Wait... YOU are giving ME the silent treatment?!?!

[crtrlovr]

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Ahh...you missed my Dumesnil Family reunion Sunday...we ate until we were sick. Etoufee and the works. My Grandmere would have been proud of us.

Jenn, I've been married 22 years, and he still mysteriously goes sulky on me. I figure because he's either PMSing with me or it's because his drawers are on wrong that day. We're at that point in our marriage where I can tell him that whatever his problem is, he needs to get over it, because he's not allowed to take it out on me. I'm WAY over dealing with the hissy fits!

(For the record, Chris means: seasoning = Tony Chachere's or Tabasco Sauce. No decent Cajun wouldn't have these in the house!)

That's right: none of that wussy pretend/fake hot sauce like Frank's or some other pretender... Has to be Tabasco! Hubby is Cajun, too.

 

[MicMoo]

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Lucky for me, I live pretty close!

However, I'm also already married...

Like you, I normally do most of the cooking in our family and have to say that EVERYTHING on your upcoming menu looks yummy! We'll make you a deal, you cook dinner and we'll bring the wine!

 

[maplesky7]

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Touche' !!!

what? you got sausage!?

me,
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[La Banan]

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In this house, you would be out the door

(I am hoping you are being sarcastic! Dry sense of humor maybe?)

My husband and I work together to meet eachother's needs. We do everything together.

Hey - think littlechickenracingteam was fooling - the winking face was a clue and the great deadplan delivery.

As to the original post - I'm a family therapist - don't let your partner give you the silent treatment - it is very destructive, aggresive and bad for all of you including any children who might be around. The silent treatment is at the basis of some of the most painful treatments of humans around - solitary confinement, torture of humans by depriving of them of the physical and emotional need of other is not OK. Having said that you don't need to torture him back or use any likewise passive treatments - you need to talk to him and keep talking to him until he relents.

lots of love to you and rings and marriage are not the answer - communication is.
jan la banan

 

[eggzettera]

Sorry, i am actually very prone to this behavior.

This is what I do now.

After experiencing a very stressful day I stop & buy their (who ever I about to effect) favorite snack/chocolate bar - this is my signal - don't talk to me don't look @ me I am upset with me & will probably take it out on you if you don't leave me the heck alone until I figure out what I did wrong.

After half an hour or so all is right in the world & things can go back to normal.

I don't call it the silent treatment - I call it "I am trying not to say something I regret exercise". We do tend to take out our problems on loved ones in a very cruel manner when we are upset with the world @ large - could this explain his behavior? You should be able to tell by body language. My mother does the silent treatment, my father does the "exercise". Their body language makes the world of difference - dad had a long worried type face my mother however would have a haughty demeanor.....