Doves, finches & canaries are lovely but USUALLY not terribly interactive or "friendly".
Lovebirds bond VERY strongly with humans (If are worked with/handled regularly and NOT in with another bird), BUT tend to bond with only ONE person... can be an attack "HATE BIRD" to all others (!!)... You said a pet for your "family", so this may not be a great choice if multiple people want to play with it.
Like someone else said, large parrots (& cockatoos) are a lifetime commitment and can also come up with a MULTITUDE of behavioral problems (screaming, feather plucking, aggression, ETC!!) if not worked with & given enough proper attention.
You didn't say how old other family members are, but if children under 10, I would be a little nervous of anything larger than a cockatiel... Even a medium/smallish conure or caique can take a NASTY chunk out of a little kid's finger or face.
I would say best choice may be a parakeet or a hand-raised baby cockatiel. Either one still needs proper handling/attention if you really want it to be an interactive PET. Parakeets are cheaper, but generally have not been handled much/"tamed" (not hard to do, though!), hand-raised baby cockatiels much more expensive but are generally more acclimated to & "bonded" with humans... and they are known for their affectionate nature. Also live in flocks, so have the ability to bond to more than just one family member.
As far as breeds that are quiet, friendly, not smelly, and tidy (don't throw food & feather dust all over the place)..... Well... as far as I know, there ISN'T one...!!!!!!!!!!!! That's not to say that birds don't make great pets; they do!!! Just know what you are getting into & research the HECK out of the breed - both good and bad points. Good luck, I have had some incredibly wonderful bird companions