The Front Porch Swing

[beckyb1971]

Hey everyone

 

[Beekissed]

And sometimes a person isn't supposed to have anyone at all. I really feel like that is the case with me now in my life. I had a husband once and I had a few relationships but now I can't even wrap my mind around co-existing with a man any longer. I just feel like that's not something meant for me any longer and I'm pretty content with that thought. Back when life was tough and raising three boys by myself was so hard, I could have used help and a companion, but now I just don't need one anymore.

The thought just never crosses my mind anymore, thank the good Lord! It used to cross it far too often and I worried all the time because I was lonely and felt like life was not complete unless you had someone to love you...then I realized I had Someone all along and He loves me better than anyone ever could or has. Now I just don't need that other kind of love and that's a relief for me.

 

[Triple Willow]

@Bee... I agree. There are seasons and timing for everything.

 

[LeslieDJoyce]

Oh yeah ... so skipping the "relationship reveal" conversation. I'll just be in the kitchen washing teacups and leave you all to it.

Howdy Becky.

 

[Blooie]

Hey everyone

Hey, Becky! Come on in! They've saved a rocker for you. Some of us have to sit on flipped over buckets or sit on the edge of the porch with their feet dangling down.

 

[perchie.girl]

Ma met my dad when she was 15. They fell in love, and wanted to get married. But my dad had been pretty sick and both sets of parents were dead set against it. So they did the only thing they could think of - ME! Back then when you got "in the family way", you got married, period. Dad's leukemia finally took him when I was 3 and my little sister was 1. Must have seemed like the end of the world to her to be so young and a widow with two little girls. She never finished the 6th grade, didn't know how to drive, and lived in a minuscule little town in Minnesota with her dad and stepmother. She finally got a job in a nearby town and had to adjust her schedule at the cafe so that a neighbor took her into town with him when he went to work, then she had to wait a couple of hours after her shift to get a ride home. That's where she met my stepdad, who later (much, MUCH later) adopted my sister and me. Dad was a funny drunk, not mean or obnoxious - just funny! Remind me to tell you the story of Dad and the blizzard! LOL

You are pretty confident in yourself. I like that. You know what you have and you know you are blessed. And you got us! Don't forget to count us! I just got here and feel like I've known everyone forever!

You know people these days say the past was sooo different from now... What people dont realize is stuff that goes on now has always been going on just no one talked about it back then.... LOL.

My grandma was born in 1916.... Her oldest brother was already in the military during WWI. Her oldest sister was born in 1899. Grandma Robins (my great grandma) married her husband when she was 14. Grandpa was a widower whos late wife was his cousin....(she committed suicide). They had two children ages 10 and 12. Grandma Robins played dolls with her step daughter. When the boy reached twelve Grandma Robbins woke up with him hovering over her with a butcher knife. Grandpa Robins ran him off and eventually he was committed to an insane asylum... The daughter went on to have a family of her own.

Grandma Robbins was a beautiful human being. She had at least 12 or 13 pregnancys and raised up 9 children. She became the midwife of the county they lived in. She probably had a third grade education their only book in the house was the bible. Grandpa Doted on her.... he had an aweful temper sometimes beating his mules till they went down on their knees. But all she had to do was tell him to stop gently and he would. When she went off to deliver babies all the kids kind of found other things to do.... rather than get into trouble.

They never had a car till they moved to California... But Grandpa Robins never learned to drive, neither did Grandma Robins... Oh he got the steering pretty good but that whole stopping thing stumped him... He would holler Woah... So when he went to work in the oil fields He had to have someone drive him to work. So MY Grandma was the designated driver. Only problem was she was only twelve years old. So in 1928 Grandma got her first drivers licence and drove him to work every morning before school then went and got him when his shift was over.

Funny thing was in the beginning they lived in Oklahoma and Grandma Robbins was heir to a family that owned a HUGE marble qarry. Once she married over objections of many of her family they disowned her. I have only gleaned that tidbit from listening Grandma talk to her Grand nieces....

Long life comes in this family. My Grandma got a phone call from Sacramento a couple of years ago. The call lasted about half an hour and when she hung up I asked her who it was... When she said it was her nephew...Charlie i believe.... I said I didint know she had a nepheew. This was the son of her older brother who was in the military when she was born. I said OMG how old is your nephew.... She grinned.... Hes 90 So that would make him now about 92 hes five years younger than My Grandma.

Whew I wrote a book. Moms been doing geneology so shes been gathering info since I was in highschool.

deb

 

[Blooie]

Oh yeah ... so skipping the "relationship reveal" conversation. I'll just be in the kitchen washing teacups and leave you all to it.

Howdy Becky.

Quick, ladies - we have to find Becky! I'm sure the teacups are clean and put away by now! I'll put away the relationship stuff, I promise!!

 

[Triple Willow]

Very interesting...

 

[perchie.girl]

Hey everyone

Hey Hi Becky....

Some of em are having Sweet Tea.... Im sippin on water because its still a bit warm here.

deb

 

[Triple Willow]

Hi Becky!