The Old Folks Home

[ronott1]

Somehow I'm not surprised that your DD's are independent and able to take care of themselves well. That's very commendable! I imagine you rest easier knowing that.

I think we did ok with the "young man" (now that he's officially graduated) I see a couple of things I should maybe have made more of a point with him. However, he's also very independent and has been for a while. I rest easy knowing if something was to happen to us now...he would be fine, farm and all. He's a stronger individual than I've EVER been and secure in himself. He's money wise, well organized and after working with him since graduation...I dare say he will be a better livestock person than both of us. I was worried he would lack passion for the livestock...but he has an excellent eye with a compassionate soul and he's right in there.

The DDs would tell stories about their class mates not knowing how to wash clothes, cook or etc. They started doing all of that stuff at about age 12. They had to plan and cook a diner each week too. At first I helped a bunch but soon enough they were on their own!

My middle DD that lives in Finland made this cake for my Grand Daughters third birthday. It is all home made

 

[Wickedchicken6]

BF has one Son worthless he is the oldest but his Mother taught him your special the world will take care of you .. Sad but true ...

There were a few girls in the school treated that way. Thankfully the young man sees things for what they are and navigates away from that. Whew! There was one boy in his class, but he felt he was entitled in every way...quite awful. He was expelled. (Sexual assault...although the school wouldn't call it that) It was heartwarming to hear how intolerant the rest of the boys in the class were to this when it was found out. I was called into the principal's office...lol. No better reason, I say.

I sounded very judgemental earlier and it was a bit harsh. Sometimes it's not the parents' fault.

 

[Wickedchicken6]

The DDs would tell stories about their class mates not knowing how to wash clothes, cook or etc. They started doing all of that stuff at about age 12. They had to plan and cook a diner each week too. At first I helped a bunch but soon enough they were on their own!

My middle DD that lives in Finland made this cake for my Grand Daughters third birthday. It is all home made

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The same here Ron; about the same age on learning those skills and also with hearing stories in regards to the lack of knowledge to wash clothes, cook etc. The son's huge issue was the complacency showed by some when a representative from the bank visited to show them pertinent banking and financial information. He's been investing money since he was about 10. His accounts were signed over to him as soon as he was 16, he's been using a cheque book for well over a year, and he's already applied and received a credit card to build his credit.

Most students didn't know how to fill out a cheque when they graduated. And he just helped a friend get a ledger and he showed them how fill it out. They didn't know they were supposed to keep track.

That is a beautiful cake! I'll admit I don't have those skills...not like that.
I'd also have to admit I never cooked a meal until after I got married at 19.
But in my defence, I worked outside doing the yard work and I worked in the fields and with the livestock with the guys and so Grandma didn't have to anymore. She wanted to deal with the house and cooking so it was easier on her.

 

[bobbi-j]

drink more water hes dehydrated....

deb

That was my thought, too. I didn’t know the chemo drug.

The DDs would tell stories about their class mates not knowing how to wash clothes, cook or etc. They started doing all of that stuff at about age 12. They had to plan and cook a diner each week too. At first I helped a bunch but soon enough they were on their own!

My middle DD that lives in Finland made this cake for my Grand Daughters third birthday. It is all home made

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Oldest son took it upon himself to do laundry one night when he was in 6th grade. He did great! (He wanted a specific pair of pants for the next day and decided to wash them.) That inspired me to make a sorting/washing chart and hung it up by the washer. All three of them were doing laundry by Jr. High. I also made sure my sons knew their way around the kitchen before they graduated. (I was hoping it would gain me some points with future daughters in law.)

 

[ronott1]

The same here Ron; about the same age on learning those skills and also with hearing stories in regards to the lack of knowledge to wash clothes, cook etc. The son's huge issue was the complacency showed by some when a representative from the bank visited to show them pertinent banking and financial information. He's been investing money since he was about 10. His accounts were signed over to him as soon as he was 16, he's been using a cheque book for well over a year, and he's already applied and received a credit card to build his credit. Most students still didn't know how to fill out a cheque when they graduated. And he helped a friend get a ledger and he showed them how to it out. They didn't know they were supposed to keep track.

