The Front Porch Swing

[lazy gardener]

Hearing all this talk about gifts, makes me want to share a book with you. It's called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Smalley. He goes into a lot of detail explaining how we all interpret and express affection. It can be regarding affection between husband and wife, parent and child, or even friends. He explains that we're all wired differently regarding "what makes us feel loved". So, if a wife's primary love language is "gifts", and her husband is the type of guy who forgets to buy an anniversary gift, and stops at the dollar store to do his Christmas shopping for her on the way home from work on Dec. 24, she's going to feel very unloved. But, if her love language is "acts of service" and he always starts her car and clears the frost off for her in the morning, she could care less about his lack of buying the perfect gift for her! To sum it up, each person has a primary love language, and the way to their heart is to SPEAK their love language. Want to buy the perfect gift for your loved one? Get this book and share it in your relationships!

 

[Alice28]

Hearing all this talk about gifts, makes me want to share a book with you.  It's called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Smalley.  He goes into a lot of detail explaining how we all interpret and express affection.  It can be regarding affection between husband and wife, parent and child, or even friends.  He explains that we're all wired differently regarding "what makes us feel loved".  So, if a wife's primary love language is "gifts", and her husband is the type of guy who forgets to buy an anniversary gift, and stops at the dollar store to do his Christmas shopping for her on the way home from work on Dec. 24, she's going to feel very unloved.  But, if her love language is "acts of service" and he always starts her car and clears the frost off for her in the morning, she could care less about his lack of buying the perfect gift for her!  To sum it up, each person has a primary love language, and the way to their heart is to SPEAK their love language.  Want to buy the perfect gift for your loved one?  Get this book and share it in your relationships!

That sounds like a great book! I should buy it and read it. I think it's good to recognize how other people are. My husband would never remember to get me a gift and I don't care for Christmas or anniversaries but on my birthday I want something, so I just tell him and remind him. I know he will forget and so I just remind him. So many people get upset and I'm just like "remind them of its important to you". I don't care if it's just him making me a nice dinner or a card. This year he did shock me on our anniversary with a print from an art gallery I had said I liked. I was shocked and it ment so much not because of the art as much as I know it's really hard for him to remember something like that and he did.

 

[tntchix]

Hearing all this talk about gifts, makes me want to share a book with you. It's called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Smalley. He goes into a lot of detail explaining how we all interpret and express affection. It can be regarding affection between husband and wife, parent and child, or even friends. He explains that we're all wired differently regarding "what makes us feel loved". So, if a wife's primary love language is "gifts", and her husband is the type of guy who forgets to buy an anniversary gift, and stops at the dollar store to do his Christmas shopping for her on the way home from work on Dec. 24, she's going to feel very unloved. But, if her love language is "acts of service" and he always starts her car and clears the frost off for her in the morning, she could care less about his lack of buying the perfect gift for her! To sum it up, each person has a primary love language, and the way to their heart is to SPEAK their love language. Want to buy the perfect gift for your loved one? Get this book and share it in your relationships!

Thank you for posting this. I forgot about this book. My love language is acts of service. One year DH bought a remote start for my car. BEST GIFT EVER. No one had to go scrape the cars anymore and it meant he really listened when I actually asked for one. Other than that wonderful gift, my favorite was when he bought dinner for the entire Special Olympics team we came across traveling. We were last minute shopping and he decided to forgo presents and do this instead.

 

[tntchix]

Ok folks, it only took 4 days but it's finally done...and keeping the kitten away probably isn't gonna happen. She sleeps underneath now.

It's strung tight with fishing line to the wall so we're good. Phew.

 

[Alice28]

Nice!

And I love the stockings on the wall! And hey, the tree doubles and a cat sitter! Haha

 

[lazy gardener]

That sounds like a great book! I should buy it and read it. I think it's good to recognize how other people are. My husband would never remember to get me a gift and I don't care for Christmas or anniversaries but on my birthday I want something, so I just tell him and remind him. I know he will forget and so I just remind him. So many people get upset and I'm just like "remind them of its important to you". I don't care if it's just him making me a nice dinner or a card. This year he did shock me on our anniversary with a print from an art gallery I had said I liked. I was shocked and it ment so much not because of the art as much as I know it's really hard for him to remember something like that and he did.

When you've read the book, it's fun to try to figure out what the love language is of the people around you. They often give tell tale hints that clue you in. The thing that's really sad, is that when I see someone struggling in their relationships, and I know their love languages, it would be so easy for them to fix things. But often hurt feelings and stubborn pride get in the way of even doing the simplest things to meet each other's needs. Sounds like your husband is a great guy!

Thank you for posting this. I forgot about this book. My love language is acts of service. One year DH bought a remote start for my car. BEST GIFT EVER. No one had to go scrape the cars anymore and it meant he really listened when I actually asked for one. Other than that wonderful gift, my favorite was when he bought dinner for the entire Special Olympics team we came across traveling. We were last minute shopping and he decided to forgo presents and do this instead.

That remote starter was the perfect gift for you! I'm split: Acts of service and quality time.

 

[tntchix]

When you've read the book, it's fun to try to figure out what the love language is of the people around you. They often give tell tale hints that clue you in. The thing that's really sad, is that when I see someone struggling in their relationships, and I know their love languages, it would be so easy for them to fix things. But often hurt feelings and stubborn pride get in the way of even doing the simplest things to meet each other's needs. Sounds like your husband is a great guy!

That remote starter was the perfect gift for you! I'm split: Acts of service and quality time.

This year, it's a chicken run addition for spring. That way like you, I get both: acts of service and quality time.

Nice!

And I love the stockings on the wall! And hey, the tree doubles and a cat sitter! Haha

dd's idea. It's brilliant. Cat leaves them alone.
LOL. She is slowly pulling ornaments off the tree carefully and playing with them. (stuffed ones) I just grab it and put it back on the tree higher than it was. At this rate, all the ornaments will be on the top 1/3.

 

[Blooie]

This will be my oldest daughter's second Christmas without a tree. Destructo-cat took care of that. She's even consulted with cat trainers about how to control Vader around the tree, her plants, her knick-knacks....her home has gone from a Christmas wonderland to a Christmas wasteland. He' s 9 year old Evan's cat and even though he is out of control he's still there. Yet Vader is gentle with people, openly affectionate to Evan and Tam, and very sweet. He just can't stand to see a surface with anything on it. She doesn't even have curtains anymore - he not only ripped them out of the wall but he took part of the drywall with them because the curtain rod hardware ripped out. She went to vertical blinds and they drive him crazy because he can't climb them. He's a PITA.

 

[tntchix]

Ebony's middle name is Vader LOL

I told Trena we should have named her Loki, god of mischief. Even though she now looks like Toothless, from How To Train Your Dragon.

 

[LindaB220]

This will be my oldest daughter's second Christmas without a tree. Destructo-cat took care of that. She's even consulted with cat trainers about how to control Vader around the tree, her plants, her knick-knacks....her home has gone from a Christmas wonderland to a Christmas wasteland. He' s 9 year old Evan's cat and even though he is out of control he's still there. Yet Vader is gentle with people, openly affectionate to Evan and Tam, and very sweet. He just can't stand to see a surface with anything on it. She doesn't even have curtains anymore - he not only ripped them out of the wall but he took part of the drywall with them because the curtain rod hardware ripped out. She went to vertical blinds and they drive him crazy because he can't climb them. He's a PITA.

And would be gone from my house. Notice that, mine, not the cats.