The NFC B-Day Chat Thread

[Teila]

I self-edited my previous post. Sorry for the content of it, but not the spirit.

Could use a few prayers, if anyone has some handy. Got my low dose CT lung scan tomorrow. Maybe that’s why I’m a little hyper-sensitive tonight.

 

[The Farmers' Daughter]

I self-edited my previous post. Sorry for the content of it, but not the spirit.

Could use a few prayers, if anyone has some handy. Got my low dose CT lung scan tomorrow. Maybe that’s why I’m a little hyper-sensitive tonight.

Here's hoping the test is a breeze and that the results are in your favour.

 

[Teila]

I just stumbled across this one looking up something else and thought it would be apropos ......

 

[The Farmers' Daughter]

Okay, time for a little Adult 101, Kelsey. I am finding it hard to find sympathy for you. That's just how I feel, and if you know anything about me it's that I don't sugar-coat. It sucks that this happened to you, but you knew you were doing it when you did it. It's like the bank robber who's not one bit sorry he robbed the bank, but is very sorry he got caught. You took a risk, you got caught. And all the tears and self-recrimination in the world aren't going to change it at this point. The hardest lessons in life are usually the most unpleasant ones, and unfortunately they are also usually the ones we had to learn the hard way.

Okay, now I'll get on out of here.

Sorry Kelsey. I have to agree with Blooie on this one.

 

[ShrekDawg]

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Yikes!

Yikes is right lol

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Awwww adorable

I use a cutter attached to a tractor. Leave it to dry a few days then bale it

Is it a special attachment/cutter or a regular mower blade?

I just cut the tip of the toe off of one of my chicks!
I was trying to cut her leg band off and her toe got in the way
I guess I'll be able to identify her without a leg band now .

Awww poor chickie. I'm sure it will be fine!

Okay, time for a little Adult 101, Kelsey. I am finding it hard to find sympathy for you. That's just how I feel, and if you know anything about me it's that I don't sugar-coat. It sucks that this happened to you, but you knew you were doing it when you did it. It's like the bank robber who's not one bit sorry he robbed the bank, but is very sorry he got caught. You took a risk, you got caught. And all the tears and self-recrimination in the world aren't going to change it at this point. The hardest lessons in life are usually the most unpleasant ones, and unfortunately they are also usually the ones we had to learn the hard way.

Okay, now I'll get on out of here.

No, no, I appreciate the honesty and you're 100% right. And I'm sorry if it seemed like I was trying to get sympathy or whatever because I wasn't really and expected what happened so idk why I posted really. I guess I just had to get it out there, idk.

But you are right.

I could have done it on time and gotten a higher grade so it's not the grade that bugs me.

I guess the part that is is that I didn't realize he might have been willing to fix it or help, I figured he wouldn't be (and honestly he shouldn't be cause it's my own fault) and that's actually why I didn't email him to ask. I figured I messed up and waited to do them so he wouldn't give me an extension and I was just planning on taking the grade I got.

So even the post or my behavior indicates otherwise, I did know and and expect to get the grade I got and am not surprised or upset by it. Just wasn't expecting him to try to help me.

That said, I do have a tendency to procrastinate on everything and have horrible time management skills and am well aware of both of those facts. I don't really know why I do it but it's like I know I have to do something and I just don't do it, don't do it, don't do it until the last minute. And lately I've been waiting even longer. Obviously I shouldn't wait at all but lately I've been waiting even longer than I usually do and leaving for class much later than I previously did, etc. Which obviously bad and I need to fix it. Well, now the semester's over. But still. Applies to other life areas too.

Anyways, obviously procrastinating is very bad, but usually I am able to get it done still. This time the homeworks took a lot longer than I thought, I was figuring only a few minutes but much longer, and I started it later like evening/night. I should have started afternoon or better yet done them all along. Example of waiting longer than usual.

Although that said, I had thought it closed the 8th because he thought it did but found out it closed the 3rd so that threw me off because I was planning on doing them slowly all week.

But yes I had all semester, I know.

Anyway, my point with the above paragraph before I got sidetracked is I think I somewhat take it for granted that I usually get it done and/or am pretty smart or whatever. Because even on last minute (night before) writte essays or tests I barely study for I still usually get A's so I think that sometimes maybe leads me to think I don't have to do much. Idk.

I was also taking 4 classes which is more than I've taken before BUT I also don't work so yes, I should have, and did, have plenty of time to do all the work. Instead, I am usually glued to my phone or I drove my friend all around. But that wasn't even such a big deal because the driving itself wouldn't take that long but then I would manage to find other ways to waste time. Not even on purpose. It just sort of happened. Idk. Even in the summer or breaks when I have nothing I have to do, time just gets away from me. And I realize that's not an excuse either and I need to make the choice/effort to stop wasting my life but idk.

Anyway, I'm aware of it but yet don't seem to be able to or maybe don't want to fix it. Because it keeps happening. Every semester, summer, etc.

Thankfully I am graduating so I'll be done with all this soon hopefully but I am going to transfer eventually so if/when I do, I think I am going to use tutor services if they're available or maybe find a damn therapist or something, idk. Not that I need one for sheer laziness/stupidity but maybe they have time management skills or something.

Anyway, I get where you're coming from, and I'm sorry if it seemed like I was trying to garner sympathy or at all surprised by my grade. I'm not. Just wish I had known or thought to ask for help with it sooner is all. But I know that it's too late and know it's entirely my fault. No issue there.

