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[Wisher1000]

He went on a mission there in GA. Loves, loves, the people there! When he saw this, had to post it for me, because he knows how I am about manners. Going back to the question I had for you being in the South. Love how this guy explains it! Nice lookin guy too. Yep.
Love his accent.

http://sureawesomeness.com/this-sou...accent-was-offensive-his-response-is-perfect/

Thanks for posting this, Cyn, I had seen it on FB as well. I really liked the guy, agree with his message, and that he is cute as a bug. My only reservation about him is that I am a bit suspicious that he is not a native born and raised southerner. I know he said he is from Georgia and Texas, but one thing bothers me... he just talks too fast. A true native child of the South will have at least a half beat slower cadence to his or her speech pattern and about three beats slower than that gentleman. However, if he smiled at me like he smiles at the camera, and called me darlin'........ I'd overlook it.

He's got a beautiful smile a he's cute too!

That's the way we grow 'em, in the South, Diva, y'all come see us, hear?

Wisher, the first time I let a "y'all" fly at my first job in Maine the entire store (within hearing distance) stopped. And stared at me. Cue the crickets. It was mortifying. I got a "wow, I didn't realize people actually use that word, I thought it was a joke."

I still get made fun of by BF for a couple of words... you should hear me get a good drawl on Tobramycin. BF does an excellent "Toe-braw-maaaah-ay-cyn" rendition.

The correct response to those people would be, "Bless y'all's hearts."

Someone did the "i didn't realize actual people still said that"

When my son said "war between the states"

I say y''all all the time and no one looks at me funny... But I remember moving from Texas to Maryland as a kid, and learning that I TOTALLY had to change hiw I walked down the street.

In Texas I HAD to (or the people I passed would correct me), say "Howdy" or "good mornin'" or "good afternoon" to every single person that I oassed when walking down the street. You also were expected to look up at the person, make eye contact and smile.. It was very important.

In Maryland you could NOT do any of those things.... Making eye contact was super bad, eyes were to stay on the sidewalk in front of your feet, or at least very far away from any approaching people. And NO greetings were to be exchanged.

We refer to it as "The War of Northern Aggression"

I would not get along too well in Maryland, then, not smiling and speaking is just rude. That's worse than not throwing your hand up (or at least a couple of fingers) over the steering wheel when you meet a car passing in the opposing lane.........

Diva, I believe Alaskan's town has been described as "a little drinking town with a fishing problem." Maybe it's not the streets that come into question, it's the "walking."

Good one, Bunny!

 

[Wisher1000]

On an unrelated (sorta') note, and I don't want to start a debate, but down here, when we see a rebel flag (Confederate Battle Flag) we think "Home." It will solicit a rousing "Hell Yeah!" from a southern crowd and, in our minds, has NOTHING to do with race. If it means something different to anyone else, I'm sorry, but that will not keep me from thinking "Home" when I see it. There are all kinds of groups that adopt all kinds of symbols for their causes, but that doesn't mean they own it or that it only means what they want it to mean. We have the freedom in this country to promote our own beliefs, in our own way, and if we are going to start banning something because it offends someone else because of the meaning they attached to it ............ well, I have a list of things that offend me...................

 

[perchie.girl]

Quote: I finally took time to see the video.... He sounded Texan to me.... but what do I know.... as well as a trained speaker... and a very good one.... maybe a Radio guy or some form of communications. People who deliver a metered speech like that HAVE to had some training. So that would mess with the delivery. That and living a city life.

Even here the fifth largest city in the US we have many many towns around the fringes where the life is slower speech is slower and believe me you wouldn't get a second look at "ya'all" or a "fixin to" ... Because this is a Military town... Navy, Marines, Yep even Army. My own little town up in the desert is filled with city people, who are tired of the fast pace. So I love the fact that when I come to a stop sign I can ponder a moment or two to decide which way I want to go. Stopping on the wrong side of the road is a non issue... Just someone getting the mail. And Yep people wear their guns in a holster on their hip... Unloaded of course. and you can conceal it if you are on your own property.

