This is INSANE,where do these people come from????Update, Pg 5

[MagsC]

Whoa. Questions. I am going to try my best to address everyone but again it IS early for me and I might be a bit brain dead.
I just feel when people comment they should be acknowledged?
PupsnPullets, its amazing what people do. Ewwwww to her own dogs poop? LOL, before people have dogs they should foster for a bit. Then they wouldnt be surprised that "Hey!! Dogs go to the bathroom and I have to clean it up!!"

mediazeal and chookchick, oh yeah. He is a peeping tom definitely, with most likely more on his agenda. It should give anybody the creeps because it is certainly not the norm.

PineappleMama, thank you for bringing up that point. Another poster brought it up but if THEY had not, its good people are thinking.
It may or may not be but as everything is put together, it seems more likely than not unfortunately. I would LOVE to be able to say "Oh you are soooooooooooo paranoid, there is NO WAY this is happening!!!!" but everything so far is indicating that is exactly what is going on. Yes, this is basically a female neighborhood and we figure that is one reason we were "chosen". Oh joy.
LOL, as I said before, my chow cross does not make friends with anybody. There is no "getting used to" with Max. He would defend myself and daughter with everything he has. And we would him. I love that dog.
The justice system is a little blind (understatement).

Tala, you are right, there are a lot of people, who if it was simple to get a restraining order, would do so just to be in a pain in the butt. One person ruining it for others.

PaintedPony, I HAVE reported all of this to police and I think that is probably why the city clerk says she has seen more police activity? I keep adding to it as I find out things. Confronting him so far as done no good and I get what you are saying about mentally unstable and unpredictable.

Laurieks, LOL!!!!!!! You are sooooooooo right!!!!! That just might be a problem.

Thank you, THANK YOU for making me laugh.

Minniechickmama, Minnesota nice? I believe it for the most part but there are weirdos here like any other place, right?
Holy crap actually WOULD be spot on.

(Whew. I must be getting punchy from being tired, everything is funny....but thats better than curled up in a corner or something,lol. Not that I would be doing that anyway.)
drumstick diva, he REALLY doesnt say anything and yes, it IS creepy because the most he has ever said while looking with a kind of blankish stare is "he is just sniffing". Well, cripes, have him sniff somewhere else.....

He definitely doesnt "sass back" which is one of the things that has thrown me for a loop and makes all of my hair stand on end. I know one of my little dachshunds acts like it is the apocalypse coming when the guy is around. He is a friendly little dog so that is strange too.
Thanks again everyone.

Is it wrong for me to hope this is all being blown out of proportion?????? I just do.
Okay, in about a half hour I have to take dogs outside and then I am going to do my best to get some sleep.

 

[Casey3043]

I don't want to add to the scare factor, but thought I should mention this---you need to be extremely careful when coming home to an "empty" house. If he truly IS stalking, he could be inside when you get home.

And I think it goes without saying that you should take your daughter with you everywhere and NEVER leave her home alone. If she's a typical teenager, she will hate this part, but it's important.

You can get a simple burglar alarm---just doors and windows---for not much money. Sort of iffy since you're planning to move, but still might be worth it. I know you can't do the motion detector thing when you have pets in the house.

Think about it anyway.

Thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[phrogg]

Solution to all problems: Get an emergency concealed carry permit from your sherrifs office, carry a springfild xd in the caliber of your choice, loaded with Golden Sabers, one in the chamber

Hope you do not run into him and have a confrontation. Collect necessary evidence for prosecution.

Carrying a firearm, and making sure you are comfortable with it is suprisingly reassurring in many situations.

 

[Kewlhanded]

Dogs can smell people for what they are, that's why your dog freaks out. I've worked with the mentally ill, what you think of as commen sense makes no sense to a lot of them. From what you describe, this guy sounds like he has a depersonalization disorder or worse, which can be very problematic. They are not fully aware of the surroundings or feelings, kinda like they're watching TV but it's real life. Do not confront him face to face, a motion senser light and a can of pepper spray can do wonders, just be safe, I find people who kill other people even in "self defense" or whatever usually end up with mental probs of there own. Then their on a 12 months wait for the psych-ward for depression. A tragic cycle! He's proably liv'n with his mom, who by now has put up with his stuff for so long is immune to it but will still shelter and defend him for life, proably from guilt. The mentally ill in the country is growing by leap and bounds, since the mental health has been deinstitutionalized, there is no place for them but jail. Or the loony bin but there's a 12 month wait to get in. I'm sorry for your situation and good luck!

 

[herefordlovinglady]

With what kewlhanded said, maybe you should try to follow him home and see what the situation is. maybe he does have a caretaker that could end this mess for you. be cautious with whatever you decide.. Keeping you and your situation in my prayers.

 

[Germaine_11.20]

Mags, at this point it would be me watching him and following him. I wouldn't let him know and I would never get close. This could take months but if this has been going on for over a year a few months won't hurt. Be safe..

First I would watch and see where he turns. Does he take the same route or does he vary it?
Next I would wait until he has rounded the corner (give it a minute) and I would get in my car and drive a few blocks down (a different direction and street so he won't know it is you) and see if I could still see him.
I would park in a spot where he would not notice me or in a driveway. And I would continue to do this until I knew his route and could follow him to his home or his car.
Then I would get the license plate number or home address and give it to the police.

He is a nutcase so don't let him see you watching him, never get close and you should never confront him again.

I had an incident years ago where I felt the need to follow someone. Granted it was only a teenager, but he had come into my home uninvited and caused some trouble. That is what I did to locate his home. It worked.

 

[LynneP]

Just following your thread with deep concern and wishing you the best possible outcomes...your diligence will pay off and I'm very happy you are getting police assistance...

 

[jnetwk]

I had a neighbor who got so tired of a dog pooping in her yard, she place it on their door step, rang the door bell and when they came to the door she announced their dog had forgotten something in her yard.

 

[Green Ridge MO]

I would seriously take the time to go personally and talk to your local law enforcement with your daughter. She most likely will be like mom I don't want to go....But, I think you need to as to express your concern personally. I understand you have called and reported it but think about it from the enforcement side - how many calls they get about weird people......If you actually can drag your daughter in and both go in and befriend a local law enforcement officer and try to tell them everything and how many times you have asked this individual to not repeat his behavior they may understand you more face to face. I would pressure them to find out who he is and ask them where he lives and if they have had previous complaints/problems about him. Good chance the offender is slow or mental and they would/should know that. I am guessing in a smaller town of 400 you dont have much when it comes to law enforcement so you may need to go above your local law enforcement if you do not get the needed response or attention. You may have to spend a day or so at it but in the long run it should pay off. If you could get any of your neighbors to sign statements as well or even go along with you it would definitely help out. We will continue to be praying for your safety! Please though - with the amount of time you have expressed on the computer you need to go personally talk to the law enforcement and express all your concerns regarding this person.

 

[kcsunshine]

I agree with Green Ridge MO. It's one thing to get moral support and prayers from people thousands of miles away. But, you need actual, hand-on support from people who are: 1) trained to deal with your situation, and 2) have the authority to do so. Make your trip to the police station and if you have to, go back every day until you get some help.