That is a beautiful cake! I'll admit I don't have those skills...not like that.
I'd also have to admit I never cooked a meal until after I got married at 19.
But in my defence, I worked outside doing the yard work and I worked in the fields and with the livestock with the guys and then Grandma didn't have to anymore. She wanted to deal with the house and cooking so it was easier on her.

You are doing fine with raising them too!

All three of my DDs are very good bakers and decorate much better than I do.

She did learn the heart shaped pan form me though.

 

[Peep_Show]

Don't get me wrong; I love my niece and nephew. BUT my sister did them a great disservice by working and being SuperMom and doing everything for them and giving them everything they wanted in lieu of. So they know how to do nothing self-sufficiency-wise and appreciate nothing. I told my sister that whoever ends up marrying them is going to hate her in the long run.
I rarely get face-time with my niece, so last summer break I offered her a trip out here to help with some housecleaning I was behind on for great $$. She said, no, it sounded like too much work.

Oh, well. Not my monkeys, not my circus.

 

[microchick]

IMHO a lot of it is generational. Our generation for the most part had parents who were young kids during the depression and lived through WWII as young adults. They had a certain work ethic drilled into them. Also the technology wasn't there like it is today making kids lazy and dependent. Clothes were washed using wringer washers. If you had to do research for a school paper (our generation) you went to the library. TV was in it's infancy and for our parents, the radio was the big thing.

Can't speak for everyone but those work ethics were drilled into me by my parents. I was taught how to buy groceries when I was a preteen. What happened to our generation when it came to raising kids is a big IDUNNO. Some parents nail it. Others don't. Is it a matter of technology making life easier? Maybe but no matter how easy it gets, it can get really tough really fast and that is where the wheat is separated from the chaff.

 

[superchemicalgirl]

I think part of it is also survival. We don't really have to survive anymore. Life is pretty darn cushy. Where my sister lives everyone is really into what everyone else is doing in the neighborhood. Very busy bodies.
Us in Maine... we're working on not freezing to death, snow removal and many of us grow our own food. I really don't have time to care about what my neighbor is doing (mostly). I ain't got time for that.

I grew up having a ton of chores, but cooking wasn't one of them. I can bake, but I never really had to cook dinner and still just hate it to this day. BF and I split the chores up and he's the person who cooks, so I still don't have to do it. Stinks when he's gone, but great when he's here.

My house is absolutely disgustingly filthy right now. Chicks in the kitchen plus both of us being sick for a week. Dust everywhere, shavings on the floor, counters filthy and sink full.

About to go clean out the brooder in the basement (Miss Piggy's Winter Apartment) and then she's about to get 13 rowdy teenagers as housemates. Maybe she'll want to go back outside (it was -7 this morning).

Then I'll make this place more presentable.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Our house is comfortable I wipe counters 6 times a day do my dishes if I cook as I go
but grew up with a Ma that supported the family Dad was a mailman, Ma would say part time job but full time paycheck he was home allot I worked the farm with Dad so did Ma
my Brother did when he was asked my half sister sat inside split her tight jeans on a horse would not ride again

 

[microchick]

SGC I went through that when DH and I had the flu over the holidays. Don't let it bother you. You'll get things caught back up.

I wish we had a finished basement. We have a 'root cellar' but it would have been so easy to put in a walk out basement when the house was built. Now the concrete walls are about a foot to more than a foot deep where the forms buckled during the original pouring was done (given who built the house we aren't surprised) and it would be more trouble than it is worth to cut through them and do the walk out.

We spent part of the afternoon out in the barn splitting wood left over from last year. Still have about a third of our wood left which is great. But this is the beginning of the yearly spring ritual for us, namely, laying in next years firewood.