Upset, worried, angry, couldn't sleep because of this poor kid

ok so my nephew is a major BUTT. He sucks as a step parent to say the least. Anyway they do not have custody of his wifes little boy. He is such a sad kid too. The mom had custody but she moved away from michigan so the court awarded custody to the father since he was staying in michigan and he was getting out of jail. So the first time I meet this kid I am thinking that my nephew is so grouchy with him and spoke so sharpy; Well I would not have tolerated it. Its not beating or hitting but still tone of voice and how you speak I think can be abusive. The kid went on and on about how much nicer my nephew was than his dad. So my first thought is geez you poor thing you have a pretty crappy dad if thats the case. Such a quiet, scrawny, sad kid. You look at him and know he is never happy. Anywho so they send him back to michigan as soon as the father got out of jail and 2 weeks later he is back down here. His dad got drunk, went nuts, beat up his girlfriend and the boy. Emergency protective and custody order. We chewed out the nephew and made lots of threats and he behaved with the kid. A month later dad gets out of jail and judge sends the kid back and he wants the mom who doesn't work and has never had a job other than care for the boy to pay child support. My nephew works so he is her only income and he refuses. He told her she would just have to lose contact with him because he is not letting the boy and his father ruin his life and he says that in front of the kid. He said such ugly stuff. I hit him hard, sent the kiddie of to say bye to everyone, and then chewed my nephew out. I went home and I sat in the dark all night worried about that poor kid. He comes from his dad with bones sticking out all over his body, marks all over his back, and a haunted expression. But what does he have to come home to here. My nephew being a butt. His mom is this scared little thing too. I get mad at her for not defending him but she takes the same abuses and looks as scared as he does. And so I worry some more. and I get angrier, and there is not a dang thing I can do to help. I told my husband I would take the kid in an instant if I thought the judge would agree but the judge has already proven he is a moron. He knows abuse is going on. Had solid proof and ignored it. And I get even more mad.

I tell my husband all the time Its a good thing I'm not GOD. Free will would go out the window and killing lightening would be coming down like mad. So upset and fretting about this its driving me crazy.

 

They have been called before. Many times. It doesn't seem to result in anything. He goes in front of the judge and nada. After the dad got out of jail last time for assaulting the girlfriend and the boy he had to go in front of the judge and the only thing that happened is he gave him custody back and awarded child support. domestic abuse and child abuse= full custody and child support I guess. My nephew, the family is on but I can't help but feel that if he was kinder and less harsh maybe the kid would have a bit of hope. They only get him like once a month for 2 days. Thats 2 days he could look forward to but thats not how it is.

The judge told the mom it was because she moved out of state to move in with my nephew, not for a job or any real reason. So she was in effect only moving to deny the boys father access to him. He told her if she got a job in kentucky then he would award shared custody but my nephew will not "allow" her to work. Like I said he is being a major butt and she just takes it. sigh my husband would be a pretty miserable man if he tried to pull that one. Its just frustrating. I am going to go visit the kiddo today and take him some new shoes and have a chat. I called my brother and started crying like a stupid idiot. My brother already had words with his son over his attitude. Poor kid is caught in a tug of war.

The court and the system seem to feel everything is acceptable. No one even tries to call anymore because there is never anything done when they do call.