Not only that we have a polyglot society in San Diego.... Mexican, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Indian, Middle Eastern, Spanish, Nepalese, Chilean, Colombian, Japanese, Russian ... these are just the people I have met and spoken to. Many people here are bilingual in some fashion.

deb

 

[Bunnylady]

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Originally Posted by Alaskan

Someone did the "i didn't realize actual people still said that"

When my son said "war between the states"

I say y''all all the time and no one looks at me funny... But I remember moving from Texas to Maryland as a kid, and learning that I TOTALLY had to change hiw I walked down the street.

In Texas I HAD to (or the people I passed would correct me), say "Howdy" or "good mornin'" or "good afternoon" to every single person that I oassed when walking down the street. You also were expected to look up at the person, make eye contact and smile.. It was very important.

In Maryland you could NOT do any of those things.... Making eye contact was super bad, eyes were to stay on the sidewalk in front of your feet, or at least very far away from any approaching people. And NO greetings were to be exchanged.

We refer to it as "The War of Northern Aggression"

I would not get along too well in Maryland, then, not smiling and speaking is just rude. That's worse than not throwing your hand up (or at least a couple of fingers) over the steering wheel when you meet a car passing in the opposing lane.........

Oh, my, yes, the "Redneck Wave!" Where I grew up, every young man had his own variation on it; if you didn't recognize the car (like that would ever happen!) for sure you'd recognize the gesture. For some, it was just a couple of fingers raised from the steering wheel, for others, it was more like a salute, often done off the bill of the driver's hat.

 

[ronott1]

On an unrelated (sorta') note, and I don't want to start a debate, but down here, when we see a rebel flag (Confederate Battle Flag) we think "Home." It will solicit a rousing "Hell Yeah!" from a southern crowd and, in our minds, has NOTHING to do with race. If it means something different to anyone else, I'm sorry, but that will not keep me from thinking "Home" when I see it. There are all kinds of groups that adopt all kinds of symbols for their causes, but that doesn't mean they own it or that it only means what they want it to mean. We have the freedom in this country to promote our own beliefs, in our own way, and if we are going to start banning something because it offends someone else because of the meaning they attached to it ............ well, I have a list of things that offend me...................

I think I understand what you are saying. The problem is what in means to Afro Americans and a responsibility we have to not offend others.

Research and studies shows that there is a lingering bias towards minority groups. We also have un conscious biases that we are not aware of. NPR had a report about doctor training. In the class, the students take an evaluation and a female student from the middle east discovered that she had a bias against brown skinned Muslims. She is a brown skinned Muslim and thought she did not have a bias against them.

If we have a bias, we need to be aware of it to make sure it does not hinder the way we treat others--especially for certain professions.

 

[Bunnylady]

But how far does one go to "not offend others," and at what point do you recognize that some people are looking to get offended, and tell them, "just get over it!"

An example - we have a community-wide celebration called the Azalea Festival every Spring, that began in the late 1940's. One of the cornerstones is the Garden Tour; some of the gardens on the tour are historic, but other featured gardens are simply those of local homeowners.

In the late 1960's, the Azalea Belles also became a feature. These are high school students from the community, they are dressed in gorgeous, hoop-skirted antebellum costumes, and they act as guides in the various gardens. It is an honor and a privilege to get selected as an Azalea Belle; these girls put in many hours of hard work.

Other than the fact that a couple of the gardens are on the sites of onetime plantations, and the costumes of the Belles, nothing about the festival has anything to do with the Civil War era. There's a parade, a street fair, concerts by a wide variety of popular entertainers, a circus, sometimes an airshow, etc. But I have heard people ranting that the Azalea Festival is about celebrating slavery, and how people should boycott this gross display of racial insensitivity. You see what you want to see, I guess.

