1. SterlingAcres

    SterlingAcres Songster

    Apr 17, 2008
    Poconos, PA
    I just got into an argument today (well, not really an argument, maybe a strong disagreement) with the inlaws that lived with us. BIL quit his real job to work 'construction' (which is his fancy word for unemployeed, like the last 4 years) as soon as they moved into that new place. SIL's collecting unemployment, gets $550 in foodstamps a month and gets medical assistance for all of them. Her father is also living there, so he has unemployment and disability since he weighs 700lbs easy. I don't even know how he walks to be honest.

    Right. So we asked BIL to walk 4 blocks from his house to check the times on the tire shop since we needed to have snow tires put on (the owners a bus driver, so he leaves for an hour here or there during the day for school routes, then comes back). He couldn't be bothered because he was tired and went back to bed at 1pm. [​IMG] These are the morons we do ANYTHING for btw. Feed their kids, give them a place to stay, give them money when they need it... but gahhhhh if you need something in return, forget it.

    I said to SIL at the end of the disagreement, "How the **** don't you get disgusted with him that he has absolutely no desire to work or support his family? He sleeps ALL day and it's not even because he cleaned or cooked or watched your kids, since we all know he can't be bothered with anything but his xbox." She says "well we don't live in the 50s anymore, that's closed minded. I pay all our bills." ...

    Ummm no. The govt does, you haven't had a job in over a year sweetie. And BIL has no intentions of finding another job, nor does she. I think it's ridiculous they live off the system because they're so f***ing lazy. Instead of either of them getting a job, they applied for foodstamps and whine that $550 can't feed them for TWO WEEKS?! It makes my skin crawl. [​IMG] UGH! There are people who REALLY need it out there!! Not these %@$#@! I feel so bad for their children and I think it's sad that BIL is almost 30 and his baby brother has to bail him out of everything. Including things for his own darn children....

    Btw, I did apologize to SIL after this disagreement. I said, "It was rude of me, I'm sorry. Forget I said anything. I'm only expressing my opinion."
    She replied, "Yeah, it's cool. It's not like we take your guys' advice anyways."


    No wonder you can't keep a house, car or cell phone for longer than 3 months then.... [​IMG]
    Last edited: Dec 16, 2008
  2. Dar

    Dar Crowing

    Jul 31, 2008
    O my...I so feel for you and share your fustration..

    this is why i have hade a new "rule" no friends of family will EVER live with us again

    My SIL was living with us and when dh and i wanted to go ut for dinner on my birthday she actually expected us to pay her for babysitting...with the excuse of she was unemployed ya know she has to earn money when she can
  3. Mahonri

    Mahonri Urban Desert Chicken Enthusiast Premium Member

    May 14, 2008
    North Phoenix
    My Coop
    Wow... you have the patience of Job.

    Time to sit down and have a talk with hubby about the freeloaders going somewhere else.

    Now if they were willing to help out, OR if they were ACTIVELY looking for employment, it would be an entirely different matter.

    That's the problem with Government Assistance, it makes a bunch of lazy people, even more lazy!

    Hubby needs to talk turkey to the free loading brother and he also needs to be told what his wife said to you. That is just simple ingratitude. And we all know God has a problem with ingrates. (Where are the other 9?)
  4. joebryant

    joebryant Crowing

    Hellllllllllllllloooooooooooooooo, who's the d***a** here, you or them? Anyone who puts up with or even claims relatives and/or "friends" like that deserves all that happens to them. Get 'em OUT of your life PERMANENTLY or stop complaining about them. Doesn't your house have a door that you can throw them out of.
    Last edited: Dec 16, 2008
  5. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

    May 19, 2008
    Western MA
    um..i may be mistaken..but..they are not living with her anymore...i think..anyways..
  6. SterlingAcres

    SterlingAcres Songster

    Apr 17, 2008
    Poconos, PA
    Quote:Ouch dude.

    They aren't living here anymore (turns out my house had several doors they could be thrown out of, go figure). I'm just frustrated that they have no intentions of bettering themselves, have no problem milking welfare when they don't need it and they are 'raising' our nieces.
    Last edited: Dec 16, 2008
  7. joebryant

    joebryant Crowing

    Quote:Live with or come to visit... What's the difference. GET RID OF THEM! To argue with them is showing approval. There's nothing to argue about.
  8. pirtykitty

    pirtykitty Songster

    Dec 8, 2008
    Waco, Texas
    not meaning to be nosey but hubby is currently putting his son ( my stepson) to work on our house doing thing that he can't because of his shoulders... painting our kitchen. son has a job in Austin but because of holidays work is slow.. christopher comes down for a few days works hubby pays him fair wage. then son goes back to austin for few days to check on work and comes back here to work some for hubby.. Hubby is making him earn $$$$ instead of giving it to him...
    There has to be some way to get them to help ya'll since ya'll are helping them..
  9. Wifezilla

    Wifezilla Positively Ducky

    Oct 2, 2008
    My 20 year-old son is currently living with us while he is getting ready to go in to the army. Since he is paying no rent, we are working him so hard, his future 1st Sgt is going to look like a pussy cat. I told him he could live with us until he got in (going to Denver to swear in tomorrow), but he was going to be our "House Elf" [​IMG]

    As for your relatives. They suck. You already knew that. You still need to be polite, just don't do anything to enable them.
  10. Sissy

    Sissy Songster

    Jul 18, 2007
    Sevier county, Tn.
    Sterling Acres,
    Just stop helping.
    Or they will be the stone around your neck forever.

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