WARNING ...Ranty

[Katy]

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Totally agree.

I realize people like to come here rant here to a bunch of strangers (which I'll never quite understand), but he's the one who needs to hear it.

I think people rant online because you can just let it fly free in the wind without the worry of people close to you always holding it over your head.



I would tell your DH there needs to be changes and yall need to sit down and decide them together. The best thing I have done is ask him if he is truely happy and if there was anything he could change what would it be, then share yours. Once that was done we decided together how we can meet in the middle

The problem with ranting in cyberspace....it's out there forever once you hit the enter button.....you can't ever take it back and there's no guarentee that he or someone he knows won't see it.....I don't think them seeing how they're being talked about to people they don't even know probably would ever help the situation.

 

[agnes_day]

oh god yes, is that ever true...6 years ago, i found this supposedly anonymous rant page thingie and i wrote out a huge long thing about my husband and his best friend, in full lurid details and last year, this best friend had a girlfriend who googled his name and it came right up! so embarrassing.

 

[SarahFair]

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Sorry.. Im not laughing at you, Im laughing at the fact that I fear this as well.
Oh well if it happens! I try not using names or making up different ones

 

[agnes_day]

oh no, it is funny!

 

[debilorrah]

I think if you go into the rant knowing it is out there for God and everyone to see, then you are fine. Personally, I don't say things here that I haven't said to them already - namely the kids.

 

[Germaine_11.20]

Hate to tell you this, but it rarely gets BETTER. Decide if you can live like that for the next 50 years....

 

[redhen]

I know you dont want to hear this..but ..
You're being a doormat... you are ALLOWING him to treat you this way.... you are laying down for him to wipe his dirty feet on... sorry.
You either have to stand up for yourself and NOT tolerate it one minute longer... not ONE minute longer...
Or.... you can lay down and keep being a doormat.... only YOU have the choice.... NOT him... YOU.
See, heres the thing.. YOu CANT change people.... You cant MAKE them treat you right. If he is going to change and treat you right it HAS to come from him...
The ONLY thing that you CAN control is, how you allow people to treat you.
I'd sit down and tell him EXACTLY how i feel..and EXACTLY what your going to do about it if he continues to treat you like dirt. And you HAVE to MEAN what you say...
otherwise please dont bother saying anything.... you'll just look very very foolish if you dont follow through with what you tell him.
Good luck, and remember, its YOUR choice how you are treated...

 

[annie3001]

.........idear...........



show him this "rant"



.........it will be over, you know what you want to do, you dont need us to clarify it for you. Anyone who LOVES their partner/spouse should not feel this way. you need to let him know plain and simply!

good luck

 

[Toast n Jelly]

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I so love your responses

 

[sourland]

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. It isn't always 50/50, but in the end things should even out. It is work, but for me well worth it. I know I am a lucky man. My wife is the one person who constantly has my back, and I treat her the same. You deserve nothing less than this. If he doesn't want you disciplining "his" child (what a stupid thing to say) than he should do the job. Stand up for yourself, state your needs and keep the lines of communication open. Life is too short to be spent in unhappy situations. I do believe that people can change, but they have to want to change. Things can be worked out, but both participants must be willing. Good Luck!