Upset, worried, angry, couldn't sleep because of this poor kid

[twentynine]

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Don't know about Michigan. But I do know for a FACT that a child can move with her mother from Georgia to Louisianna, no questions asked.

 

[M@M@2four]

Call social services IMMEDIATELY!!! Make the report and TELL the social worker you speak with that if this isn't seriously looked into, YOU are contacting the local news, the local newspaper, and anyone else who will listen and will bring it to light that they haven't done their JOB!!! Believe me, I was a teacher and had many abuse cases in my school--any time I EVER felt like a social worker wasn't doing their jobs, I threatened to take it to the news! It was AMAZING how fast and effective they were once that they heard that!!!

I'm not the kind of person to walk around making threats, but when it came to the well being and safety of a child and I was their only advocate, I didn't care how many threats I had to make as long as it helped that child!!! On another note, your nephew is being a total jerk--the rejection this poor child must feel is just heart breaking! I can't stand hearing parents scream and cuss at their children and say nasty things to them--it effects their self esteem and tears them down mentally and emotionally! The long-term effects are horrible!! If you are truly considering taking in this child or even fostering or just helping him get out of this situation, fight it! You'd be amazed at what can be done if you just strap down and fight! Good luck and REMEMBER--at this point, YOU are this child's only advocate!! FIGHT!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Mattemma]

Does the child have a court appointed guardian? Not sure if that would help. In some cases I think refusing to return a child to an abusive setting is the right thing though you will face legal ramifications.But really what good is it to say "I told you so" when the child is beat and/or killed? You would think that the murder of children by family over and over would spur the court system and CPS to act more aggresively,but then these are only people as well.People with faults who got into positions that will determine life or death.Some do not do a good job and will eventually be fired,but it may take the death of a few(or many) children.SAD

The child deserves a lawyer to protect him,and SOMEONE to stand up and say they will take him in and love him.Hope things work out for the little guy.

I agree to air the dirty laundry.People who face losing their cushy jobs might actually start DOING their jobs.In the meantime get this boy some legal rights through representation.If you are serious about taking him in take the steps to make it happen.You won't regret helping this little one.

Best wishes!!!!!!

 

[SillyChicken]

This wouldn't happen to be in Wayne county would it?
I'm in MI and agree the system stinks here. Generally, they cater to the women though. There are things she could do to fight it....... she needs to grow a set and fight for her child.

And I do have to add, why should he pay for that guys child? I wouldn't pay any of my pay check toward my DH's daughter unless I wanted to buy her a gift etc... otherwise everything came from his paycheck (it's his responsibility). Now when she lived with us, that was different.

 

[Michele_Lynd]

When I married My husband the (HIS)girls were apart of that. I know what it is like to be an unwanted step kid and my(his) girls were not going to be that way they are mine as much as his its called love there are no steps in our house but the ones to the door I know in some casses the kids make it hard my girls did at first becouse they wanted there dad and mom back togeatther and I understood that ,they were kids for goodness sakes of corse they would want that, it was not personal, I just keep telling them I love them ,I love their dad and my kids with him and I have been told by outside people that they wished other step parents were like me in that respect becouse the words ur kid did this or that hurt and makes them feel unwanted I know first hand how that is. To me familiy is not just by blood its by LOVE , so sorry this little guys having a bad time I 'll pray that something good will happen soon Just my take two cents

 

[chicken_china_mom]

My heart is breaking for that little boy. I just feel absolutely terrible for him! And I am quite upset with your nephew. What kind of person is he normally? I can't imagine that his father would have raised him to be so cold and cruel, not if he himself has given him an earful for his behavior. Your nephew disgusts me.

I'm not sure if anyone else picked up on this or not, but it sounds to me like your nephew doesn't want the child in his life, period. To tell his wife to cut ties with the child? That is perhaps the most cruel form of rejection that I've ever heard of! How can you ask a mother to do that? I just can't fathom it! As a mother, you could not tear me away from my children. Ever. Period. You'd have to kill me first. I also get this impression from the fact that he won't let her work. Why not? To me it sounds like it's because he wants the child out of his life permanently. Is he REALLY that cruel, knowing the little boy is suffering at the hands of his father? It's insane! So clearly I see that she has been severely emotionally abused, and it sounds like the abuse is being perpetuated in her new marriage to her nephew. I'm sorry, but when you marry someone with children, you marry the children too, you do NOT ignore abuse them. I implore you to intervene in some way. I like the advice about contacting the news if the social workers don't want to do anything. Get a lawyer and have a consult, figure out what actions you can take, and then please, take them!!! Please let us know what you decide to do. I am very worried for this little boy now, and I will be keeping him in my prayers. Your story brings tears to my eyes, no child should ever suffer like that, especially at the hands of their own parents!!! How alone that baby boy must feel. I have to go get kleenex now...