UPDATE!!! Mother-in-law thinks I'm a fool!

Me & Jack

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Since I last posted, this breeder sent a replacement bird free of shipping charges. Since the S & H was no charge the breeder suggested we take advantage of that and buy another bird if we wanted to. We thought that would be a nice idea, especially since we felt bad that the breeder was going to be losing so much money. In fact, we offered, and did, pay half the shipping in the end since we were actually buying an additional bird. Fast forward: the replacement bird had normal toes. Unbelieveably, the new bird we bought had the exact same problem with the double-fused toe!! We are mystified that this happened twice...that the breeder would send another bird with the same problem. Who would dare let that happen after having already made the mistake once? Especially since this was supposed to be the "fix" to the problem!!

The breeder suggested we send back both birds, or at least the second bird (wants to use the bird for breeding since it supposedly carries the Lavender gene!!!!!) and then we would be reimbursed for the price of the bird, the half shipping, and the cost to ship back to the breeder. This would total $128 out of our pocket up front, with no guarantee that the breeder would actually refund the money (though we have no indication that wouldn't happen). Not to mention, it's in the 90's and humid on our end AND on the breeder's. Then there's the fact that they'd have to go through the stress of shipping within a two week period.

Needless to say we're chalking this up to a learning experience and have completely lost faith in this breeder's competency or sincerity (or both). We will keep the birds as pets; we don't want to breed them and might not be able to show them, but we care about them enough to not want to send them back under the conditions mentioned above.

Beware of anyone who sells "show quality" birds that have never been shown!! We've learned the hard way.

Now to find a good breeder of good quality birds!!

I'm posting pics of the original boy with the double toe, as well as the new girl's toe.

PS...in my original posts I didn't want to identify the breeder out of fairness to them, so I claimed the birds were not silkies. However, you may note in the photos that they appear to be silkies, indeed. Draw your own conclusions.

The original boy with the toe issue:
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The second girl the breeder sent along with the replacement bird for the first bird!!
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Original Post:

Hi all,

My mother-in-law informed me today that I'm a fool (not the first time, actually!!). She thinks a breeder (who shall remain nameless) is taking me and DH for a "ride".

We recently purchased two 4-month old birds from a breeder who seems to have a lot of experience in breeding and showing. We requested show quality birds and were super excited when the birds arrived. However, in the box there was one small glob of bloody stool.

I mentioned it in my email to the breeder to let them know the birds had arrived and how beautiful we thought they were. Without saying a word, the breeder went ahead and ordered meds for us to treat cocci and vitamins for the birds, paying out of their own pocket. (The cost was almost the amount we paid for one of the birds.) I was really impressed.

A few days later the breeder sent us some more info about the breeding background of the two birds. The breeder acknowledged that both birds were younger than originally thought - one was 3.5 months, the other was 3 months-to-the-day it was shipped to us. We'd paid a higher price for 4-month-old birds than the listed price for 3-month-old birds that the breeder carries. There was no mention of reimbursing us for the difference in cost, though I only would have expected it for the youngest bird.

Another couple of days later we were handling the birds when we noticed that one had a toe deformity - an extra toe nail from what was two toes completely fused together. We hadn't noticed it before because it surely wasn't obvious to us, but I took some pics and emailed the breeder to ask about it and check if it was a DQ for shows.

The breeder wasn't sure if it was a DQ either, but offered to send a new bird to replace it, w/o any additional costs to us.

My mother-in-law thinks we've been had. She thinks the breeder should have known whether or not an extra toe/toe nail is a DQ, and she thinks we were definitely NOT sent SQ birds if one had an extra toe.

I like this breeder and can't imagine someone with a good reputaion doing something like that on purpose. I even insisted I wouldn't hesitate to buy from this breeder again. But my mother-in-law says that's too many mistakes to make: shipping sick birds, overcharging and sending younger birds than what were paid for, and sending a SQ bird with a toe deformity, making it no longer SQ.

It's one thing if my mother-in-law tells me I'm an idiot. It's another thing if I end up agreeing with her!! Am I right or is my mother-in-law correct? (I'll never tell her one way or the other, no matter how many people think she's right! LOL!!)

Thanks for any input.
 
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Just thank your mil profusely for her opinion and do what you were going to do anyway. My mil never thought I was a fool. She just thought I was nuts.
 
I wouldn't listen to your mil, at least not this time. I would be more than happy to purchase from your breeder, and to keep purchasing from them.

It sounds like this person is up front and honest. If they were not up front and honest, they would not have bought you meds for the birds, they would not have offered to send you a replacement bird, and they probably wouldn't be coresponding with you over this situation. It sounds like you got a good deal, even with you paying extra for younger birds.

All in all, if it was me in your shoes, I wouldn't have a problem with this situation. I would tell my mil; "Thank you for your oppinion, but it is exactly that, YOUR opinion."
And unless she was the one that paid for the birds, then her vote shouldn't count.
 
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The breeder did offer a replacement and it's possible that he didn't notice the deformed toe. I would just take the replacement and if you don't feel like he is honest don't order from him again.

I do think he should have mentioned that the chicks were sick when he sent them, since it appears that he may have been aware of this. It was nice of him to send the medication that you needed, though.

Maybe the less you tell your mother-in-law, the better.
 
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I used to have a mother-in-law that knew everything. Probably explains why here daughter was the same way. I'm surprized that I can do anything without them telling me what to do and when to do it.
 
Okay, I feel better already. The bottom line is that this breeder has probably ended up losing money through all of this. And since I was the only one having any direct contact I felt I was in a better position to judge the breeder's integrity.

But there sure seem to be a lot of other people out there who'll willingly send you the least for the most.

Now, if I could only work up the courage to tell my MIL to butt-out life would be a lot easier! But, honestly, she scares the h&ll out of me!!

Thanks all. I appreciate your wisdom!!
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For what you have said, first of all an experienced breeder will recognized since day first which chicks a SQ and which aren't because of any little defect or anormality. He/she sent you a cull bird.
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Second, I believe the "breeder" knew the disease problem he/she had in hand because sent you medication without saying a word.
Third some people call themselves breeders when they are just raising and reproducing poultry. A breeder has a plan to perfect the breed or breeds he/she is working on and cull a lot to get the SQ birds.
My perception if this person thought it was going to get away in sending you a inferior quality bird. This so call breeder now has to make it up because it was discovered and is afraid of bad publicity.
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