Think our oldest is drinking cough syrup...

[Rootball]

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OH.. That is a great idea.. I think this is the best so far.. At least she can't lie about it then.. when her lips, teeth and mouth are all green.. (funny picture on that one) do it on the weekend though.. so you don't have to explain to the school why she looks like an alien

Why are you people all so devious and afraid to sit down and talk with your children? This isnt a contest to figure out the sneakiest way to expose a little girl who is DMXing. Do you have such a bad relationship that you automatically resort to humiliation followed by threats and ultimatums. If this is the way that you think is best to deal with this I can tell you exactly WHY she is chugging cough syrup.

 

[Dragonfly Ranch]

Since I'm at work can't read every post but getting the gist here. I work for a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and have a free booklet that I would be more than willing to send to you. It's called "Growing up Drug-Free A Parent's Guide to Prevention" Don't get me wrong I'm not saying your daughter has a drug problem. But it gives good advice on how to identify and handle the situation if you have suspicion, how to talk with your child, why a child might be using drugs and how to teach your child about drugs by age group.

If you want to send it along PM me with your address I'll get it out in the mail.

Sandee

 

[Rootball]

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OH.. That is a great idea.. I think this is the best so far.. At least she can't lie about it then.. when her lips, teeth and mouth are all green.. (funny picture on that one) do it on the weekend though.. so you don't have to explain to the school why she looks like an alien

You know it might be a good thing to show the school and classmates what happens when you get caught in the medicine chest at home!

You could wing one with yer varmint rifle on his way outta the commode(patooey)!!!! That 'ud learn em real fast.

 

[Fudgie]

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OH.. That is a great idea.. I think this is the best so far.. At least she can't lie about it then.. when her lips, teeth and mouth are all green.. (funny picture on that one) do it on the weekend though.. so you don't have to explain to the school why she looks like an alien

Why are you people all so devious and afraid to sit down and talk with your children? This isnt a contest to figure out the sneakiest way to expose a little girl who is DMXing. Do you have such a bad relationship that you automatically resort to humiliation followed by threats and ultimatums. If this is the way that you think is best to deal with this I can tell you exactly WHY she is chugging cough syrup.

Rootball, I am not devious. If you read my post above my daughters and I DO talk ALOT about EVERYTHING. This is merely a way for her to find out what is happening, for all she knows it could be her husband??? or a neighbor kid or her daughters friends. She can talk to her daughter but if the daughter is unwilling to talk, this is a MUCH safer method than ipecac. Do you not have children? Are they honest 100% of the time? Sometimes you are forced to do devious things to figure out what is happening exactly. There are times when teens just don't talk. You cannot MAKE them talk so what do you expect her to do, wait it out till her daughter is knocked out cold from too much cough meds? She is asking for suggestions and talking is a suggestion. Ipecac was a suggestion and a dangerous one. Green food coloring is just an embarassment easily excused. (I was helping mom make cookies and the food coloring thing exploded on me.) No harm no foul. BUT MOM KNOWS without a doubt.

 

[kassy68]

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OH.. That is a great idea.. I think this is the best so far.. At least she can't lie about it then.. when her lips, teeth and mouth are all green.. (funny picture on that one) do it on the weekend though.. so you don't have to explain to the school why she looks like an alien

Why are you people all so devious and afraid to sit down and talk with your children? This isnt a contest to figure out the sneakiest way to expose a little girl who is DMXing. Do you have such a bad relationship that you automatically resort to humiliation followed by threats and ultimatums. If this is the way that you think is best to deal with this I can tell you exactly WHY she is chugging cough syrup.

OH.. I talk to my children about everything.. And they will talk to me.. but thats just how we are.. and sometimes I get way too much info.. If I ask, they will all tell... and wow.. sometimes the one scares to poo right out of me.. I must add though my 3rd born is not an open kid.. 15yr old and he's the tough one to get to open up.. it takes a great day, when he's happy and a car ride alone..
I'm assuming of course that she has asked her about the cough meds.. that I think is most parents first thought..

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

I do not have children, so I can't give you any advice except to say keep the lines of communication open. I don't know if the Ipecac is such a good idea, IMHO, I would not mix it with ANY drug, even cough syrup. Remember, even Ipecac can be overdosed and be fatal.

I will be praying for you to get the answers you need soon.

 

[Rootball]

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Why are you people all so devious and afraid to sit down and talk with your children? This isnt a contest to figure out the sneakiest way to expose a little girl who is DMXing. Do you have such a bad relationship that you automatically resort to humiliation followed by threats and ultimatums. If this is the way that you think is best to deal with this I can tell you exactly WHY she is chugging cough syrup.

OH.. I talk to my children about everything.. And they will talk to me.. but thats just how we are.. and sometimes I get way too much info.. If I ask, they will all tell... and wow.. sometimes the one scares to poo right out of me.. I must add though my 3rd born is not an open kid.. 15yr old and he's the tough one to get to open up.. it takes a great day, when he's happy and a car ride alone..
I'm assuming of course that she has asked her about the cough meds.. that I think is most parents first thought..

Every indication I get from the OP is that she has not yet asked her daughter.

 

[BarbK]

A little of my history so you know where I am coming from.
I started smoking when I was 9 and when asked I would say it wasn't me and never got caught so when I was 12 I started drinking. I hung out with druggies and drunks all throught high school. I was known to be the one to go to to get cigs and beer. I quit smoking at 15 and drinking by 19. (by the time I was legal to do it I didn't want to) Now days If I drink 2 wine coolers I get buzzed so I have come a long way.

I would do what fudgie said without hesitation but I would also water down the cough syrup. She wouldn't know till she/they have taken a drink and by then their mouth is dyed. If you water it down they won't get very much medicine that way. The food coloring is safe where ipicac can be harmful.
Then once you have which child or children (friends usually do this together) identified. Talk to them, the other parents if another child is involved and get them to a counselor as soon as you can get an appointment.
Also lock up the other medications so they can't get to them. I just had to do this for my 6 yr old who has been getting into grandmas meds to eat cough drops and rolaids.

hugs and good luck

 

[CityChicker]

Really, seriously...talk to your child and call a PROFESSIONAL. Don't just listen to faceless strangers on a chicken forum. I am really biting my tongue here. I don't think you want to know my real opinion of secretly drugging your child with ipecac.

Think this through and don't make a stupid mistake.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Dosing someone without their knowledge is just wrong and can backfire hugely. It's devious, sneaky, dishonest, potentially dangerous, and in many cases it's criminal. Talk to her at length before running to a professional. At 11 years old she has no idea how bad abusing cough syrup can be for her. If you talk to her you'll get a feel of what is going on and whether or not she may need further counseling. If you want honesty from her you have to speak to her honestly and not use sneaky, devious, and dishonest tactics. She may still lie but she will not be able to try and justify her lies by pointing out that you have done the same thing. I get that you don't want the grandparents to know so tell her that this is in her control and if she wants it to be a private issue then she stops immediately and understands that she's lost your trust and has to gain it back. Of course if this continues then it's time for a professional.