To TW, I bet a clean toilet wouldn't be complained about in many houses
Either they don't notice it ISN'T clean so won't notice when it is or they really don't like cleaning toilets and are glad it was done but the "cleaning fairy".
As you porch sitters know, my girls and I spent several fun hours with Leslie last week. If I had not been aware of some of her health issues before I wouldn't know now, any more than she would know my older daughter's head is totally messed up because neither exhibited anything other than 'normal activity'. So, as with someone who looks physically "OK" using a handicapped parking space, do not presume they are just lazy if they don't jump in to help because their disability may be "invisible".
Bruce