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[gryeyes]

Ha! In my diatribe about my divorces and when the last one was final (1995) I mentioned "cobwebs" and didn't even get comments on it. Now y'all are talking about panties and blue vitamins.

Hmph.

 

[Bunnylady]

Well, y'know how it is - some people have one-track minds.

(Though something else I find funny - a certain group have been getting giggles about blue vitamins for a while. For some reason, on my computer 'vitamins' is one of the words that gets those instant links attached to it, so the word 'vitamins' is always blue.)

 

[wolftracks]

Ha! In my diatribe about my divorces and when the last one was final (1995) I mentioned "cobwebs" and didn't even get comments on it. Now y'all are talking about panties and blue vitamins.

Hmph.

I had so many pages to read, I didn't get to mention the cobwebs until you had already.

I was wife #3 and he was the first man I decided to marry after being with 3, count em 3, of the lowest forms of .........ok, can only call the first one a man. The other 2? OMG!! With the 3rd one I spent 5 monutes in court fighting for the kids and 5 hours fighting for the TV, VCR and video tapes. He worked 6 months in 15 years and I couldn't get the cops to removing him until then. Tried a safe shelter and the kids were terrified, so after 3 days we came back to all of my things and my 2 oldest girls things either broken or sold. So 2 friends finally helped me and when court time came, we took up so much time. The judge asked if there was anything I wanted on the LONG list of electonics and anything else I had spent a fortune on and he jumped in and said "I'm leaving her the refridgerator and washer and dryer!" The whole court room laughed and men in that room started talking about what a loser he was. In all that time we were there I heard couple where the husbands should have won. I felt so bad for some of them. Some came back to hear what my case was going to do. So the judge asked again if I wanted anything and I said "I just want him gone! You have no idea what our lives have been like. I just want to have my kids safe." So after the judge siad I got the things I asked for because I was going to have the kids and I wanted the stuff for them, the bailiff had to hold the idiot in the courtroom while we left. Then he started on us in the halls while I talked to my attorney and they had to walk us to my friend's car and let us leave before he did. And I had a restraining order in hand when I left. Even longer story why he was around, but not the place for it.

Bill had PTSD. It was aweful, but I had had a lot of family and friends that had also served in Vietnam and kind of knew what I was getting into before I did. Wasn't always easy. His bad days were really bad, but the good days really made up for it. We did work at it. Heck he married someone with 6 kids, he worked his butt off to make it work. But we were so different and yet so much alike that it worked. Someone said you're 2 different people when you're married. That's the way it feels when they're alive, but when one dies, you feel like far less that a person. It's an ongoing learning curve that I don't wish on anyone. You find out just how much that person was a part of you. It doesn't work that way when you're there's a breakup. Those can be devistating, but nothing like when the other dies. There's someone gone forever and it much harder to find out who you are and figure out what to do with your life. I always took the other times as a fresh start. This time, I still have no idea what I'm going to do.I was older when I met Bill and he was older than me and it was great. Today is HIS birthday! I really missed my Old Guy and spending birthdays together this time around. I know better than to do anything on mine and my car broke down last night on my way home, so I should have waited to leave the house today, since his were always great.

I feel like Linda right now. I didn't want anyone around when I met Bill, but I told him he grew on me. But now, it's going to just be me. I don't have the energy to deal with someone else. To old for sure this time and I'm not going to have someone try and step in and try and tell me what to do. Plus, I get a glimpse at my reflection every once in a while, cause I sure don't look anymore. I'll have no trouble keeping anyone at bay from here on out. LOL

 

[wolftracks]

WOW!! And I forgot!!!!

Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone!!!

 

[bamachicks8]

You do know the solution to the one legged pantie dance is to simply not wear any. Although I would have to advice against this.

 

[Wisher1000]

Sorry, Linda, we weren't ignoring your comment, it's just that it hit a bit too close to home for some of us and so evoked some empathetic 'that's not funny''s.

Okay people, as much as I hate to be the one to do this, as the thread starter, I must. We should all be aware that even though this is the "Old Folks" thread, we are still bound by the rules and obligations to keep it 'family friendly'. We are drifting ever so close to the edge.

I know I am not the only one who looks forward to the fellowship on this thread and would HATE to see it closed. Now I am as bad as anyone here and have to censor myself, regularly, but I try to watch it closely. Please do the same.

SO, in a direct attempt to change the subject, I want to invite anyone that has not done so, to check out "The Great Egg Shipping Experiment" thread. It is my educational experience and introduction to the world of shipping eggs. Feel free to comment or even conduct and document your own experiments with shipping eggs. I hope to get my feet wet with every aspect of shipping eggs and later, hatching shipped eggs.

 

[Arielle]

Happy Birthday Bill!!

This is for you wolftracks, I"ve been waiting for this day for a while. Know how special Bill is as he is in your thingy.

I have a young friend, maybe mid 30's now, with kids my son's age, and she had a devil of a time when married and a devil of a time when he died of cancer. Took her a bit of time to rebuild a life, redo the house, and find her way raising two kids.I don't see her ever remarrying again. Being married isnt a requirement anymore!!!

 

[bamachicks8]

I've been a single mom before I also had custody of my niece so I know how hard it can be. I can't imagine being thrown into it after loosing her husband.

 

[wolftracks]

Happy Birthday Bill!!

This is for you wolftracks, I"ve been waiting for this day for a while. Know how special Bill is as he is in your thingy.

I have a young friend, maybe mid 30's now, with kids my son's age, and she had a devil of a time when married and a devil of a time when he died of cancer. Took her a bit of time to rebuild a life, redo the house, and find her way raising two kids.I don't see her ever remarrying again. Being married isnt a requirement anymore!!!

He was my son Dakotah's buddy. Dakotah had a brain hemorage when he was 10 months. I met Bill shortly after and that was "HIs Boy!" They were so close. Much closer than Dakotah has ever been to his jerl of a sperm donor. We were also raising Makayla and had had her since she was 10 months. She was 4 when he died. I lost a sister when I was 5 and when people would tell me that kids handle it better, I would fume. Trust me, they don't and for me it was 30 years before I wasn't uset . Not like I had been. So it's hard with kids. You really don't know what they're going through and it makes it so hard to pull yourself together, let alone figure out what to do for the kids. I'm glad your friend has been able to get things done. Trust me, she's still hurting, but you get better at wearing a mask for others to see, after a while. And with kids........She's probably making sure that they are her main responsibility. It's hard to find someone who would love and treat your kids the way they would be if it was their own parent. But in Dakotah and Kayla's cases, they were lucky to have someone even better.

I don't think marriage is a requirement. Heck, come over, fix something, try not to show too much b**t crack and then leave. This would be how close I would be now to having a man around. Bring me gifts, hand me money and go home! That would work! LOL

OH and he would have a comment about your wording, but trying to keep it PG as per request. LOL

 

[Wisher1000]