 

[Alaskan]

Alaskan  how do people act walking down the streets in Alaska?     I know this is a trick question, no streets in Alaska - right?    Don't hate me 'cause I'm silly.

Ah! (I missed this question at first)

Here, you look as the person and smile and nod, but usually do not exchange a verbal howdy unless you know them.

Driving through town you may ignore all other drivers... Driving quieter roads you are expected to do a several finger wave.

And I live in a bustling metropolis... Many tiny communities come up here to Homer to do all of their shopping, ergo most streets are paved!

Diva, I believe Alaskan's town has been described as "a little drinking town with a fishing problem." Maybe it's not the streets that come into question, it's the "walking."

@Wisher1000 yep, I found his accent exceedingly light and difficult to notice, and he talked way too fast.

@perchie.girl i don't think that he talks fast because he grew up in a big city... Though growing up in a big city would maybe cause the mild accent. My mother was born and raised in Houston (giant mega sized town).. And she talks SLOWLY. My sweet mother, if you want to hear her answer you need to take a deep breath and wait for next week and then the answer comes, nice and sweet and slow.

My dad, also born and raised in Houston (except for a brief stint in New Orleans) talks more slowly than the man in that video.. And my dad talks for a living.

 

[Alaskan]

But how far does one go to "not offend others," and at what point do you recognize that some people are looking to get offended, and tell them, "just get over it!"

An example - we have a community-wide celebration called the Azalea Festival every Spring, that began in the late 1940's. One of the cornerstones is the Garden Tour; some of the gardens on the tour are historic, but other featured gardens are simply those of local homeowners.

In the late 1960's, the Azalea Belles also became a feature. These are high school students from the community, they are dressed in gorgeous, hoop-skirted antebellum costumes, and they act as guides in the various gardens. It is an honor and a privilege to get selected as an Azalea Belle; these girls put in many hours of hard work. 

Other than the fact that a couple of the gardens are on the sites of onetime plantations, and the costumes of the Belles, nothing about the festival  has anything to do with the Civil War era. There's a parade, a street fair, concerts by a wide variety of popular entertainers, a circus, sometimes an airshow, etc. But I have heard people ranting that the Azalea Festival is about celebrating slavery, and how people should boycott this gross display of racial insensitivity. You see what you want to see, I guess.  

Yeppers... I agree... But then my dad hates PC... So has worked hard to be the one man end to all overly sensitive stuff.... He takes the time to explain why various slang words came into being, and what they actually mean, and thinking of them that way suddenly makes them quite unoffensive.

He also spends time explaining how wonderful it is that we are all different and that we are EXCITED about the unique things that our particular cultures focus on.

A great deal of the PC crud wants us to be overly sensitive by no longer being excited about whatever unique things the culture that we grew up in values... We are supposed to toss out all beliefs and accept one totally watered down whitewashed bland America or even world culture... Instead of being excited that America is a super bright and marvelous tapestry of extremely different cultures all interwoven into one nation.

YES people need to be nice and respectful towards one another, BUT people also need to learn to not take offense where none is meant.

I think that the rebel flag should not be tied to slavery....

 

[getaclue]

When I was a child, I had chicken pox...I got well. When America was a child, she had slavery, she has healed. Instead of focusing on the illness of society back in the day, the focus should be on how it overcame it, and has healed. The greatness comes, not in being perfect, but in overcoming the imperfections. The middle eastern countries still practice slavery today, yet little is mentioned in the media about it.

 

[ronott1]

When I was a child, I had chicken pox...I got well. When America was a child, she had slavery, she has healed. Instead of focusing on the illness of society back in the day, the focus should be on how it overcame it, and has healed. The greatness comes, not in being perfect, but in overcoming the imperfections. The middle eastern countries still practice slavery today, yet little is mentioned in the media about it.

Racisim still exists in America though. It is not the war that is the concern.

You did read my post about bias? That is now not the past.