I'm not making excuses for his bad behavior. Just pointing out that sometime, just sometimes, someone figures out HOW to evoke those emotions. And then uses it to full advantage. She will probably end up with half, if not all, of his money. JUST WHAT SHE SET OUT TO DO!
WHERE'S THE JUSTICE FOR HIM?
No, he should never have raised a hand. But EVERYONE even YOU have limits. When pushed OVER the edge he reacted like........................a human being. Does he need counseling, absolutely, and some jail time to boot. Not ALL "abusive" people are that way when taken OUT of a situation. I had a good friend years ago that acted almost identically to Mel. Fortunately for him he was not famous so the world could care less. His ex, and I watched her, needled, poked, berated, and verbally abused him. His response cost him. He made it physical. Now he's happily married, for approx 20years, to a loving wife who saw past his past and isn't a...........hag.
As for the "N" word. Anyone who says they've never said it is a liar. It cost a good cop his job years ago and a murderer was set free. Because the idiot lied about ever using it.
And we are still allowed our opinions no matter how misplaced they may be. We still can say stupid things, and not get crucified for it. I say them all the time. (NOT the racial crap, just stupid things)