And it's gonna be a B+ I think so not like it's completely terrible or like I'm going to fail or anything.

But that's the other very weird thing.

I waste all this time or put it off, right? But then I get really stressed when I barely have time to do it or when my grade's affected or whatever.

Like some kids just don't do the work and don't care.

But I do care and try to do my best when I do it but that's kind of incompatible with procrastination because then I have no time to edit or make drafts or whatever and truly make it my best.

So it's really stupid because I should be getting all A's.

And I actually was until this class because I didn't do the homework and one last semester or the semester before called First Year Seminar which I got a B in too. I don't even really know why, maybe I didn't do that well on an essay or something? But that one is supposed to be easy and some teachers don't give work for it but he's also an English major and adjunct so maybe graded harder, idk. I also technically wasn't even supposed to take that one. But oh well. Anyway, so between that one, and me being an idiot in this one, those are my only two Bs. And I was top of the class in this class till I screwed up.

Anyway, I know it's my fault so I'm not expecting anything different.

Honestly, I want to just take my grades and be done with school.

And yes I realize jobs require just as much time management skills and effort, if not more, thatn school, but like I said, gonna try to get help for the issues, but I'm also planning on trying to make money from a farm or from dog walking and pet setting or selling stuff. Unconventional ways basically. We have a lot of junk and random stuff lying around I'm gonna sell. And hopefully get more chickens and/or get vegetables going.

Anyway, sorry to go off topic/change subjects, and sorry for such a long post, but anyway, point is hopefully I won't have to work a regular job but if I do, gonna fix it and be on time.

Another odd thing is in stores I am constantly putting stuff in the right places when it's in the wrong place even though I don't work there ha

When I work, I work really hard/am obsessive about it usually, but the problem is actually getting myself to work. Often it seems I have to want to do it. But I need to fix that cause no one wants to do hw or go to work pr whatever else.

 

[ShrekDawg]

I self-edited my previous post. Sorry for the content of it, but not the spirit.

Could use a few prayers, if anyone has some handy. Got my low dose CT lung scan tomorrow. Maybe that’s why I’m a little hyper-sensitive tonight.

You're not hyper sensitive, you're right!

And sorry Blooie! Hope it all goes well!

X2

Here's hoping the test is a breeze and that the results are in your favour.

X2

Sorry Kelsey. I have to agree with Blooie on this one.

It's okay, she's right

 

[ShrekDawg]

Sorry for my novel or if it comes across rude or defensive or anything, swear I didn't mean for it to, but I did not read it through again before posting, just stream of consciousness/as is and so I really don't even remember exactly what I wrote in it hah

And I also wrote it before I saw Blooies other post so apologies.

And hope the test goes well Blooie

 

[Blooie]

Thank you, Kelsey. Now, ‘nuff said. We all need to vent sometimes.

 

[ShrekDawg]

Thank you, Kelsey. Now, ‘nuff said. We all need to vent sometimes.

No problem! And thanks Blooie, that's true. Vent's a good word for it. I think that's basically what I was trying to do but it came across completely wrong. But I understand why it did, especially the crying over it bit. Shouldn't have been.

I think I'm also just possibly extra emotional this week?

Just came off that time this past week if you know what I mean plus been stressed trying to get the last few assignments in and some family stuff and the heat's been getting to me so not a good combo hah

That said, I also took Excedrin earlier and I have GOT to stop taking it. Seems fine at first but then hours later, every time, without fail, I get super mega anxious. Shaky, clammy, etc. Just hit me the last hour or so. But I took it at like 6 or 7.

I think maybe it's the caffeine in it? Cause I also get super anxious when I drink caffeinated tea but I'm not sure.

I figured it was just my circumstances at first cause tonight's been really stressful cause of some IRL stuff and same with the last time I took it so figured it was just coincidence but now I really think it's the meds. Cause normally even when I get stressed and anxious, I do not get to this extreme level of clammy, shaky, etc.

Maybe the caffeine just takes a few hours to fully hit me????

Sorry, there I go completely changing the subject again.

 

[Teila]

Kelsey I have a colleague at work who has Aspergers. He is highly intelligent, remarkably honest and unbelievably thorough in some areas but totally the opposite in other areas and his ability to prioritise, be on time or stay on track is woeful

I am not saying that you have Aspergers but moreso sharing something his therapist tasked him to do which has helped heaps; he now ‘lives by a time book’.

Meaning, at the start of each day he maps out half hour or hourly blocks of what he needs or wants to do and must not stray from those.

So, putting what he now uses into your scenario, this is an example of what you could do:

7AM to 8AM: Feed, water, tend to animals

8AM to 9AM: BYC

9AM to 10AM: Educational

10AM to 10:30AM: Free time

10:30AM to 11:30AM: Educational

11:30AM to 12:00 Midday: BYC

Not the best but you should get the gist .. wake up, plan what you need to do for the day, put it in writing in time blocks and do not stray. If you have one hour set aside for education; no phone, no BYC, no distractions unless urgent or life threatening.

Then, when it is your BYC time, no guilt as you are not procrastinating but more sticking to your schedule which will hopefully help with no leaving everything to the last minute and causing stress which leads to not wanting to do it at all.

The hardest part of this plan is working out what you need to do that day and splitting that into time blocks; once you have done that, with it right next to you reminding you, it should be easy to stick to and help you to achieve your goals for that day.

What my colleague did was actually share it with us so that if we saw he had strayed, which he does without really noticing, we were able to help him back on track.