little sister was 1. Must have seemed like the end of the world to her to be so young and a widow with two little girls. She never finished the 6th grade, didn't know how to drive, and lived in a minuscule little town in Minnesota with her dad and stepmother. She finally got a job in a nearby town and had to adjust her schedule at the cafe so that a neighbor took her into town with him when he went to work, then she had to wait a couple of hours after her shift to get a ride home. That's where she met my stepdad, who later (much, MUCH later) adopted my sister and me. Dad was a funny drunk, not mean or obnoxious - just funny! Remind me to tell you the story of Dad and the blizzard! LOL

You are pretty confident in yourself. I like that. You know what you have and you know you are blessed. And you got us! Don't forget to count us! I just got here and feel like I've known everyone forever!

 

[Triple Willow]

@Deb... I haven't ever been married either nor do I have any kids. It took me forever to find the guy I am with now. We have been together somewhere around 15 years. It's never too late. I had to turn the man thing over to God before it ever worked out.

 

[perchie.girl]

Quote: Thanks.... Hes an incredible young man.

deb

 

[perchie.girl]

@Deb... I haven't ever been married either nor do I have any kids. It took me forever to find the guy I am with now. We have been together somewhere around 15 years. It's never too late. I had to turn the man thing over to God before it ever worked out.

Yep... At 58 (oops I turn 59 in June LOL) and being very independant... and incredibly fluffy. I just dont meet people that interest me or visa versa these days Plus I am going to be caretaker for grandma for quite some time I am certain.... Then i will be caretaker for Mom. Because there is one else. I am not a church goer and my bar days are best forgotten. The only other place to meet people is the internet or join a club.

Maby if my book makes a good impression and gets published I might meet some people through that. I havent given up completely but I have to be realistic.

deb

 

[Triple Willow]

Yep...  At 58  (oops I turn 59 in June LOL) and being very independant... and incredibly fluffy.  I just dont meet people that interest me or visa versa these days  Plus I am going to be caretaker for grandma for quite some time I am certain....  Then i will be caretaker for Mom.  Because there is one else.    I am not a church goer and my bar days are best forgotten.  The only other place to meet people is the internet or join a club.  

Maby if my book makes a good impression and gets published I might meet some people through that.  I havent given up completely but I have to be realistic.

deb

I had to totally give up and just get out of the way before God brought my man into my life. I even argued with God and questioned Him about it, but He was right.