The NFC B-Day Chat Thread

DS kept complaining that his toe was sore last night. Turns out he had a big splinter in it, on the top of all places, just behind his nail. I keep telling him he's lucky he's not a girl because our boy (not quite 8 years old) doesn't cope with pain or blood. So DH had to dig it out with a needle while I tried to comfort a yelling, crying boy. He was actually pretty good as he let DH get it out without struggling - he was just very loud.
 
DS kept complaining that his toe was sore last night. Turns out he had a big splinter in it, on the top of all places, just behind his nail. I keep telling him he's lucky he's not a girl because our boy (not quite 8 years old) doesn't cope with pain or blood. So DH had to dig it out with a needle while I tried to comfort a yelling, crying boy. He was actually pretty good as he let DH get it out without struggling - he was just very loud.

Ouch, that would hurt!
 
Sounds like you know what you gotta do. Mourning someone you have lost is normal and is something everyone goes thru' differently and at their own pace. Can't rush these things. But as a Behavioral science major I feel like you have a good grasp on the difference between depression and mourning. They are entwined and hard to separate. But you are a smart woman and you got this. Also might help to talk to your family so they can be supportive too.

Thank you and also sorry for the long, weird/awkward/gross, probably way too personal post aha don’t know how I got there but anyway, the weird thing is I am not as upset as I thought I would be about the dog. I mean, I am, but I don’t think I’ve even cried yet which is a bit disturbing since I feel like I should be more upset. But I guess he was sick for so long that I had time to prepare and watching him suffer and decline for so long, I guess maybe I am just glad that is is over and he is not suffering anymore. Though I do miss him. So idk if this is part of that or not, especially since I think I was a teeny bit like it before. You are right, they are hard to separate. But I think once I see the dogs and start walking them again I will feel better. If not, then I’ll deal with it then. But puppies can always make anyone feel better. :)

I’ve been better about the self care aspect and going outside more so I think I am improving, slowly but surely. I think it’s just the combination of having such a long break, with nothing to do and no responsibilities, and losing Gator, that kind of allowed things to snowball, but I think seeing the dogs will help. But I also think moving out will help me because living here isn’t good for me but I can’t move out anytime soon because I need to save so I guess I will just have to makedo and make the best of it. I actually should probably take advantage of the fact that we have the amount of land and sunshine and quiet that we do cause if I move, I probably won’t be able to have chickens or a big garden or green grass or so many trees. It’s really sunny today so I’m going to go sit outside maybe or if it’s too cold then at least just walk around for a bit aha

But I do know the difference, like you said, and I think I will be fine after this break. I start work again tomorrow and I think that will make me feel better. :)

Or at the least give me something to do.

But tbh, I’m not always the best about getting help or talking to people if I need it (although sometimes I am too talkative ha depends I guess) and have been thinking I should find a therapist but not doing it for years. But I am much better now than I have been before. Pretty sure this is just a little snag.
 
Thank you and also sorry for the long, weird/awkward/gross, probably way too personal post aha don’t know how I got there but anyway, the weird thing is I am not as upset as I thought I would be about the dog. I mean, I am, but I don’t think I’ve even cried yet which is a bit disturbing since I feel like I should be more upset. But I guess he was sick for so long that I had time to prepare and watching him suffer and decline for so long, I guess maybe I am just glad that is is over and he is not suffering anymore. Though I do miss him. So idk if this is part of that or not, especially since I think I was a teeny bit like it before. You are right, they are hard to separate. But I think once I see the dogs and start walking them again I will feel better. If not, then I’ll deal with it then. But puppies can always make anyone feel better. :)

I’ve been better about the self care aspect and going outside more so I think I am improving, slowly but surely. I think it’s just the combination of having such a long break, with nothing to do and no responsibilities, and losing Gator, that kind of allowed things to snowball, but I think seeing the dogs will help. But I also think moving out will help me because living here isn’t good for me but I can’t move out anytime soon because I need to save so I guess I will just have to makedo and make the best of it. I actually should probably take advantage of the fact that we have the amount of land and sunshine and quiet that we do cause if I move, I probably won’t be able to have chickens or a big garden or green grass or so many trees. It’s really sunny today so I’m going to go sit outside maybe or if it’s too cold then at least just walk around for a bit aha

But I do know the difference, like you said, and I think I will be fine after this break. I start work again tomorrow and I think that will make me feel better. :)

Or at the least give me something to do.

But tbh, I’m not always the best about getting help or talking to people if I need it (although sometimes I am too talkative ha depends I guess) and have been thinking I should find a therapist but not doing it for years. But I am much better now than I have been before. Pretty sure this is just a little snag.
Yup, just a snag. We all go to that dark place in our own head at some point in life. I tend to isolate and cocoon so I totally get that. I appreciate that you opened up to me.
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